[quote]Rollsroyce13 wrote:
Thanks for the replies, it does feel hard not to blame my self with the what if’s and stuff but I know I can’t change anything, really appreciate the feedback its helped more then you could imagine.[/quote]
First, I am sorry about this. It’s horrible.
Second, there is nothing you can do about this. If someone wants to commit suicide, there is nothing you can do or say to stop it. He or she will either decide to do it or not, and, short of a rubber room, there is no way to prevent it.
Third, I’ve been through something similar, and you best leave this hot mess alone. Make sure she’s OK, then get her the fuck out of your life, for your own sake. I failed at this for various stupid reasons, and regret it daily.
As already advised please see a professional about this.
Best wishes to both of you. And never blame yourself for this. [/quote]
x2.
You may not think you need to talk to a professional, but do it anyway. Since you probably don’t know where to start, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline. They can connect you to the right people. 1-800-273-8255
As someone who’s been dealing with suicidal thoughts for a long time, I can tell you without a doubt that you have absolutely no reason to blame yourself for anything here. The shit that happens in the brain is fucking crazy. I can also say that someone who’s never had to deal with it really has no idea what it’s like. Don’t blame yourself at all.
[quote]Rollsroyce13 wrote:
Thanks for the replies, it does feel hard not to blame my self with the what if’s and stuff but I know I can’t change anything, really appreciate the feedback its helped more then you could imagine.[/quote]
Let us know what happens, you both are in my prayers…
Hang in there, get professional help and don’t blame yourself.
There is NOTHING you could have done.
I had a co-worker whose daughter walked in on her boyfriend who was waiting to shoot himself right in front of her. Turns out he’d had 3 other girls he pulled the same thing with but didn’t go through with the actual shooting. His mother confided this to my friend’s daughter afterwards.
Not saying your gf has tried this before, just saying you don’t know everything going on and even if you did it’s not your fault.
And don’t feel awkward about posting on here. We’re all your friends in times like this.
[quote]sen say wrote:
Hang in there, get professional help and don’t blame yourself.
There is NOTHING you could have done.
I had a co-worker whose daughter walked in on her boyfriend who was waiting to shoot himself right in front of her. Turns out he’d had 3 other girls he pulled the same thing with but didn’t go through with the actual shooting. His mother confided this to my friend’s daughter afterwards.
Not saying your gf has tried this before, just saying you don’t know everything going on and even if you did it’s not your fault.
And don’t feel awkward about posting on here. We’re all your friends in times like this.
wow, my thoughts and prayers go out to you
I attempted suicide ~7 months ago, got nailed by a car at 40 mph but was luckily ok. I’ll just say that people do heal, in my case quickly. I didn’t seek help but I would advise that you do. Weakness is NOT doing everything possible to get these horrible thoughts and behaviors settled out.
[quote]howie424 wrote:
With all due respect my friend, a mental health counselor may be better suited to help you in this time of need. Going in to see a psychotherapist isn’t a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.
I wish you the best of luck. Stay positive.[/quote]
This.
My father committed suicide when I was young, my great-uncle did is well, and I’ve had 2 ex-GF threaten multiple times. I was only about 10, but I hardly cried, and for the last decade have basically blocked out the whole thing and only thought about it in passing. I’d always felt I did a great job handling it, but that was not the case.
I hardly talked to anyone about it, avoided the subject, would hardly allow myself to cry in private about the situation, and never addressed it at all. It’s great you’re talking to people on here, but please, I beg of you, please talk to someone. Anyone. Do it all the time. I hope your GF is ok, but the worst thing ya’ll can do, IMO, is move on and not address this for as long as it needs to be addressed.
I sincerely wished I had been more open with it, because ignoring the severity of it has caused me to be no where near the man I want to and am capable of being, and resulted in me hurting myself and others due to the emotional stress I allowed on myself for letting this build up.
You’ll be in my prayers man, and I truly wish you the best. And do all you can to make the most of the blessing that was given in that she wasn’t successful.
OP, a friend of mine committed suicide when I was still in school. Nobody saw it coming, and even if they had, they probably couldn’t have done anything about it. Don’t blame yourself, and don’t think “what if?”. Lean on your friends and seek some professional help. Speaking about your problems is a sign of STRENGTH, despite what people may tell you. Don’t spend too much time by yourself - you’ll only get trapped in negative thoughts.
[quote]howie424 wrote:
With all due respect my friend, a mental health counselor may be better suited to help you in this time of need. Going in to see a psychotherapist isn’t a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.
I wish you the best of luck. Stay positive.[/quote]
This.
My father committed suicide when I was young, my great-uncle did is well, and I’ve had 2 ex-GF threaten multiple times. I was only about 10, but I hardly cried, and for the last decade have basically blocked out the whole thing and only thought about it in passing. I’d always felt I did a great job handling it, but that was not the case.
I hardly talked to anyone about it, avoided the subject, would hardly allow myself to cry in private about the situation, and never addressed it at all. It’s great you’re talking to people on here, but please, I beg of you, please talk to someone. Anyone. Do it all the time. I hope your GF is ok, but the worst thing ya’ll can do, IMO, is move on and not address this for as long as it needs to be addressed.
I sincerely wished I had been more open with it, because ignoring the severity of it has caused me to be no where near the man I want to and am capable of being, and resulted in me hurting myself and others due to the emotional stress I allowed on myself for letting this build up.
You’ll be in my prayers man, and I truly wish you the best. And do all you can to make the most of the blessing that was given in that she wasn’t successful. [/quote]
I am sorry to hear that man. My brother is borderline suicidal, and has been mentally problematic for years. She needs a mental health professional, and your support is probably the best you can offer. Stay strong cousin.
Sorry to hear man, But definetly know that it is never going to be you fault and these things are never easy to spot coming… I hope your girlfriend pulls through and realizes the preciousness in life and why it is so important, There is no one to blame here and if she pulls through it will be very important time of healing, let yourself heal for now as well… Do not focus on any what if thoughts because they do not represent what is ever real… Talk to any and everybody you need to for support or just to let out some emotion… I also highly recommend talking to a professional it can help with getting all the feelings and emotions you are going through better sorted out! Stay strong and remember whatever happens you only ever did what was best for everyone and showed nothing but love to your girlfriend.
I’m very sorry to hear this. Take the advice of these posters…seek professional help (even if you feel you don’t need it) and do not, under any circumstances, blame yourself for this.
My thoughts and prayers for you and yours. As others have said, I suggests seeing someone. It might not seem like it’s helping, but it’s helping. In the States we often have “Crisis Centers” that will take you at any hour. Stay strong. It is not your fault.
