VHey, guys and beautiful women. Things are kinda rough on the homefront, but I don’t need to isolate or be mean to others. Well, back to my topic. I went to a tourney over Memorial Day and instead of being a spectator I ended up doing meat head work. My fault. Got there early and asked if needed a hand. I’d already made three deserts) Before I new it, I had set up so much by carrying tables, chairs, benches, etc etc. the next day I didn’t go cuz I felt kinda used. And guess what the director said dang it I was gonna have her put the grill together setup all the chairs and tables outside for the bbq…I felt so used…
Yeah, I had no clue what I was getting myself into😭. I had no idea no idea. I thought spread food around, help with lottery tickets, sign in, notmanual labor like that!
I don’t care how good of friends we are I refuse to help anyone move pool tables or pianos. I’ll carry the rest of your stuff in and out of a truck but if you want to own pianos and pool tables then you can carry them yourself.
I get used for sexual gratitude. I am a person with feelings and to think that women are being friendly to me just because they want to physically exploit me makes me ill to my stomach.
At least, that’s how I’d hoped this getting stronger business would have worked out. Instead, I get asked to help move stuff.
Too bad I get winded after 90 seconds and then eat my bodyweight in food. Jokes on them.
Depends on what you expected out of it. I don’t mind helping people, hell I actually enjoy it most of the time and I get a little kick out of being able to lift and carry solo what it would normally take 2-3 of the other guys (it happens occasionally). But when you only hear from people when they need something from you, we’re done. Hate to sound shitty, but my back needs scratched some times too.
Same here bro. Funny story, I got ‘them beginner gains’ early in my Navy career (fixed diet and training, gained 20 pounds in 4 months). Didn’t notice any change in how my female friends on board the ship treated me, though they were more apt to say ‘hi’ to me first than before…
Anyway, shortly after I stopped gaining weight I met and started dating a girl who became my wife. At one point early in our relationship, she thought I used to be the ship’s male whore due to the number of girls constantly greeting me (with that little smile women use that might mean she’s interested but might just be her being polite and if you think it’s because she’s interested and she realizes you figured it out then it becomes just her being polite…where was I…). Found out about the time we got serious that a LOT of girls on the ship wanted to hook up with me(she was hearing this in female berthing because women talk). Of course now it was too late to capitalize on…I remember telling her ‘I wish you would have just kept that to yourself’.
Friends liked to have me “at hand” in case something goes wrong. Like when they were going in some bars that are known for fights… I’m skinny and not too tall but they know that I’m like an animal when I get angry.
And I did save 2 guys asses on 2 occassions, by just unexpectedly jumping in, giving few kicks/punches and disappearing… I never trained any martial art, I’m just really fast.
Every god damn time anyone I know wants to move anything it’s always “hey Bob, you like to lift weights, how’d you like to help me move house at 9am on Sunday morning?”
I go by the same rules as @SkyzykS though; if you feed me and or ply me with booze afterwards it’s a deal.
I was offered beer I can’t Drink! I drink an intriguing drink since I can’t takr anything with crap in it cuz long qt…edit it was miller lite…not beer haha
Frankly, I think you’re being a little oversensitive about this. Maybe it’s different for a woman, but if a guy asks if someone needs help, and they need some chairs carried and set up, I don’t think strength comes into the picture. That’s the sort of task that an average guy could be asked to complete if he volunteered to help.
As far as feeling used, it comes down to if you had something else you needed/wanted to do and if other people were getting paid/making money on your volunteer work. If it’s a time issue, you put in the time you’ve got and then say that you haven’t got any more time to volunteer. If everyone else is getting paid or if the event is generally for profit, then I wouldn’t volunteer in the first place and I think it’s a bit weird for them to accept.
In any case, the nature of the work performed doesn’t really come into the equation for me. Moving stuff around is a little bit of extra light conditioning so that’s just a bonus. If it’s actually heavy stuff, then that’s bonus odd object lifting. I’d actually prefer that to other lighter volunteer work.
Helped a guy move into a 1 BR apartment when he let his parent’s house. I get there and we pack all the small stuff and he’s like “okay, now the piano!”
The apartment he moved to was on the second floor (25 steps, no landing). He is a big softy who’s never even played a sport and his dad helping us has a bad back. So I ratchet strapped that SOB to the dolly and deadlifted it 1 step at a time.
This was on a saturday after I had deadlifted Friday night. Needless to say I told him that piano is never leaving that apartment. He can tell the landlord it’s a gift.
That all makes sense. As an issue of time or money, you have to make sure you aren’t taken advantage of. I just don’t think the manual labor aspect would really come into it for me.
I can’t Drink! I drink an intriguing drink since I can’t takr anything with crap in it cuz long qt…edit it was miller lite…not beer haha