[quote]on edge wrote:
Sorry, I start feeling like a broken record on here. I’m a pretty simple man so after 6000 posts I rarely say something I haven’t said a few times before.[/quote]
an original topic is pretty rare these days. Especially ones of this nature!
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Idk if you’ve also had a Herniated Disc but is it ok to do Squats and Deadlifts? These are my two favorite exercises but I quit doing them after feeling weakness in my legs. I’m still motivated VERY motivated, I’m actually investing in a Barbell, power rack, and an adjustable bench. So I can do my major exercises squats, deads, power cleans, bench, incline, close grip,shoulder press, pull ups and bent rows. Do you or anyone know how much I should expect to spend buying this equipment used? I don’t want to get ripped off. I only have about 450 dollars.
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I am arround your age and have the most fucked up lumbar spine in the world. The docs told me I would not be capable of walking without trouble at age 20. Deadlifts and Squat variations are your friends, that’s all i can say. It’s a pretty individual thing and you have to get to know your body (which by the way does not happen by sitting arround and crying like a bitch).
Buy Squat stands and a standard barbell.
Squat stands come in for 70 bucks, you can get a barbell for arround the same price. Get yourself 300 to 400 pounds in the beginning, I have no idea how strong you are but it personally took me 3/4 of a year to be capable of squatting 300+ and deadlifting in the four hundreds.
Doesn’t have to be ivanko gear but I’d stay away from plastic weights. You can get all that stuff from ebay & craigs list for little bit more than 300 dollars.
If you are totally out of money or you need more, stop bitching and make some dough.
OP:
Hand a belt to your father (or to your mother if your father is not available).
Show him (or her) this:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
I lent her money a few months prior to pay her rent.
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Anyways once I threatened to take her to court some how her life felt threatened. Any female can file an emergency protective order without any evidence but in order for it to be permanent she must have evidence to support her claim after the initial emergency period. It got thrown out today because it was “frivolous”.
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The problem shown in the juxtaposition of the two quotes above is far, far more serious than any time management problem; excessive willingness to bend to a woman’s demands; failure to understand the futility of contacting after being dumped; etc.
OP, unless your parents hate you: don’t ever marry a woman your parents disapprove of, no matter how wonderful you think she is. Just as a fail-safe, against disaster.
I mean, I’m a complete fucking idiot when it comes to women. But even I know that’s not wife material. I don’t even think there was ever a time in my whole foolish life when I would have thought that a woman who pulled something like that was wife material.
p.s. the emotional pain you are in right now will entirely disappear within a few years at the outside most. The wreck you can make out of your life if you are not careful will last for decades.
[quote]Quiet Warrior wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Idk if you’ve also had a Herniated Disc but is it ok to do Squats and Deadlifts? These are my two favorite exercises but I quit doing them after feeling weakness in my legs. I’m still motivated VERY motivated, I’m actually investing in a Barbell, power rack, and an adjustable bench. So I can do my major exercises squats, deads, power cleans, bench, incline, close grip,shoulder press, pull ups and bent rows. Do you or anyone know how much I should expect to spend buying this equipment used? I don’t want to get ripped off. I only have about 450 dollars.
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I am arround your age and have the most fucked up lumbar spine in the world. The docs told me I would not be capable of walking without trouble at age 20. Deadlifts and Squat variations are your friends, that’s all i can say. It’s a pretty individual thing and you have to get to know your body (which by the way does not happen by sitting arround and crying like a bitch).
Buy Squat stands and a standard barbell.
Squat stands come in for 70 bucks, you can get a barbell for arround the same price. Get yourself 300 to 400 pounds in the beginning, I have no idea how strong you are but it personally took me 3/4 of a year to be capable of squatting 300+ and deadlifting in the four hundreds.
Doesn’t have to be ivanko gear but I’d stay away from plastic weights. You can get all that stuff from ebay & craigs list for little bit more than 300 dollars.
If you are totally out of money or you need more, stop bitching and make some dough.[/quote]
How do you work around it? I have a lateral herniated disc so it doesn’t hurt in the middle but rather on my right side. I’ve read that core strengthening exercises can diminish most if not all of the pain. What works for you?
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
How do you work around it? I have a lateral herniated disc so it doesn’t hurt in the middle but rather on my right side. I’ve read that core strengthening exercises can diminish most if not all of the pain. What works for you?
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I don’t know where your injury is located, neither if yours is equal to mine. It took me 2 years just to figure out how to lift without being in pain.
I am not a physical therapist. You should go and see a good one, then start working with hyperextentions on a swiss ball and all of the stuff that does not kill you.
Matt Kroc said that recovery is all about doing as much as possible while avoiding re-injury at the same time. So if you can do a few pullups, dips and bodyweight squats do that. If it hurts do something different.
But by all means spend your time trying out what helps you and not asking random guys on the internet how you can speed up your recovery.
Ex just texted me out of no where with a simple “hey”. I went from feeling like the happiest man on earth to feeling like the angriest. After all of that no contact all she says is “hey”. Should I even bother replying?
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Ex just texted me out of no where with a simple “hey”. I went from feeling like the happiest man on earth to feeling like the angriest. After all of that no contact all she says is “hey”. Should I even bother replying?
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No reply. Not because “hey” is such a terrible thing. But rather, because you’ll screw up your head.
[quote]undoredo wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Ex just texted me out of no where with a simple “hey”. I went from feeling like the happiest man on earth to feeling like the angriest. After all of that no contact all she says is “hey”. Should I even bother replying?
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No reply. Not because “hey” is such a terrible thing. But rather, because you’ll screw up your head.
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Yes, agree.
[quote]undoredo wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Ex just texted me out of no where with a simple “hey”. I went from feeling like the happiest man on earth to feeling like the angriest. After all of that no contact all she says is “hey”. Should I even bother replying?
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No reply. Not because “hey” is such a terrible thing. But rather, because you’ll screw up your head.
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Mind elaborating a bit more? Knowing me i’d probably end up texting back it’d be nice if you’d talk me out of it. Just as before with the emails I regret sending.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]undoredo wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Ex just texted me out of no where with a simple “hey”. I went from feeling like the happiest man on earth to feeling like the angriest. After all of that no contact all she says is “hey”. Should I even bother replying?
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No reply. Not because “hey” is such a terrible thing. But rather, because you’ll screw up your head.
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Mind elaborating a bit more? Knowing me i’d probably end up texting back it’d be nice if you’d talk me out of it. Just as before with the emails I regret sending. [/quote]
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]undoredo wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Ex just texted me out of no where with a simple “hey”. I went from feeling like the happiest man on earth to feeling like the angriest. After all of that no contact all she says is “hey”. Should I even bother replying?
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No reply. Not because “hey” is such a terrible thing. But rather, because you’ll screw up your head.
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Mind elaborating a bit more? Knowing me i’d probably end up texting back it’d be nice if you’d talk me out of it. Just as before with the emails I regret sending. [/quote]
“Hey” is just fishing.
What are you, a holiday special, a “I feel lonely” interlude?
I mean, fuck her if you must…
But that should be the end of it.
No! Do not text her, call her, mail her a card…etc.
I have had exes get in touch with me on three occasions between christmas and new years. For whatever reason sentimental BS creeps into chicks minds at this time. Right now she doesn’t want to get back together.
She’s at home over christmas break and bored. Her expectations of ‘hey’ and your expectations of ‘hey’ are very different. You will only be ripping off the emotional bandage if you call her. Do not contact her. Live your life.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]undoredo wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Ex just texted me out of no where with a simple “hey”. I went from feeling like the happiest man on earth to feeling like the angriest. After all of that no contact all she says is “hey”. Should I even bother replying?
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No reply. Not because “hey” is such a terrible thing. But rather, because you’ll screw up your head.
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Mind elaborating a bit more? Knowing me i’d probably end up texting back it’d be nice if you’d talk me out of it. Just as before with the emails I regret sending.
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You have said things that demonstrate not just emotional attachment, but real and hazardous cognitive dissonance with regards to this girl. i.e.: obtained frivolous restraining order, and was “wife material”. You are still in emotional pain and turmoil, even if at the moment you are not consciously aware of it because of anger or whatever. Engaging will steer you toward thinking fond thoughts about her; pining more for her; etc.
Danger! Danger! Danger! Abort! Abort! Abort!
Also: have you shown your father or mother the two items I pointed out, and requested that beating yet?
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]undoredo wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Ex just texted me out of no where with a simple “hey”. I went from feeling like the happiest man on earth to feeling like the angriest. After all of that no contact all she says is “hey”. Should I even bother replying?
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No reply. Not because “hey” is such a terrible thing. But rather, because you’ll screw up your head.
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Mind elaborating a bit more? Knowing me i’d probably end up texting back it’d be nice if you’d talk me out of it. Just as before with the emails I regret sending. [/quote]
“Hey” is just fishing.
What are you, a holiday special, a “I feel lonely” interlude?
I mean, fuck her if you must…
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No! Don’t even fuck her with somebody else’s dick.
[quote]undoredo wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]undoredo wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Ex just texted me out of no where with a simple “hey”. I went from feeling like the happiest man on earth to feeling like the angriest. After all of that no contact all she says is “hey”. Should I even bother replying?
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No reply. Not because “hey” is such a terrible thing. But rather, because you’ll screw up your head.
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Mind elaborating a bit more? Knowing me i’d probably end up texting back it’d be nice if you’d talk me out of it. Just as before with the emails I regret sending.
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You have said things that demonstrate not just emotional attachment, but real and hazardous cognitive dissonance with regards to this girl. i.e.: obtained frivolous restraining order, and was “wife material”. You are still in emotional pain and turmoil, even if at the moment you are not consciously aware of it because of anger or whatever. Engaging will steer you toward thinking fond thoughts about her; pining more for her; etc.
Danger! Danger! Danger! Abort! Abort! Abort!
Also: have you shown your father or mother the two items I pointed out, and requested that beating yet?
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Let me play devil advocate. She never
Did anything wrong I was the one that began taking her for granted. Thus giving her reasons to leave my ass. Also I haven’t done so yet but I probably should show them to my parents shouldn’t I?
you are being a huge pussy.
[quote]StevenF wrote:
you are being a huge pussy. [/quote]
How so?
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]StevenF wrote:
you are being a huge pussy. [/quote]
How so? [/quote]
You have her dick in you.
[quote]spar4tee wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]StevenF wrote:
you are being a huge pussy. [/quote]
How so? [/quote]
You have her dick in you.[/quote]
Look i’m only 20 and ignorant as fuk. I was with this girl for three years. This was my first serious break up, instead of locking myself in my house and quitting on life i’m enrolled in school and have a decent job. I’m also lifting weights again even with all the injuries. When I say i’m ignorant I truly do mean it, I didn’t even know that after break ups you cut all contact. Anyways rant over haha