[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
hahaha no actually i’ve met a girl who is the same major as me, lifts, and is hotter than my ex. I’m doing just fine without her and I bet it’s killing her right now. I deleted her off FB a while back and she probably noticed it recently and that’s why she’s doing this. Either way i’m lifting, got a hot girl friend with similar interest, have a decent job, and have all A’s so far. I’m doing fine, btw I i’d like to thank everyone that gave me advice ITT whether it was nice or mean I had to hear it. [/quote]
Glad to hear you’re doing well. I would stop worrying about what she’s doing (you really don’t know that these odd calls are her), and move on.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
So I’ve been noticing some weird things going on lately. When I’m at work when I pick up the phone there’s always an unresponsive person on the other line, once I say “hello like three times” they hang up. Didn’t think much of it at first but then the same thing has been happening on my cell as an “unknown” number. I’m beginning to think it’s my ex doing this just to hear my voice, what should I do about this?[/quote]
From the way this thread has gone, I’d bet that you are the one calling her just to hear her voice. [/quote]
hahaha no actually i’ve met a girl who is the same major as me, lifts, and is hotter than my ex. I’m doing just fine without her and I bet it’s killing her right now. I deleted her off FB a while back and she probably noticed it recently and that’s why she’s doing this. Either way i’m lifting, got a hot girl friend with similar interest, have a decent job, and have all A’s so far. I’m doing fine, btw I i’d like to thank everyone that gave me advice ITT whether it was nice or mean I had to hear it. [/quote]
Fucking thank you.
She emailed me today. Basically what she said was she stil thinks about me time to time and that she’s still shocked about how things turned out. Also she said she’s opening up email communication. Wtf? Should I even bother responding?
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
She emailed me today. Basically what said was she stil thinks about me time to time and that she’s still shocked about how things turned out. Also she said she’s opening up email communication. Wtf? Should I even bother responding? [/quote]
Obviously not lol. Disregard, bro.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
She emailed me today. Basically what she said was she stil thinks about me time to time and that she’s still shocked about how things turned out. Also she said she’s opening up email communication. Wtf? Should I even bother responding? [/quote]
Block the address
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
She emailed me today. Basically what she said was she stil thinks about me time to time and that she’s still shocked about how things turned out. Also she said she’s opening up email communication. Wtf? Should I even bother responding? [/quote]
You have just won. Block the email, never contact her again and remember your victory.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
She emailed me today. Basically what she said was she stil thinks about me time to time and that she’s still shocked about how things turned out. Also she said she’s opening up email communication. Wtf? Should I even bother responding? [/quote]
You have just won. Block the email, never contact her again and remember your victory.
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I was thinking the same. She just graduated from college. It’s easy to forget about an ex when you’re in your friends company 100 miles away. However when you return home and that guy that used to always come pick you up to hang doesn’t show up, it can make you pretty sad. I went through that stage early and am pass it . Maybe I should meet up with her an just act like I simply don’t give a fuck about her? Or no? Anywyas All hail victory.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Maybe I should meet up with her an just act like I simply don’t give a fuck about her? Or no?[/quote]
No. In fact that’s like the only thing you could do to not be completely winning in this situation.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
just act like I simply don’t give a fuck about her [/quote]
ACT like you simply don’t give a fuck about her? So basically you’re saying you really do give a fuck about her. Which doesn’t surprise me since you had to come on here to ask us about how to deal with the email. You’re not over her yet. Even if you hate an ex, it means you’re not over them. The point where you can act however you like and say whatever the fuck you like to her because you really don’t give a flying fuck is the point when you are over her.
I wouldn’t go. Even if you are over her (which I don’t believe), she doesn’t seem to be totally over you. If you meet up now, it will probably end badly for one of you, and most likely, for both of you.
Just give up on this one. You’ve got a promising and full life ahead of you. Is it to much to ask of you to just enjoy it and not worry about some crazy ex?
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Maybe I should meet up with her an just act like I simply don’t give a fuck about her? Or no? Anywyas All hail victory. [/quote]
Mate, the very fact that you’re contemplating meeting her just to screw with her shows that you haven’t won anything…
Csulli has it right. Block the address. Ignore her. Enjoy the gf you mentioned 4 months ago.
Says he is over her
Says he doesn’t give a fuck
Keeps posting updates
Asks how to deal with her.
What is this? I look forward to seeing how this is rationalised.
Don’t meet up with her. You’ll probably have sex and you will convince yourself you did it to get at her but you’ll get attached and end up in a dysfunctional relationship.
Block all contact for your own sake. You’ll continue to think about her but it will pass.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
She emailed me today. Basically what she said was she stil thinks about me time to time and that she’s still shocked about how things turned out. Also she said she’s opening up email communication. Wtf? Should I even bother responding? [/quote]
You have just won. Block the email, never contact her again and remember your victory.
[/quote]
I was thinking the same. She just graduated from college. It’s easy to forget about an ex when you’re in your friends company 100 miles away. However when you return home and that guy that used to always come pick you up to hang doesn’t show up, it can make you pretty sad. I went through that stage early and am pass it . Maybe I should meet up with her an just act like I simply don’t give a fuck about her? Or no? Anywyas All hail victory. [/quote]
It does not sound like you are over her at all, or at least you feel like things are unfinished and you need closure.
Either way, it sounds like you have a nice thing with this new girl, so you need to decide fast before you are left with neither.
Before you choose consider the following:
-You were with your ex for over 2 years, hell yeah you are still going to love her, and probably will for a long time if not the rest of your life, but that does not mean you will not find love in someone else.
-You want to be back with your ex because you are scared. There is nothing wrong with that. It was really comfortable to be with someone who you were with for so long, and all the change and challenges to come in a new relationship are uncomfortable.
-You are ignoring all the problems with your ex.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
just act like I simply don’t give a fuck about her [/quote]
ACT like you simply don’t give a fuck about her? So basically you’re saying you really do give a fuck about her. Which doesn’t surprise me since you had to come on here to ask us about how to deal with the email. You’re not over her yet. Even if you hate an ex, it means you’re not over them. The point where you can act however you like and say whatever the fuck you like to her because you really don’t give a flying fuck is the point when you are over her.
I wouldn’t go. Even if you are over her (which I don’t believe), she doesn’t seem to be totally over you. If you meet up now, it will probably end badly for one of you, and most likely, for both of you.
Just give up on this one. You’ve got a promising and full life ahead of you. Is it to much to ask of you to just enjoy it and not worry about some crazy ex?[/quote]
These past few months I believe I have done everything I could possibly do to forget about her. I’ve focused at my job (got a promotion and raise),Focused in School (got very decent grades), focused on lifting (made excellent gains). I even tried getting a new gf whom sounds much better on paper but all I ever did was compare her to my ex and it wasn’t fair for her so I just let that go a month ago. I know i’m going to get flamed for this question but is possible even in the slightest to get back together with her and have everlasting relationship?
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
I know i’m going to get flamed for this question but is possible even in the slightest to get back together with her and have everlasting relationship? [/quote]
Are you a door mat? Do you want to be a door mat?
If the answer is yes, by all means beg her to take you back.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
I know i’m going to get flamed for this question but is possible even in the slightest to get back together with her and have everlasting relationship? [/quote]
Is it possible in the slightest? Yes. But why would you do that?
You’re single, go explore your options. Never dated an asian girl? Never dated a latina? Never dated a blonde? Never dated a tall girl? Never dated a petite girl? Never dated an athlete? Etc. etc.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
I know i’m going to get flamed for this question but is possible even in the slightest to get back together with her and have everlasting relationship? [/quote]
You’re not going to get flamed. Because every criticism will be entirely reasonable and good advice. You’ll just take them as flames.
So, you want to know if you should respond to the ex who:
dumped you
owes(d) you money
filed a restraining order against you, and
sent you this message: “I tried to be nice to you but it’s obvious you’ve moved on. You think you’re better than me HA! I’m glad i’m not with you and I bet you’re still crushed over it. You’ll never find a girl like me but you can try looking. Anyways I don’t even know why i’m wasting my time good luck with your future goals”
The only reason she’s contacted you again is she either is lonely and figures she can get some easy attention from you, or her self-esteem is in the shitter and she knows you’re easily manipulatable.
Do not reply, delete her info from your phone and computer so you’re not tempted to contact her when you’re feeling lonely, and go about with your fucking life.
You are not a person to her right now, you’re a salve for her ego. Once she gets her little ego boost, she’s done with you. Again.