I started lifting for girls, actually. And there’s no shame in it if that ever becomes a driving factor.
When I was 18 (and weighing 125 lbs at 5’11), I started lifting weights. Arnold was my idol. I wanted to know what it felt like to be big like him, and I wanted girls to be more attracted to me (as they clearly were to Arnold). Girls did notice. Even when I hadn’t put on much muscle at all (I went from like 125 to 150 or so), I got positive comments on my arms and stuff. It was one of the things that kept me motivated at the time.
Having muscles helps with girls in 2 ways. 1 is that you’re simply more attractive. When you put on enough muscle and get lean enough, even your face changes, generally in a positive way. 2 is that it’s much easier to be confident when you are more muscular and regularly getting praised for it.
it helps when fuckin’ - not only are you in better cardiovascular shape, but you always have more power and core control. You can really move her around with ease - chicks dig guys who can make them feel dainty…
“If you take yourself too seriously, nobody else will” @iamawesomedev
Mad agreed. I didn’t start lifting for girls. I started lifting to be stronger for martial arts, but I still knew that it would benefit me with women. Looking back, life woulda been better if I focused more on lifting than martial arts.
@iamawesomedev I think you’re being disingenuous with yourself by claiming that lifting has nothing to do with this girl. If you were bigger, stronger, better at basketball, etc, she would have clearly noticed by now. Just out of curiosity, are you based in the US/Canada or overseas?
I do apologize for the wall of text, but I believe it’s very fitting for the OP, especially the comic.
If you’ve ever been in “the friend zone,” remember that you weren’t put there by anyone but yourself, and for evidence you need look no further than the episode of Friends that popularized the term (according to Wikipedia).
Ross wants to sleep with Rachel, and Rachel doesn’t know, and Ross is trying to work up the courage to tell her, and Friends lasted 10 seasons on that joke. You might be thinking that Rachel is a bitch for forcing Ross into that situation by not just sleeping with him, if you’re the kind of sociopath who thinks that women are responsible for every problem that befalls a man. The real problem there is that Ross doesn’t respect himself enough to act on his feelings and doesn’t respect Rachel enough to be honest. He’s kind of a dick, because secretly wanting to fuck someone but not telling anyone because you want to manipulate them into fucking you without being honest about your intentions means that you’re kind of a dick.
Friendship and romance are different. You can’t trade one for the other. If you’re in love with one of your friends, then you’ve already ruined the friendship through the simple involuntary act of wanting to fuck them. If you wanna wait it out and try to be friends again, do that. If you wanna act on it, do that. If you wanna sit on the sidelines and try to puppeteer a person into sleeping with you without letting them know that’s what you’re trying to do, then you’re only technically not a rapist.
A fun trick is to write the name Ross on a bit of paper. Then ask a bunch of people to think of Friends (do a quick recap of each character for ball tickling purposes) then ask each of them to write down on a piece of paper the friend they would least want to be.
You then ask each to reveal their Friend. They will all write down Ross without fail. You then reveal your bit of paper and if you are awesome have this music play just as you show the name:
Just have to want it really, really bad, and be willing to be brutally honest with yourself. I could have easily turned out as one of those hopeless fucks who blames the world for his shortcomings with women and other people in general, but I didn’t want that life, and I made sure I didn’t have to live it. That meant admitting that my personality sucked, and I was uninteresting in conversation. I didn’t have anything to add to a woman’s life. If you can’t make a woman laugh, if you’re physically unattractive, if you’re boring, etc, why the hell would a pretty girl pick you? Because you’re nice? That’s pretty silly, but it’s what a whole lot of idiots, the white knights and the incels (assuming, I haven’t actually read about them) believe. That being a nice dude (and in reality they aren’t even that, which is pretty fucking pathetic) is sufficient value to add to someone else’s life to be kept around. I also had to admit to myself that I should never, ever dance in public. lolz.
EDIT: Ohhhhh shit. right after I typed this post I went ahead and googled incel. This will be an all-afternoon consuming rabbit hole.
I started looking and I just can’t continue. There are various people IRL that the whole thing reminds me of, and they’re just too icky and weird to think about.
Edit: damnit! This is almost as creepy and psychologically slimy as blaha videos.
I only could get as far as when he claimed to have fragged his CO.
If true, he would not be making cheesy videos. He’d have been hung from his neck until dead.
I’d also like to note I never had a CO that came close to telling me to do anything shady. We had so many damn lawyers telling us the ROE that the only fight we would have is to figure out how to sob something right that is a bit shady and not end up in front of.the JAG. Our CO was not part of such discussions.
to be clear, since you take issue with ruffian’s assertions here (yes, we can actually all see the posts you deleted), I will point out that he said incel is your FUTURE. if you want to pretend that celibacy is your choice now, so be it. He’s just saying that, when you’re over 18, and you’ve decided you want to have sex, and you realize no one will have sex with you, that’s going to be the way you rationalize it, the way the incel community does. You will not be able to figure out that your shitty personality is the reason.
