Lots of them didn’t go through a slut phase if that’s what you are asking. Not hooking up. Only involved with boyfriends. That isn’t all of them, but I think it’s roughly half (perhaps a tad over 50%).
In my subjective opinion, the ones that were seeking and behaving in a way to get long term relationships are doing better than the others (that are in slut phase) at this point. Most of them have secured a guy, are engaged or married.
One of them that had the phase I think saw were it was going and changed her ways. She started dating guys that were good matches for her (not just going for the hot guy), found a guy to commit, and is now married to him. The others are starting to give me future cat lady vibes.
There is truth to this. For lots of decisions it is more about the feeling of it, than the facts and pros and cons.
I think there are flaws on both sides though (regarding thinking rationally). Many men can lose the ability to think rationally if they are really horny, or if an easy opportunity for sex comes up.
A 14” bicep is the same as an 18” bicep to most women, as long as the whole package is attractive overall. They don’t have the spatial skills to discern a difference.
The internet has murdered the “lead with confidence” scenario. I feel fortunate to have been running around when an attempt itself wasn’t a “me too” event. I usually like a hole in the wall corner bar or backroad ice house these days but went to a trendy spot downtown recently for an event. It blew my mind how many guys were buried in their phones swiping - with tables full of horny coeds in short skirts or summer dresses and t-back panties (if any) literally right next door. Just hoping to be fucked but not wanting to be slutty and initiate. There were easy threesomes to be had but most probably went home and jacked off on a webcam.
My unprovable bet is that if you carried yourself like you had 18” biceps, they would’ve looked at you. And once one did, all her friends would have too. Then other women near the feeding frenzy would’ve too.
Building size gave you the confidence to project what they want to latch on to.
But I’m not in to the pickup artist stuff. Just observations over the years. You could project confidence by being weird and not caring. Crazy haircut. Painted nails. All the attitude. This is why women like Carmen Electra and Pamela Anderson, Heather Locklear et cetera dated weird musicians. They aren’t super music fans, they were already rich… they saw a projection of self-confidence.
I agree that this is true in many cases. I don’t think many people are good with introspection, which likely can help some overcome social problems.
But I also recognize that there are social forces that are real and do make a number of people’s lives miserable.
On the other hand, I believe many are incapable or unwilling to look beyond their own experiences and imagine what others experience or what can possibly be out there in a country of over 330 million people. And this is evidenced in these sorts of discussions, online and offline.
Examples:
“**Every man/woman I know…”
“All the ones I have met…”
“All of my friends…”
“I haven’t seen this.”
“I have/did X. Why can’t s/he?”
Yeah. Like, I was introduced to a spiritual axiom, to paraphrase “When one finds themselves in conflict with their surroundings, it is them who is in conflict- not the surroundings.”.
So some 30 year old virgin is festering in misery because he can’t find a woman. He logs on to the interwebs searching for answers (big mistake). Finds all of this red pill matrix bullshit. Learns the vocabulary and comes to the realization that its impossible to get women unless you’re an alpha chad thunder cock with a lambo making “6 figures” or some shit.
Thats a protracted exercise in self sabotage. But now he can sling verbiage and commiserate with his new birds of a feather.
Or scenario 2 :
Same dude, same circumstance. But this guy looks inward & says “I’m a 5 on a good day. That 10 on tic-toc/pornhub/instatramp is out of my league. Maybe I should adjust my expectations.”
Scenario 2 guy then finds a girl who is about his equivalent, and lives happily ever after. Or at least with a modicum of happiness and satisfaction, whereas guy #1 has become defeated, resigned to lonely bitterness.
This whole finger pointing thing just smacks of massive pitty party to me. Its the courts, social media, gynocentric social blah blah.
No bud. Its you. (universal you, not you-Brick). If you arent the problem, there is no solution.
Sorry, but my dog cares even less about silly terms like red and blue pills or alpha and beta than I do. That use of language comes off as effeminate and a different version of woke fascist newspeak. When my dog barks I know exactly what he is trying to communicate.
They don’t need to be when they are taught it’s about how others affect you, trigger you, more than how and why you process information internally the way you do. People don’t need to justify their reactions.
@SkyzykS although I have written on social matters that are in line with red pill, I am totally on board with what you said and what I’d tell an ordinary guy who wants a woman. As written, I do have a very dim view on red-pill grifters and much of the content they produce.
Rambling about eventually making millions and accruing a stable of gorgeous women to ordinary men is stupid and destructive.
