[quote]jbird643 wrote:
Success
Ok, so this is a bit of a rant, but does someone want to explain to me why the majority of people frown upon a successful mindset?
I understand that, in order to accomplish oneâ??s goals, sometimes he/she must make sacrifices that may harm those around him/her. But those sacrifices shouldnâ??t be too substantial, so shouldnâ??t the people affected by the sacrifices understand what you are trying to accomplish?
I have a theory on this. People practicing destructive behaviors want others to do these things with them. Hence the saying, â??misery loves company.â?? When you are striving to a goal that involves stopping one of these behaviors, some of your â??friendsâ?? may give you shit about it. At this point in time, you must realize that they are only giving you crap because of what I just said: they want someone else to engage in the destructive behavior with them.
For example, the summer after my senior year of high school I did not drink alcohol. Throughout my junior and senior year, I was a booze hound, consistently putting away 10 beers in a night. I made some friends by doing this, and once I stopped, some of these â??friendsâ?? gave me shit: some called me selfish, some told me I was a loser, but others respected my decision. This was eye-opening. You would be surprised at the number of people that appreciate a â??going against the grainâ?? decision if you ever choose to make one. The people that looked down upon my constructive decision, I considered toxic, and I tried not to take what they had to say to heart. However, I cherished the respectful comments I garnered. In the end, I lost some fat and gained some muscle. I went into college with a six back and a thick skin that I could apply to almost any situation.
If you havenâ??t gone against the grain in your life time, I recommend doing so. You definitely wonâ??t regret it.
-J
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Im dealing with this right now… Same kind of idea.
My flat mates have hated me for stopping drinking since jan and they give me shit about it all the time. I also get some stick at work for wanting to be the worlds strongest man. Its gets old early. I get stick off the biggest skinny fat i have ever seen and his actual fat mate. He then claims to be stronger than me cuz he can bench a higher percentage of his body weight… for a half bench with spot. grrrr
And since im the last one of my friends to finish my exams, theres a lot of people kikcing about telling me not to bother to revise etc etc. Wankers. Times like these you who your real friends are. It will pay off in the long run.
Scott