Chances are you’re fine man, just don’t do it again ya fuckin dink!
Risky business. I use to use the old pullout method in highschool. I don’t know why we are so dumb when we are young. I had sex with one of my girlfriends all the time and nothing ever happened. I got another one pregnant, but she lost it naturally. I got lucky. Right now I am sweating out another one, but we used protection. It was that little entrance that gets you warmed up that I am worrying about. But i don’t think that anything will come of it. As for this guy here, wrap it up next time. I would save my luck for Vegas, not the bedroom.
Seeing as how I’ll only be 17 in June, I doubt I’ll pick the “be a good daddy” path. I’m going to have her take something, damnit! Something! I will not be a teenage father! I have too many responsibilities as it is. 
I read this and it made me sick seeing as I am a father of four. What responsiblity? You live at home with mom and dad? You got a full time job? Too much school work? Too much peer pressure? Grow the fuck up. All I see is some immature asshole that wanted to stick his dick in a warm wet hole when he should have been studying for a math test. I can speak because I was in the situation you are in. Have you ever thought that it is HER descision if she wants to keep the baby or not? If she wants that baby and you do not then what the hell you gonna do? Run like every other prick out there that knocks up some teenage girl? Have you ever taken a look at the good side of it? A new life? What it would be like to have a child tell you that they love you? You are superman in their eyes, they look up to you. You are their life. Too bad yours won’t have one. I only pray the girl is more responsible than you and keeps it. I hope you screw your head on right, pull your head out of your ass and be a MAN about this. You made your bed now lie in it.
ru12nvme, and so many other people so quick to judge don’t know the whole story. And you judge me like you know me. Thanks for the “help.” Later.
There couldn’t be enough of “the whole story” to make up for what you’ve already said. Apparently you’re living up to your handle, and have a few mental “defex”. I hope for her she’s not pregnant. And as for you, you’re probably going to find yourself taking a long walk down a narrow aisle at the end of a shotgun some day.
“I’m going to have her take something, damnit! Something! I will not be a teenage father! I have too many responsibilities as it is.” If she doesn’t want to, she doesn’t have to. Sex has consequences. Grow up and fact facts. You may be a father, and she may be a mother. Next time keep your pants on.
“After the promp and you don’t have a scum bag, Suran wrap” it only takes one!
Face up to what? How you just shut the fuck up with your incredibly annoying “holyer than thou” attitude. I mean really. I type a few sentence and you all of the sudden know I’m an asshole who will soon kill himself? And I have no respect for my gf? And I’m just some kid who doesn’t care about anyone but myself? I mean that’s basically what I’m getting back. Most of you dumbfucks need to get a fucking life and stop judging mine. I don’t remember asking your fucking opinion on whether or not I’m a good person. Fuck off. Period. As for those who responded with some useful information and insight, thank you. I appreciate it. I have the situation undercontrol, she’s getting medication and hopefully staying on it. I won’t be as stupid as I have been(yes I know it was a stupid thing to do, so stop telling me) and I’ll probably be too scared to even do it with a condom next time. Hell, she’ll have to be on birth control and we’ll have to use a rubber. It’s the “anti pregnancy stack.” Later! -D
To Defex: Dude, the chances are low that she’s even able to concieve at any given time of the month, due to the fact that there is only a limited window of opportunity during her menstrual cycle in which she can get pregnant. Couple this with the fact that you didn’t cum inside her, and your odds of conception would seem to be very low.]
To Everyone Else: Hey, how’s the view from your soapboxes?
What’s wrong with premarrital sex folks? If it’s about the condom, hey, was the kid born with one on his Mikey? No. So, he did the natural thing. Why wait until he’s ready to be a husband and father? She could get an abortion, or if not, he could ditch her. You people make it sound like he has to have sex only when he’s ready to have a child. After all, other contraception could fail. Who cares if he talked bad about “having her take something” in order to dispose of the mass of useless garbage, the fetus. Our society has already determined that a mother can decide before that child shoots out her vagina that she can terminate. Why not the father? Or, if she does decide to have it, she can’t go after him for child support! That would be cool. Dude don’t feel bad. Life is too short to worry about consequences , gratification now.
Defex. I did not judge you. I will admit that I compared you to so many other young people out there that get themselves into a bad situation and do not want to deal with it in a responsible way. I will admit that I called you a bunch of names and I apologize. I was pissed off at the time, still no excuse. Is it easy having to raise a child? By no means it is, espescially at your age. I would expect that at your age you would want to have sex and alot of it. I have NO problem with that. I did that growing up. There are consequences to your actions whether or not you take precautions when you have sex. What most everyone here is trying to say is that you should face your responsibility even if you did not intend to get her pregnant. I am sure you are a pretty decent person and seemed overwhelmed by the possibility of her being pregnant and was looking for help. The truth is there is no help that anyone can give you, you have to help yourself through this. Here is some food for thought. You will not think about what happened this time around before you have sex the next time. You will still have sex and you will probably get away with it 09 times out of 10 but it is that one time that can make you a father. Rubbers break, girls lie and say they are on the pill, anything can happen. Just be prepared that unless you obstain from sex completely there is always the possiblility as remote as it might be that you could get her pregnant. You should not punish the innocent for the guilty parties misgivings. This is the growing up part. It is ironic, is it not, that you tell your parents to not treat you like a child because you want to be treated like an adult but then when adult things happen people say but I am just a kid. It cannot be both ways is all I am trying to say. Good luck my friend and I hope everything in your life works out for you.
First of all nobody said that there was anything wrong with premarital sex. Was he born with a condom on his Mikey, ever here of a drugstore, they do sell them there, if he plans on having sex he should carry one in his wallet, duh! Ditch her, yeah that’s real responsible, I can see you becoming a deadbeat dad but wait, no, you won’t because you’d make your girl get an abortion( you would probably do it yourself) afterall the fetus is just a mass of garbage. It’s too bad your parents didn’t think that way about you, I sure think your garbage. You are the lowest of the low. Ten million sperm and you had to survive,how sad!
Look man, this kid is young, scared, and obviously NOT ready to have a child. He asked for advice, not your holier-than-thou perspective. He made a major mistake. It could have even been a life altering one, but one he would have to live with nevertheless. He was thinking out loud(so to speak) with possible solutions and abortion happens to be one of them. Its still legal regardless of your personal opinion, you know? Would the guy had been a deadbeat dad…possibly, but can you see into the future. Didn’t think so. I don’t know you personally and I tend to generally agree with most of your opinions…you were wrong on this one. I know about deadbeat dads my girlfriend has two kids. One dad got killed before the baby born and the other takes “his son” only when its convenient for him. Doesn’t pay child support, lives at home with parents(30yrs old), and has no job so to speak. At least not one that the Gov. can garnish wages from. I am the one that buys formula and diapers(along w/his mother), but I love the little shit so I don’t mind. I am still young enough (22) to remember how I would have freaked too. Hell I think I would still freak, but whatever our decision (my girl & myself) or their decision(Defex & his girl)maybe what does your moral stance have to do with it. Do not judge lest ye be judged. Like you haven’t ever made bad decisions. If you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all. You contibuted absolutly nothing to the original post, besides your moral stand point and how you think this kid is such a shitbag. You never know what you’ll actually do in a situation until you’re in it. J
I think you need to read my last post and see who it was addressed to. It was MooCow to whom I was refering as a deadbeat dad! All I said about Defex was that he should have used a rubber and that if his girl is pregnant he would now be dependant upon the Machine that he told to go fuck! The last post was directed clearly at MooCow! And yes I can judge so to speak because I was only 21 and my wife 19 when we had our first child! I chose to be a MAN and accept my responsibility,not get rid of it because it is inconvienience in my life! If you want to play be prepared to pay,for every action their is a consequence and ignorance is no excuse. I’m not totally against abortion there is a time and a place for it. If people don’t want to accept responsibility for what they do then maybe they shouldn’t do it in the first place!
Cry me a fucking river princess.
“I can see you becoming a deadbeat dad but wait, no, you won’t because you’d make your girl get an abortion( you would probably do it yourself) afterall the fetus is just a mass of garbage.” Last time I checked it was illegal to FORCE someone to have an abortion. I’d just dump her if she didn’t have one. And, I would argue that if she had the baby, she can’t expect me to pay. Since she used her power of choice to have the baby without me agreeing. Why is this hard to deal with? The vast majorties of abortions are done for convenience already. Hey society has determined it to be tissue, get with the times. Are you Anti-abortion or something?
James next time you try to critize someone make sure you know what you are talking about! You need to read my last post to see who it was addressed to! Think before you speak! The only thing I said to Defex was a comment he made on another post to “Fuck the Machine(the U.S. Govt.)” It is ironic that if his girlfriend is pregnant that this would be the same govt he would need to support him and the baby! Also did you ever hear of a drugstore? He most certainly could have bought a rubber! Everyother thing that was said in my last post was for MooCow and the shitty advice he gave Defex. Only a pussy runs away from responsibility! If Defex wants to play then he has to pay. Every action has a consequence! If he is not ready to be a father then maybe he shouldn’t be having sex at his age! BTW Ive been in his shoes although, I was a few years older! I was 21 and my wife was 19 when we had our first child and I choose to accept my responsibilities not run from it or get rid of it! I do believe abortion has a time and a place but not because a person may have screwed up their lives by choosing to be irresponsible! Next time you post take the time to see whom I am speaking to!
super low odds.
Hey Moo Moo you want to be a scumbag, that’s fine with me! You are an upstanding citizen, Not!
You’re right man, you’re totally right,every action does have consequence. The thing is its not only his action and subsequent consequence, but hers as well. She knew what she was doing when she laid down and spread her legs. KNOWING KNOWING he was not wearing a condom. Why wasn’t she on birth control? Because Daddy’s little girl doesn’t do that. Not his little Angel. Why can’t parents wake up and accept reality for what it is. Why does it always got to fall back on the young man? In this “modern” society of ours where women have equal rights, shouldn’t they have equal responsibility as well. Why couldn’t she go to the store and buy a condom? What about the public health clinic? You get them free from there. Why because they are both young and people tend to make stupid decisions when they’re young. Pause for separate thought 'you know we’re arguing a hypothetical situation here. We don’t even know if the girl is pregnant’end of thought
Whos choice is it to keep the baby if she was pregnant? Not his. He could protest all he wants,but if she wants to keep it then thats it. Should he be stuck paying child support for the rest of his life because of a decision he had no part of(partially anyways)? No, if IF he is willing to sign away all legal rights why should he pay? Dumping her because she got pregnant…that’s not right either. If she knows that he will not be with her if she keeps it, then she needs to deal with the consequences of her actions. I can feel both sides I really can. I guess what I’m getting at is there are two sides of the fence and each situation is unique. What we are arguing is a general perception of youth today. Is our perception necessarily true in all cases, for either side? Not necessarily so, menagating circumstances do apply and every man/boy is different. Some believe in abortion in this case, where as some do not. That is a highly individual decision. Btw “I’ve been in his shoes, although I was a few years older” not quite. Maturity level wise 21 is a big difference from 17. Plus back when your wife and yourself had the first one (I’m assuming you guys are mid-thirties/early fourties from pervious posts. Correct me if wrong) you didn’t have to have a college degree to just pay the bills. You could get by on a regular blue-collar job. Now days in a lot of places you’ll be lucky to get a job even with a degree. Are there possible solutions? Yes, the military is the most obvious one to me. They give you a house, a paycheck, and you can go to night classes for college w/75% tution paid. Not the best choice, but we all have to make sacrifices. Now I’m getting a little off subject, but anyways. I would greatly enjoy your highly subjective opinion to this. J