[quote]Professor X wrote:
jsbrook wrote:
You are right. Money and status are potent things and no one can deny they are important. But they are not the ONLY things that matter to girls that are WORTH dating. There are other important things too. It’s also a complicated thing.
Short of inheriting a lot of money and being born wealthy most guys who are succesful and prestigious have confidence, charisma, are smart, interesting. The same is true for women who achieve success in their own right and aren’t wealthy just because of being a hot piece of ass and marrying well.
The dude that is unemployed and still lives with his parents is quite simply a loser. It’s not an accident that this is where he is in life. Women are attracted to the traits that lead to status and money. Pretty fairly. And it’s natural to also want to be with someone where you’ll be comfortable and not struggling to make ends meet.
OF COURSE, there are girls that overtly and consciously decide they want the $5mil house and to be loaded. Such people have made status and wealth their ONLY priority.
I agree with this and I think we have already come to the conclusion that julia isn’t the norm (at least as far as what she SAYS she likes). We have had girls on this site recently mention that they actually judge a guy by the shoes he wears because their mom told them so.
Most women, as in the ones I have come across, go for some sort of status above all else whether that be a guy’s perceived ability to get girls, the money he makes, or his position. Most are not simply looking for some guy who is “psychologically there”. In fact, it seems that the more “psychologically distant” you are, the better your chances are.
As far as how high someone’s voice is, Zap mentioned it may effect getting hired. I could see that happening if the person’s physical presence matched the voice. Otherwise, I don’t think it has all that much effect. I actually try to speak “softer” in some social situations (like meeting a patient for the first time) simply because I don’t want to make them uneasy. If I speak in my deeper range, I have had people act like they get nervous.[/quote]
Heres how I think:
In the end, when your dying, what would you think of more?
The power or wealth a person gave you, or the love and closeness? If it is what is to be the result, it is all that matters in the beginning to become true.
I do not expect to depend on someone else to make who I am, my personal identity, or to help me live whatever life I want-I make myself what I want to be, not someone else.
Im not a rare breed, I think that i think and id think other people think as well, regardless of what the “norms” are or other thoughts. You cares? You are who you are. So dont give me the:
“oh, well she is just Saying, they are just hollow words because she has boobies, and Ive seen how those booby people are, they just say one thing and do the other”
I guess I could not be a norm in that area, though Id think there are girls that dont bullshit out there, you and I just havent met any. My mom had borderline personality disorder among other things, she lied about her entire life to me-and most girls have been bitches to me yet my “friends” (?)
That doesnt mean I think all women are going to be that way. Everybody has differences, you cant just mark them down because of them being boobified…or fartified…or whatever -fied. I mean, its natural to be prejudiced about things but its also natural to think about how/those you judge too.