[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]ChicagoLad wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]ChicagoLad wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]ChicagoLad wrote:
Anyway, she texted me later with this:
"So when I lost my dad, I lost part of me. And now I’m in this phase where I’m discovering who I am without him which is a new person. And then on top of that, I just got out of a long term relationship and have to figure out who I am without him. So moral of the story, I need a little time to figure myself out. I care about you a lot clearly. Your opinion really matters to me so I want to feel confident enough in myself to present myself in the best way possible to you.
But i’s really hard for me because I’ve been in this little rut now for a month or two where I don’t care about anyone. I just want you to know it’s not you. Like, I sit here all the time an think to myself wow all I want to do is go chill with him. But I have all these issues that scare the shit out of me that I need to deal with. I do, however, think it’s getting better because it’s getting harder and harder to stay away from you. And I’m sure this is all stupid and I’m asking a lot of you to put up with my shit. But I would really appreciate if you could understand that and just know that I do plan on meeting you."
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So what you appear, on the surface, to have here is a girl who recognizes that the combination of the death of her father and the breakup of her first significant relationship have thrown her for a loop, and who recognizes that she needs to be emotionally stable before embarking on a new, potentially serious, relationship.
*She loved her father and misses him, and recognizes her need to grieve.
*She believes that the breakup of a relationship she had for a significant portion of her teen years is a solemn event.
*She expresses a desire to present herself well for you and asks respectfully for patience.
You, on the other hand, are talking about having had one major serious conversation with her that had anything to do with a need for support - though I would say she was telling you stuff that’s important to her given the follow-up text, not seeking support - but you were too stoned to really remember the details of that support. Otherwise she’s kept it light. So how are you her emotional support?
As for dominance, the genuinely self-confident person has no need to carefully guard against being perceived as weak. He is comfortable with his shortcomings because he likes and respects himself despite them, and assumes that others will, too.
You seem to have stumbled onto an earnest, caring girl assuming there’s not a major deception at play (which I think is probably rare, because why bother?). And one whose company you enjoy and whom you find attractive.
So anyway, I’m sure you’re right, she’s probably using you for your emotional support. I’d block her ass.[/quote]
Damn, I feel like a cunt now.[/quote]
Haha, sorry! Just another viewpoint - do what you want with it.
I do agree that chemistry is important and that ultimately the question is whether or not you click in person. But a nice friendship is a good basis for things in case you do click when you meet. I don’t see that you have anything to lose here. I like your keep-engaged-but-pull-back-a-bit plan.[/quote]
Thanks, I’ll let you know how it goes… so, come here often?
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Uh, no. No, I don’t.[/quote]
Your post count betrays your latent desires.
