[quote]RelativeShoe wrote: ramble ramble ramble
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With all due respect… and remember, I said with all due respect… Your avatar is a Pokeman. What do you know about committed adult relationships?[/quote]
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You broke my internetz.
She is fucking him.
Whether she’s being naive and slutty or just slutty doesn’t matter. Dump her for a more mature woman who’ll stay awa from strange cock.
[quote]debraD wrote:
Also a lot of women I’ve met want too much from me in terms of relationship guidance and intimate conversations about stuff that I don’t have too much interest in. I do like to be alone more than many women I’ve met have been able to abide by.[/quote]
This describes me to a T.
My life would be lacking without my male acquaintances/friends. I cannot imagine being in a relationship where my partner prohibited me from having connections with other males.
That being said, I think I give out pretty clear signals in terms of boundaries.
At least you worked it in good like a baseball glove. Now it’s smooth pitch and catch for everyone else here on in. NEXT!!!New beginning hoes ain’t worth the strife. PREACH!!! YOU CAN’T CONTROL THE HOE SO HUNTING YOU MUST GO!!!
GPS could be an alternative option, and looking up the pussy perpetrator.
JK
If YOU want a trusting relationship and a gf that doesn’t text other guys, then SEEK one out. It is seriously that easy. You are so blind in your hate and anxiety about this you are not thinking clear. You know what you want you just need to except the fear you created around your girlfriend and go through with breaking up with her. Sure it stings for the first week or two but you get over it. Everyone does. You will NOT change her and the way she acts about texting males. She will bee ever more keen to hide it from you increasing your anxiety and fear of “did she cheat on me?”. It’s a cyclic cycle that will destroy you and what your perception of future women are.
Apart from the good advice doled out, here’s some harmless conjecturing that may or may not be relevant to your case.
[quote]jeep69 wrote:
I personally do not have any girls that are “friends” that I talk to regularly because I have a girlfriend, one female in my life aside from family is enough for me.Most of the females that I know from school or work I would fuck if given the chance and not in a relationship.[/quote]
Conjecture 1: If this is the case IMHO women in general don’t find you interesting/attractive enough to vy for your attention in real life. Your girl knows she has no competition and you’re safe, she’s got homeboy but since she feels she is “out of your league” and she’s swinging higher to land a good fish this time around.
While I would personally be worried, her having male friends means little other than she’s likely attractive and there’s a good chunk of guys ready to do her.
Again not necessarily a red flag IMHO but even more worrying than the previous one. That said, since she is truly comfortable with guys, she has no problem talking to them. But this time she has a “crush” on this guy (at the very least).
Her sister has obviously embellished his sexual equipment/prowess in front of your gf and your gf is now enamored, since in comparison to this guy you’re probably a wallflower with a modest-sized unit, average “yield” (…) and little experience. Not to mention, you’re someone other girls dont seem to be interested in, which is actually a turn off for a lot of younger women.
BUTTT whether this new guy has or has not fucked her, he will want to and try to at some point, thats for sure. Therein lies the real bad news. And if your gf is truly naive, it will happen eventually unless she seals it off (why would she? lol) ORRRR you upgrade yourself in every way possible.
[quote]Jlabs wrote:
looking up the pussy perpetrator.
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Some men do that and I always ask myself “…and then what”?
Would I check or even care if the GF or wife of someone I dont know wanted a piece of the action?
Why would I expect some random dude to do that?[/quote
I was kidding by the way referencing one of the previous threads where some dummy went out of his way to catch some 1 who they knew were cheating.
Now to be serious, if my girlfriend came back with a story as mentioned in this post then had too much contact after the fact, it is really a no brainer. Be glad you caught it in the early stages because it will get worse. Keep looking for someone who actually wants a committed relationship, it shouldn’t be a problem if girls have guy friends though, but in this instance it screams sketchy because it is not a friend that she knew before the op, so it shows me that she is bored of him and on to the next thrill of a guy trying to pursue her. Many girls or guys are like this and they shouldn’t lead others on because they have some form of attention need that isn’t being met, mey be a personality flaw but she is bad news. Gut instincts should be trusted, your brain will try to rationalize stupid relationships because it doesn’t want to go through emotions and change.
I’ve got 2 possible theories, both possibly bullshit but here goes.
Sibling rivalry. Op’s girl is just flirting with sister’s fuckbuddy to show that she could easily have him/take him from her.
2.The age old practice of telling tale as close to truth as possible, making it less likely to get caught out. Like telling every detail of the trip, but substituting “I fucked this guy” for “my sister/friend fucked that guy”.
[quote]Bod-of-Phwoar wrote:
I’ve got 2 possible theories, both possibly bullshit but here goes.
Sibling rivalry. Op’s girl is just flirting with sister’s fuckbuddy to show that she could easily have him/take him from her.
2.The age old practice of telling tale as close to truth as possible, making it less likely to get caught out. Like telling every detail of the trip, but substituting “I fucked this guy” for “my sister/friend fucked that guy”.[/quote]
Would be fairly easy to work out which one. Raise the topic with the sister.
If she goes apeshit at her sister for talking to her fuckbuddy it’s number one.
If she acts like she knows and is cool with it she is obviously complicit to the story and / or has been worded up.
[quote]Bod-of-Phwoar wrote:
I’ve got 2 possible theories, both possibly bullshit but here goes.
Sibling rivalry. Op’s girl is just flirting with sister’s fuckbuddy to show that she could easily have him/take him from her.
2.The age old practice of telling tale as close to truth as possible, making it less likely to get caught out. Like telling every detail of the trip, but substituting “I fucked this guy” for “my sister/friend fucked that guy”.[/quote]
Would be fairly easy to work out which one. Raise the topic with the sister.
If she goes apeshit at her sister for talking to her fuckbuddy it’s number one.
If she acts like she knows and is cool with it she is obviously complicit to the story and / or has been worded up.[/quote]
That’s a good test.
But I think Bod’s break down is likely correct, and even if it’s option 1 her behavior is unacceptable and grounds for dismissal. Fuck naive, that’s no excuse. She’s 26, not 16. Even at 16 unless she’s a complete social retard she ought to have enough emotional intelligence and consideration for her boyfriend to know that constantly texting and talking about some random dude “her sister fucked” on their trip is extremely disrespectful.
Soooo, OP what’s up? It’s been a week since you created this thread…wus happnin?
Have you talked to your girl and straightened out that she banged this dude on her 26 year old ‘business trip’ with her sister? Have you been walking around looking over her shoulder while she texts and facebooks this dude on the regular? Have you PIIHB yet? Is she about to go on another ‘business trip’ to the same city? Have you stopped all contact with her and moved on? Have you brought up an open relationship with her and had a 3way? What’s the dealy-o? Or deal yo? However the kids are saying it these days
[quote]mbdix wrote:
Soooo, OP what’s up? It’s been a week since you created this thread…wus happnin?
Have you talked to your girl and straightened out that she banged this dude on her 26 year old ‘business trip’ with her sister? Have you been walking around looking over her shoulder while she texts and facebooks this dude on the regular? Have you PIIHB yet? Is she about to go on another ‘business trip’ to the same city? Have you stopped all contact with her and moved on? Have you brought up an open relationship with her and had a 3way? What’s the dealy-o? Or deal yo? However the kids are saying it these days[/quote]
Or most importantly, is he secretly tracking her with a GPS?[/quote]
A good way to end up with a criminal conviction. In any event looks like its now an emotional long distance relationship (preceded by a one off sexual encounter) meaning tracking would be useless.
OP there’s one way you can settle this once and for all. Ask to look at her FB message logs and texts. If she says no or if there’s obvious gaps in the conversation (deletion) it’s time to end it and move on.