Believe it or not I actually agree with most of your post. If his girl decided to have the baby knowing that he wants to sign his rights away then she is on her own. You are correct, I’m 33, I’m not that “old”! Yes 21 is a big age difference and I had a full time at the age of 18. My wife had to drop out of college to have our son. You are right women ARE just as resonsible for getting pregnant and for the most part get a “free ride” when it comes to blame, and that is not right. She should be on the pill or also carry condoms with her, that is where the parents come into the picture, they should educate their kids on these matters but all too often they don’t do it! Kids do make mistakes, I was taught about sex ed by my parents when I was around 16 but at 21 I still was thinking about getting ol Willy wet, rubber or no rubber. As far as ditching her if she was pregnant I should have clarified that guys don’t have to stay with the girl because she is pregnant rather they should support the child if it is agreed he wants to take part in that child’s life. As far as abotion goes, I don’t want to get into that debate it’s nothing but trouble, as I said before I think it has a time and a place!
The problem with parents “Educating” their children, is all they “Educate” them with is a simple sentence that goes something like this. “Don’t do it!” They should face the facts and realize that one way or another the kid is going to engage in sexual activity, and rather than feed them the “just don’t do it” line, they hsould educate them on how to do it safely. Maybe even provide them with protection just incase the situation arrises.
I’d tell my children not to do it until they’re married. I also would not give them contraception to encourage them.
I agree with Defex on that post it is a parents responsibility to properly educate their children about sex not “just don’t do it”, if we as parents educate ours kids properly MAYBE our kids won’t be having kids. Mr. Tolerant you can go ahead and tell your kids not to have sex until they are married, it may work, but odds are they won’t listen to you so maybe should educate them about contraceptives, if your child came home pregnant at a young age how would you feel?
You people that were treating him like an asshole are ridiculous. Interesting how you would never say that to his face but on a public forum with a handle you will call him a dumbass and tell him he is a stupid kid. Anyways, defex, sounds like you have the situation under control. Use a condom you dumbass! Haha, just kidding about the dumbass thing bud. ~PorchDawg
dissapointed. Look, I’m not going to say one thing, but overide that with actions that would suggest otherwise. Meaning, I’m not going to tell her that the right thing to do is wait to marriage and then show her how to roll a condom onto a cucumber. I don’t see the logic. It is a principle for me that I won’t be lukewarm on, or how can I expect her not to be lukewarm. Carry the logic further and I could get her a dildo or a vibrator. That way I could say “Here princess, I know you’re going to have sex, you have no control, but this way you can’t get pregnant and it’ll scrath that itch for you.” But, I suppose we will all do what we believe is best. While I have to disagree with your opinion on that matter, on another note, way to go stepping up for your child. Until next week.
Try puttin it in her ass, she might like the ass cock! Use lube when doin it though, I hear it gets really rough for the girl! Oh yeah, you can just shoot it in her and you have nothing to worry about. Oh by the way, your chances of gettin your girl pregnant with the good 'ol “pull it out” contraceptive is about 89-95%. Don’t fret bro, but if shit does go down the wrong way, remember what I said about givin her the asscock
I think our young people are plenty educated in the contraceptive department. They get sex-ed in middle school (junior high), high school, on the media, in magazines, at home–everywhere! They all know they are supposed to use some kind of protection. The trouble is, young people are in denial most of the time that bad things will never happen to them. It’s always someone else who gets pregnant, dies in an accident, gets abducted, etc. etc. I agree that parents must take on the greater role in educating their children, but I don’t necessarily agree that they should provide contraceptives for their children. Discussion should be more than just “don’t do it” and it should start early and be continuous. It is only when you have good communication with your children (about everything) that you can ever hope to really get through to them. And in the long run, as parents, we can only hope that our role-modelling, our openess, and our standards have somehow rubbed off on our children. They need to understand that there are consequences to every action and that these consequences must be considered before any action is taken. But to say that “if you have sex you will become pregnant” is of little effect, because they don’t believe it’ll ever happen to them. What matters more to young teenagers is how their peers see them and what kind of reputation they have among their peers. If you want your kids to abstain until they are older, just tell them to listen to the trash talk in locker rooms, in hallways, and in the yards of their schools–and then ask them if they want to be talked about like that. Point out the individuals who have been “dumped” as soon as they have “given in”. If you have succeeded in raising a child with self-confidence and self-esteem, they will see that waiting is of benefit to them and their self-respect. As far as handing out contaceptives goes–they really don’t need parents for that. They can get these things easily at drugstores, at clinics, at school even. What they need from parents is real parenting–guidance and care that fosters confidence, trust and respect.
That’s why parents should teach daughters to just give up the ass until marriage. There are no sigle teenage mom’s raising ass sex babies.
Man…don’t even trip. Some of these people attacking you act like they never did it themselves. Every man that boned his girlfriend back in high school has done it. Just make sure you’re more careful from now on…you learn along the way. It’s part of growing up.
Update: She started her period! So… she’s not pregnant! Woohooo! And yeah I always have a condom with me now. Always! Thanks guys!(some of you anyway) -D
Dude, I been in the same situation. I know how scary it is, I barfed at least once a day till I knew things were cool. I’m glad things worked out. To rest of the ole tarts who forgot how it feels to be young and stupid…and know your stupid. SHUT UP. When someone realizes their mistake and is scared shittless you shouldn’t take it as your oppourtunity to rail on them.
PS. Careful climbing down from your soap boxes.