I wanted to make a place for honest conversation and anecdotes about the affects of TRT on your personal relationships. Spouse, significant other, kids… Good and the bad! I am less then a week into TRT so I don’t have much yet…
TRT affects everyone differently, especially if you have other undiagnosed hormonal problems your doctor passes off as normal when in fact normal it is not. When TRT was working and had no mineral deficiencies, my family notice a calmer, more mature son/brother whose personality changed dramatically to where I would catch a conversation about it around the corner.
A week is nothing, forgive me but I believe in being honest and upfront, but your natural production is not shutdown yet, I expect you may start feeling good in about 1-2 weeks and then it may come crashing down as you are shut down needing a further 1-2 more weeks until you start feeling good.
I always plan for the worst so it doesn’t come as a surprise then setting myself up and if things go well then more icing on the cake for me.
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@systemlord. I totally agree. My own journey has just started and has no baseline or affects right now except for slightly elevated mood and a touch more energy. I found that there is a serious lack of information on the web for the impact of TRT on the ones around us and am very interested to hear and see what is actually happening for guys out there with loved ones and family. It is something that really has me scratching my head. I mean life with low T is a nightmare for me and many others from what I am learning but I never see much info on the impact of the family and loved ones. I have a feeling that a lot of people here might benefit and want to read these as well.
Thank you for your help on clarifying this and making it meaningful and interesting.
Saved my marriage, made me a better dad, made me a better engineer. Also improved every other aspect of my life that was negatively effected by my systems being off which was a lot.
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Wife appreciates that I’m not anxious all the time and she has a few much happier mornings each week…
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Does vaginal soreness count as good or bad?
Edit: I’m partially kidding. But not entirely.
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My libido is way above my wife’s. Sexual frequency (or the lack thereof) has always been a battle.
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@NH_Watts Would you be willing to specify specific problems with the marriage that it addressed and what was happening in your mind when you encountered those same cycles of problems that improved and how? How did your spouse respond? Thoughts she had on it?
@rwr410 Was your anxiety minor or a major stumbling block?
@ncsugrad2002. I wouldn’t drop that in the bad category unless it was preventing regular oil changes. ; )
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It was pretty rough at times. I would get awkward/paranoid with her and not realize I was doing it. That’s pretty few and far between now.
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@studhammer. I have actually read this a few times online and it seems to have three outcomes. Extreme marital dissatisfaction which sometimes turns to divorce, more time time in the shower, or the wife notices the changes and goes to get her levels checked and becomes better as well. I prefer an optimistic approach and am pulling for you two! Hopefully that is the only downside?
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@rwr410. I can definitely identify with that one. Anxiety is pretty common it seems… Waking to a panic attack is a pretty bad way to start a day. Very taxing on the loved ones when you feel like your smuggling drugs in an airport full of K-9 units…
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Well, as my body changed it seemed to get more attention from other women which the wife did not like. It also made fat loss and recomp easier for me but not for her which affect body image.
She is thinking about going thru Defy Medical but hasnt done it yet.
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@studhammer. That is awesome! I am so glad that your in the third category! Before my life went to hell, my wife had those same thoughts and insecurities… Bad jealousy and mistrust…after two kids and low T and long hours…well…I think she liked me fat and was more secure but the other physical and psychological baggage that came with made her throw in the towel…would rather deal with her insecure then miserable because of me right?
My girlfriend doesn’t know. My ex wife did.
I think if gf finds my gear, i’ll just tell her I didn’t want to tell her as she’s somewhat a big mouth.
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@roscoe88. Was this something that your ex wife had a problem with?
No. I just basically came home and told her Dr. discovered low T and I was going to try Axiron.
We never really talked about it. I don’t seem to feel much from TRT at all. Actually, I’d say my libido was better prior to starting.
Seriously contemplating going off for good.
@roscoe88. That’s very interesting… I take it your numbers are all good but you just don’t feel the need for TRT then? Edit… what I should probably ask is I take it your SYMPTOMS are all good but you just don’t feel the need for TRT?
Not my business, but you should seek another opinion on your treatment before jumping off. Theoretically, you should feel a lot better in most aspects of your life. Before TRT, my life was shit. Tired all the time, couldn’t lose weight, wasn’t interested in anything, couldnt sleep, etc.
While on Dr prescribed TRT, it fluctuated over the years due to moving around and having different docs. It wasn’t until I took over my own treatment, that I felt freaking awesome!
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