OP,
The way to fix this issue is for you to go out and do more fucking deadlifts.
Regards,
2busy
/end thread
[quote]T3hPwnisher wrote:
You have to understand that the person that you view as “my girlfriend” is in fact another human being rather than a person that fulfills some portion of need you possess. This will mean that they will have their own past, thoughts, desires, hopes, dreams, philosophies, thoughts, etc etc. They continue existing even when you are not present.
Instead of focusing on the things occurring with/to “your girlfriend”, worry more about if you co-exist with this other human being.[/quote]
When did you start reading Gloria Steinem?
OP, this is an opportunity to become Alpha. Bring your A (for Alpha) game to the bedroom and slay that girl into a woman. Make her forget her own name and inoculate her from any other pleasure with your dick. Be the Bad in Hyperbad.
Giving a woman the tingly gangster lean pays off more than just that time. Before I got married I have a referral network I could “tap.”
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
Hello everyone. I just asked my girlfriend about her past. At first I thought knowing about her past will not bother me. After she told me that she has had sex before I was devastated . The thoughts of her having sex with her ex keeps bothering me all the time. We love each other very much and we see future with each other. But these thoughts makes me feel miserable. I just can’t take the pictures of her with another guy out of my head. I keep thinking about it all the time. What should I do guys please help me out, I feel helpless :([/quote]
Does she compare your penis to his all the time or something?
Does she say things like “Wow, you’re a lot smaller than Punjab!? I sure liked his putz better!”
No? Then stop it. You’re being stupid.
Yes? Then learn what she has to teach you and move on.
[quote]TheKraken wrote:
[quote]T3hPwnisher wrote:
You have to understand that the person that you view as “my girlfriend” is in fact another human being rather than a person that fulfills some portion of need you possess. This will mean that they will have their own past, thoughts, desires, hopes, dreams, philosophies, thoughts, etc etc. They continue existing even when you are not present.
Instead of focusing on the things occurring with/to “your girlfriend”, worry more about if you co-exist with this other human being.[/quote]
When did you start reading Gloria Steinem?
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I’m unfamiliar with that author. I was pulling more from Plato and Sartre on that one myself.
What are your favorite of her works though? I can add it to my reading list.
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
Hello everyone. I just asked my girlfriend about her past. At first I thought knowing about her past will not bother me. After she told me that she has had sex before I was devastated . The thoughts of her having sex with her ex keeps bothering me all the time. We love each other very much and we see future with each other. But these thoughts makes me feel miserable. I just can’t take the pictures of her with another guy out of my head. I keep thinking about it all the time. What should I do guys please help me out, I feel helpless :([/quote]
You don’t need to get rid of those feelings because they are the perfectly rational response. The reality is that all the evidence points to a significant decrease in the ability to pair bond for women who aren’t virgin’s when they are married or who’s husband is not their first sex partner.
Their is a reason why women were traditionally expected to be virgin’s before they were married. You are lucky India even has any potential for finding an adult virgin girl and hasn’t been corrupted by a see of irresponsible sluts and their cucked male defenders.
[quote]TooHuman wrote:
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
Hello everyone. I just asked my girlfriend about her past. At first I thought knowing about her past will not bother me. After she told me that she has had sex before I was devastated . The thoughts of her having sex with her ex keeps bothering me all the time. We love each other very much and we see future with each other. But these thoughts makes me feel miserable. I just can’t take the pictures of her with another guy out of my head. I keep thinking about it all the time. What should I do guys please help me out, I feel helpless :([/quote]
You don’t need to get rid of those feelings because they are the perfectly rational response. The reality is that all the evidence points to a significant decrease in the ability to pair bond for women who aren’t virgin’s when they are married or who’s husband is not their first sex partner.
Their is a reason why women were traditionally expected to be virgin’s before they were married. You are lucky India even has any potential for finding an adult virgin girl and hasn’t been corrupted by a see of irresponsible sluts and their cucked male defenders.[/quote]
Stop.
OP you could always try nuttin up. That’s what 1/2 of us on here did and she fucking loved it. Be man and get in that shit and taste our dicks. WTF, is the matter with people? And that’s coming from me…just like the semen in her butt.
You’re such an insecure beta that you are guaranteed to drive your “love” away from you. Probably only been dating for a few weeks. Stupid bitch. Hopefully, you’ll take these posts to heart and become a halfway decent person. You should probably try and start hanging around some actual men. Cause, your family sure didn’t teach you how to be one. Start taking a shit with the door open and talk about pussy. That should get you on the right path.
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
Hello everyone. I just asked my girlfriend about her past. At first I thought knowing about her past will not bother me. After she told me that she has had sex before I was devastated . The thoughts of her having sex with her ex keeps bothering me all the time. We love each other very much and we see future with each other. But these thoughts makes me feel miserable. I just can’t take the pictures of her with another guy out of my head. I keep thinking about it all the time. What should I do guys please help me out, I feel helpless :([/quote]
Check under the bed and in the closet. If you’re quick you might still catch him.
[quote]pushharder wrote:
There’s one major, egregious problem with the original post beyond what has already been mentioned.
Please, vets, tell us what it is.[/quote]
He got emotionally involved THEN asked about her past with me & DB. Thats backwards.
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
[quote]pushharder wrote:
There’s one major, egregious problem with the original post beyond what has already been mentioned.
Please, vets, tell us what it is.[/quote]
He got emotionally involved THEN asked about her past with me & DB. Thats backwards.[/quote]
But even far worse than that…the naive hombre failed to post pics.
It’s unforgivable.[/quote]
The SAMA guidelines are gone, Push.
And people worry more about global warming…
put it in her filthy whore pooper
[quote]TooHuman wrote:
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
Hello everyone. I just asked my girlfriend about her past. At first I thought knowing about her past will not bother me. After she told me that she has had sex before I was devastated . The thoughts of her having sex with her ex keeps bothering me all the time. We love each other very much and we see future with each other. But these thoughts makes me feel miserable. I just can’t take the pictures of her with another guy out of my head. I keep thinking about it all the time. What should I do guys please help me out, I feel helpless :([/quote]
You don’t need to get rid of those feelings because they are the perfectly rational response. The reality is that all the evidence points to a significant decrease in the ability to pair bond for women who aren’t virgin’s when they are married or who’s husband is not their first sex partner.
Their is a reason why women were traditionally expected to be virgin’s before they were married. You are lucky India even has any potential for finding an adult virgin girl and hasn’t been corrupted by a see of irresponsible sluts and their cucked male defenders.[/quote]
Pretty much my thoughts. The thought of some other guy blasting his semen all over the inside of her vagina is naturally disgusting, like feces, incest, and rotting meat. I understand that a certain amount of apathy and mental gymnastics can get you past that, but it’s not the only option. I married a virgin in 2009 in a major city in America. So I can’t give you any advice on getting past it, but you don’t have to.
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]GhorigTheBeefy wrote:
Start taking a shit with the door open and talk about pussy.
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I think I’m going to have this put on a plaque and then will hang it in my living room.[/quote]
“Start taking a shit with the door open” is a great and, as far as I’m aware, original line. Nice job Ghorig! Now prepare for me to use it so much over the next couple years people assume I made it up.
[quote]GhorigTheBeefy wrote:
You’re such an insecure beta that you are guaranteed to drive your “love” away from you. Probably only been dating for a few weeks. Stupid bitch. Hopefully, you’ll take these posts to heart and become a halfway decent person. You should probably try and start hanging around some actual men. Cause, your family sure didn’t teach you how to be one. Start taking a shit with the door open and talk about pussy. That should get you on the right path.[/quote]
How will taking a shit with the door open will help me out? I didn’t understand this quote and please give me some tips to become alpha. How can a beta turn into an alpha ?
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
Hello everyone. I just asked my girlfriend about her past. At first I thought knowing about her past will not bother me. After she told me that she has had sex before I was devastated . The thoughts of her having sex with her ex keeps bothering me all the time. We love each other very much and we see future with each other. But these thoughts makes me feel miserable. I just can’t take the pictures of her with another guy out of my head. I keep thinking about it all the time. What should I do guys please help me out, I feel helpless :([/quote]
this actually bothers you? most all girls aren’t virgins, shouldn’t matter much unless youre insecure. she probably didn’t know you even existed when it happened. focus on being her best, not her first.
[quote]aesthetics_sexy wrote:
[quote]GhorigTheBeefy wrote:
You’re such an insecure beta that you are guaranteed to drive your “love” away from you. Probably only been dating for a few weeks. Stupid bitch. Hopefully, you’ll take these posts to heart and become a halfway decent person. You should probably try and start hanging around some actual men. Cause, your family sure didn’t teach you how to be one. Start taking a shit with the door open and talk about pussy. That should get you on the right path.[/quote]
How will taking a shit with the door open will help me out? I didn’t understand this quote and please give me some tips to become alpha. How can a beta turn into an alpha ?
[/quote]
Sigh. I sure hope you aren’t trollin me.
Quit caring about every damn little thing. I’ve never read it but there is supposed to be a good book called “Don’t sweat the small stuff and it’s all small stuff”. It’s supposed to help you realize what’s actually important and throw out all the BS. You need to find out what’s truly important to you and ignore all the white noise. If her not being a virgin is truly important to you and very upsetting, then you only have one option. Break up with her.
I usually don’t talk about my personal life too much on the internet, but I’ll try and help you out. My wife and I lost our virginity to each other when we were 19 in college. We are the only people we either have been sexually active with. Do I like that? Eh, I do but mainly just because it’s nice to know we don’t ever have to worry about STDs creeping up on us.
I kind of get it. The thought of her being with somebody else could kind of give me an “unclean” feeling. But, then again so does her taking a nasty shit in our toilet. She’s pregnant with our first child and she’s taking those nasty pregnant shits all the time. I have to smell it frequently and sometimes I have to see it. Guess what? I still love her and I’d love her even if she had been with somebody else.
If your view of intimacy is you being the only person to have ever gone there, then you’re probably going to be pretty miserable. That and you’re missing the point. Being intimate with somebody is going to be different for each person and that person’s relationship. Intimacy with your father should be different than your spouse/gf, at least I sure hope it is.
It’s up to those involved in the relationship to define their relationship. Some people have very rigid “jealous” relationships. And others have very open relationships. Some people, I think Push is or has been one of them, have open sexual relationships yet still maintain great intimacy with their spouse. Some people can be ok knowning/seeing somebody else fucking the bejesus (technical term) out of their spouse. This can actual bring them together and strengthen the relationship. I’d never try it because I don’t have the desire to and I know I’d lose my shit. Either way that choice doesn’t belittle the relationship.
When you two are together you do have a type of “claim” (for lack of a better word) over each other. That being said you don’t have a claim over her history. Even if you both wanted to you just can’t. That shit has already happened. That ship has sailed, so long, bye bye. You two need to decide where to go from here.
Here is how I’d handle this type of situation. “Hey sugar tits we’re together right?”
“Of course!”
“Is there anything in your past I need to know about? And by that I mean have you shared needles, had unsafe sex with unsafe people, been cheated on, had a blood transfusion, fucked any of my friends/coworkers/family members, had an std or done porn? I don’t care about how many partners or what sex acts you did or didn’t do as long as it doesn’t meet that criteria.”
“Not to my knowledge. Why?”
“Look when we’re together we’re only with each other. If you want to bail at any time just let me know. I just want to know that we’re on the same page and that we are both healthy and safe. That being said lets both go get tested, I’ll pay for it. I don’t want to know you’re history as long as we’re both healthy.”
Course that’s just me cause I’m crazy afraid of herpes. I swear I get at least one stress herpes dream every 6 months.
Oh and after all this shit you should join some manly hobby or club. You are majoring in the minors and sound like somebody in middle/high school. I’m not a feminist, but come on man I think we can all agree women are worth more than just their virginity. They should be able to cook and clean too.
[quote]PlutoTheGod wrote:
this actually bothers you? most all girls aren’t virgins, shouldn’t matter much unless youre insecure. she probably didn’t know you even existed when it happened. focus on being her best, not her first.[/quote]
Thanks for the advice man . Really appreciate that.