Meeting her for the first time since the break up this Saturday. I’m sure it’ll be very emotional. What are the do’s and don’ts?
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Meeting her for the first time since the break up this Saturday. I’m sure it’ll be very emotional. What are the do’s and don’ts?[/quote]
Don’t.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Meeting her for the first time since the break up this Saturday. I’m sure it’ll be very emotional. What are the do’s and don’ts?[/quote]
Good god why? No contact ever again. I didn’t listen to that advice when I was your age. Now I am a lot older and have dealt with this shit many times. When your 35 you’ll think back to what a twat you were. Find angry chicken and listen to what ever he says.
Mother of Gawd.
3/3 Consensus.
The forum speaks
I will add that you completely ignoring her forever will damage her ego, and you are doing some future guy a favour.
[quote]Sad Body Builder wrote:
Don’t worry man.
I’ve had worst situations.
We all go through this.
My workout partner is a clinic psychologist and he says, when people are depressed and sad, that’s because they choose to be so!
Instead of focusing how to improve and move forward to find another girl, they focus on the past and how good they felt.
You’ll make it![/quote]
Good advice. Although there’s irony it’s given by someone called Sad Body Builder.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
Meeting her for the first time since the break up this Saturday. I’m sure it’ll be very emotional. What are the do’s and don’ts?[/quote]
Don’t meet her.
[quote]nsimmons wrote:
3/3 Consensus.
The forum speaks
I will add that you completely ignoring her forever will damage her ego, and you are doing some future guy a favour.[/quote]
Everything was said out of spite. She contacted me so I’m sure she’s swallowed her pride. She’s not a bad person we just got hit with a perfect storm.I’m in a lot better shape than I was when I made this thread so we’ll see how she reacts to that. I never said that my primary goal was to get back together.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]nsimmons wrote:
3/3 Consensus.
The forum speaks
I will add that you completely ignoring her forever will damage her ego, and you are doing some future guy a favour.[/quote]
Everything was said out of spite. She contacted me so I’m sure she’s swallowed her pride. She’s not a bad person we just got hit with a perfect storm.I’m in a lot better shape than I was when I made this thread so we’ll see how she reacts to that. I never said that my primary goal was to get back together. [/quote]
Mangina speak. Stop rationalizing. Everyone else has been there and done that.
This is like negotiating for your character, she broke first you won. Ignore her and remember that. It will serve you your entire life.
The second you see her, your brain will shut off and she wins, she got to manipulate you one last time.
It wont be like a movie, there wont be closure, it wont be like old times, it will be awkward and dredge up all the shit you’ve tried to move past.
Worst case is if she wants back with you and you cave. You will be back here in 6 months crying again.
I think Orion said something like. This is your journey through life and you choose to let someone ride along with you. This one made her choice and every time you acknowledge her, she thinks less of you subconsciously.
This kind of rationalizing and trying to be friendly and the good guy, like society tells you, keeps you stuck in a rut attracting the same people. I went through this 3 times until I finally took this advice, my father gave me, and then attracted the right kind of person who Ive been with for 8 years.
[quote]nsimmons wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
[quote]nsimmons wrote:
3/3 Consensus.
The forum speaks
I will add that you completely ignoring her forever will damage her ego, and you are doing some future guy a favour.[/quote]
Everything was said out of spite. She contacted me so I’m sure she’s swallowed her pride. She’s not a bad person we just got hit with a perfect storm.I’m in a lot better shape than I was when I made this thread so we’ll see how she reacts to that. I never said that my primary goal was to get back together. [/quote]
Mangina speak. Stop rationalizing. Everyone else has been there and done that.
This is like negotiating for your character, she broke first you won. Ignore her and remember that. It will serve you your entire life.
The second you see her, your brain will shut off and she wins, she got to manipulate you one last time.
It wont be like a movie, there wont be closure, it wont be like old times, it will be awkward and dredge up all the shit you’ve tried to move past.
Worst case is if she wants back with you and you cave. You will be back here in 6 months crying again.
I think Orion said something like. This is your journey through life and you choose to let someone ride along with you. This one made her choice and every time you acknowledge her, she thinks less of you subconsciously.
This kind of rationalizing and trying to be friendly and the good guy, like society tells you, keeps you stuck in a rut attracting the same people. I went through this 3 times until I finally took this advice, my father gave me, and then attracted the right kind of person who Ive been with for 8 years.
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I appreciate your responce everything you said makes perfect sense. I’m glad you are with someone you love now. It was all my fault, that’s why I don 't have negatve feelings towards her . She supported me in everything I did, even weight training. If you go back and look at my original post I never said she didn’t support me in my fitness goals. It was assumed that she didn 'g and I needed anything to hate her so I never corrected the assumption. I was physically and emotinally drained due to work and school. She tried to help me and I built a thick layered wall around me Eventually she became depressed her self and decided to leave. She only cut me off because she was afraid she’d come crawling back because it was such a tough thing for her to do. I have no ill feelings towards her because in my opinion I was at fault. Even after all of that she still has feelings for me . I can’t let this one go.
Remember, I didn’t take the advice either.
The folly of youth…
Good luck!
DO: use protection
Because we’ve been there and know how this will probably go.
You’re making a mistake, but I guess it’ll take awhile for you to figure it out. Just don’t do anything incredibly stupid in the meanwhile.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
I appreciate your responce everything you said makes perfect sense. I’m glad you are with someone you love now. It was all my fault, that’s why I don 't have negatve feelings towards her . She supported me in everything I did, even weight training. If you go back and look at my original post I never said she didn’t support me in my fitness goals. It was assumed that she didn 'g and I needed anything to hate her so I never corrected the assumption.[/quote]
You’re mean.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
my ex filed a frivolous restraining order against me
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In case you forgot.
[quote]LoRez wrote:
DO: use protection
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No way, filler up. Babies fix everything, especially med school!
[quote]LoRez wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
my ex filed a frivolous restraining order against me
[/quote]
In case you forgot.[/quote]
Holy shit, I didn’t see that. Wait till shes really mad and tells the cops you hit her and “she doesn’t feel safe around you” then you have an arrest record. Jesus tap dancing christ.
You are already fucked. If she went so far to use the authorities against you. You will be in cuffs the first blowout you have, especially if you have even a moderate resemblance to a bodybuilder.
[quote]nsimmons wrote:
[quote]LoRez wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
my ex filed a frivolous restraining order against me
[/quote]
In case you forgot.[/quote]
Holy shit, I didn’t see that. Wait till shes really mad and tells the cops you hit her and “she doesn’t feel safe around you” then you have an arrest record. Jesus tap dancing christ.
You are already fucked. If she went so far to use the authorities against you. You will be in cuffs the first blowout you have, especially if you have even a moderate resemblance to a bodybuilder.[/quote]
LMAO
your girl a thot
If the date goes south thrown your drink in her face. That’s what real men do!
“Am I a Chode?”
Addition: It sounds like I’m about the same age as the OP. I just finished my first year and damn you could literally be meeting 5-10 different hot girls A DAY on your way BETWEEN CLASSES. Then go out Friday and Saturday and find some more action. How many females are in the world? How many did you have fun with, meet, get to know, before you settled on ONE for the long term? I honestly think most high school relationships are just kids afraid of being lonely.