[quote]JCMPG wrote:
Get your shit together man. You will never find happiness in another person it is from within yourself. You have 2 choices right now. Continue to pine after someone who has said they do not want to be with you or suck it up and move on with life. Focus on your self the things and the things you enjoy doing. Focus on making your self better inside and out. [/quote]
How do I go about doing this? I’m seriously an ignorant idiot in this situation.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]JCMPG wrote:
Get your shit together man. You will never find happiness in another person it is from within yourself. You have 2 choices right now. Continue to pine after someone who has said they do not want to be with you or suck it up and move on with life. Focus on your self the things and the things you enjoy doing. Focus on making your self better inside and out. [/quote]
How do I go about doing this? I’m seriously an ignorant idiot in this situation. [/quote]
You find the part inside of you that holds on to her and then… you just let go…
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]JCMPG wrote:
Get your shit together man. You will never find happiness in another person it is from within yourself. You have 2 choices right now. Continue to pine after someone who has said they do not want to be with you or suck it up and move on with life. Focus on your self the things and the things you enjoy doing. Focus on making your self better inside and out. [/quote]
How do I go about doing this? I’m seriously an ignorant idiot in this situation. [/quote]
You find the part inside of you that holds on to her and then… you just let go…[/quote]
Find what is important to you and focus on that. Develop a sense of self. Who are you? Once you figure out who you are decide if you like that person. If you dont make conscious decision to change what you dont like. Focus on what you can control and let the stuff you can not control just roll off your back.
Op was the pussy good? Have you had better ? Sounds like this girl was just a waste of n your time. Pull yourself together and move on
just lift, breh.
has anyone said that yet?
[quote]PB Andy wrote:
just lift, breh.
has anyone said that yet?[/quote]
In various forms.
[quote]drainman1 wrote:
Op was the pussy good? Have you had better ? Sounds like this girl was just a waste of n your time. Pull yourself together and move on[/quote]
She was wife material also I had my fair share of mistakes. Trust me i’m the one that wants to move on the most I just can’t seem to do it.
[quote]PB Andy wrote:
just lift, breh.
has anyone said that yet?[/quote]
Would love to but with a herniated disc it’s near impossible right now to. Will be investing in a home gym soon can’t wait.
[quote]spar4tee wrote:
Legit advice thanks for posting it
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Gf of 2.5 years just recently left me. I was an avid lifter before I met her. I was only 17 at the time but I was in love with lifting weights. Anyways eventually once college came I had to choose between her or lifting. I chose her like an idiot and she left me about a month ago. I’m in the worst shape of my life but began lifting about a couple of weeks ago.
I’ve never been so motivated in my life to get into the BEST possible shape I can be. Anyone else have similar stories?[/quote]
You are so motivated to lift that you actually came to Tnation, took a pic of yourself and now have a thread going that will soon reach 100 replies. Lol are you fucking kidding me.
I had the same choice as you but decided to dump the selfish bitch. If a woman can’t get along with my lifes plans then it’s propably time to look for somebody else.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]PB Andy wrote:
just lift, breh.
has anyone said that yet?[/quote]
Would love to but with a herniated disc it’s near impossible right now to. Will be investing in a home gym soon can’t wait.[/quote]
Near impossible? Get on a swiss ball, do some GHRs, Pullups, pushups, bodyweight squats. We’ve all had way more serious injuries than that and started working arround it ASAP.
Work on your diet. Look where you fucked up and what you want to change nutrition wise. Start cooking new meals, experiment with recipes.
Invest your time in the person you want to become.
You spend so much time on BS and now you got to get yourself back on track.
Your ex could not have chosen a better point in time to dump your silly ass.
2014 is close, your day should be spend planning and taking action, instead of hanging out on tnation, telling us how fucked you feel.Nobody cares.
Now go get drunk and then get productive.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]drainman1 wrote:
Op was the pussy good? Have you had better ? Sounds like this girl was just a waste of n your time. Pull yourself together and move on[/quote]
She was wife material also I had my fair share of mistakes. Trust me i’m the one that wants to move on the most I just can’t seem to do it. [/quote]
been there when my first wife left me. It became easier when I started banging random chics. Time will heal all wounds. I suggest finding a hobby to keep your mind off of her
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]drainman1 wrote:
Op was the pussy good? Have you had better ? Sounds like this girl was just a waste of n your time. Pull yourself together and move on[/quote]
She was wife material also I had my fair share of mistakes. Trust me i’m the one that wants to move on the most I just can’t seem to do it. [/quote]
True wife material would not make you bend to what her likes are but support you as you support her. I think you need to re-evaluate your definition of wife material.
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
just wrote a very long email to my ex about how much I miss her and she never replied. Feeling very sad right now someone knock some sense into me and hold me [/quote]
Son…
What were you thinking?
That she might come back if you prostrate yourself?[/quote]
I wish this site had a section on sex and relationships. Someone might start a thread in such a section about how to handle a breakup and this type of thing would never happen.
Brah, Never EVER contact a girl whose dumped you. Not in any way shape or form. All us guys who have a little life experience under our belts have observed a very interesting phenomenon. When a girl breaks up with us and we really don’t care, we just go on about our lives doing the things we would normally do, she always ends up calling back. Maybe not always, but mostly. On the other hand, when we do care and we try to convince them to stay (and sometimes spiral down into drunken midnight begging) they never do come back.
So, the one universal way to handle getting dumped, whether you care or not, is to cut off all contact.
How to get over it? I don’t know. Just letting it go is a lot easier said than done. Staying busy, enriching your life and expanding your social circles are all steps in the right direction. Don’t get drunk.
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
just wrote a very long email to my ex about how much I miss her and she never replied. Feeling very sad right now someone knock some sense into me and hold me [/quote]
Son…
What were you thinking?
That she might come back if you prostrate yourself?[/quote]
I wish this site had a section on sex and relationships. Someone might start a thread in such a section about how to handle a breakup and this type of thing would never happen.
Brah, Never EVER contact a girl whose dumped you. Not in any way shape or form. All us guys who have a little life experience under our belts have observed a very interesting phenomenon. When a girl breaks up with us and we really don’t care, we just go on about our lives doing the things we would normally do, she always ends up calling back. Maybe not always, but mostly. On the other hand, when we do care and we try to convince them to stay (and sometimes spiral down into drunken midnight begging) they never do come back.
So, the one universal way to handle getting dumped, whether you care or not, is to cut off all contact.
How to get over it? I don’t know. Just letting it go is a lot easier said than done. Staying busy, enriching your life and expanding your social circles are all steps in the right direction. Don’t get drunk.[/quote]
OP read the above post multiple times until you can recite it and then read it again 10 times.
On Edge is your Yoda.
[quote]on edge wrote:
So, the one universal way to handle getting dumped, whether you care or not, is to cut off all contact.
[/quote]
Tis be true.
I wish I could reduce that to anything other than bishes be crazy but I cannot.
[quote]Quiet Warrior wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]PB Andy wrote:
just lift, breh.
has anyone said that yet?[/quote]
Would love to but with a herniated disc it’s near impossible right now to. Will be investing in a home gym soon can’t wait.[/quote]
Near impossible? Get on a swiss ball, do some GHRs, Pullups, pushups, bodyweight squats. We’ve all had way more serious injuries than that and started working arround it ASAP.
Work on your diet. Look where you fucked up and what you want to change nutrition wise. Start cooking new meals, experiment with recipes.
Invest your time in the person you want to become.
You spend so much time on BS and now you got to get yourself back on track.
Your ex could not have chosen a better point in time to dump your silly ass.
2014 is close, your day should be spend planning and taking action, instead of hanging out on tnation, telling us how fucked you feel.Nobody cares.
Now go get drunk and then get productive. [/quote]
Idk if you’ve also had a Herniated Disc but is it ok to do Squats and Deadlifts? These are my two favorite exercises but I quit doing them after feeling weakness in my legs. I’m still motivated VERY motivated, I’m actually investing in a Barbell, power rack, and an adjustable bench. So I can do my major exercises squats, deads, power cleans, bench, incline, close grip,shoulder press, pull ups and bent rows. Do you or anyone know how much I should expect to spend buying this equipment used? I don’t want to get ripped off. I only have about 450 dollars.
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
just wrote a very long email to my ex about how much I miss her and she never replied. Feeling very sad right now someone knock some sense into me and hold me [/quote]
Son…
What were you thinking?
That she might come back if you prostrate yourself?[/quote]
I wish this site had a section on sex and relationships. Someone might start a thread in such a section about how to handle a breakup and this type of thing would never happen.
Brah, Never EVER contact a girl whose dumped you. Not in any way shape or form. All us guys who have a little life experience under our belts have observed a very interesting phenomenon. When a girl breaks up with us and we really don’t care, we just go on about our lives doing the things we would normally do, she always ends up calling back. Maybe not always, but mostly. On the other hand, when we do care and we try to convince them to stay (and sometimes spiral down into drunken midnight begging) they never do come back.
So, the one universal way to handle getting dumped, whether you care or not, is to cut off all contact.
How to get over it? I don’t know. Just letting it go is a lot easier said than done. Staying busy, enriching your life and expanding your social circles are all steps in the right direction. Don’t get drunk.[/quote]
Man in that case I really screwed up BAD. I wish someone had told me this when I first created this thread. I’m sure two years from now when I look back at the messages I sent I will cringe hard and want to blow my head off. Nevertheless thanks for the much needed advice it means a lot.
Sorry, I start feeling like a broken record on here. I’m a pretty simple man so after 6000 posts I rarely say something I haven’t said a few times before.