Do you have one of those wierd leaky eye things going on or something?
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I see it with somebody I’m close to but it happened a bit differently. He always had a woman in his life, one long-term relationship to another ever since he was young. I was the kind of person that had a different girl most weekends, I never got close to anyone, couldn’t open up, and was pretty lonely. I was actually a little jealous of him if I’m being honest. I never hated women at all but I thought I was after one thing which clearly wasn’t what I needed. My own delusions, insecurities, and behavior were stopping it from happening - forming a connection.
As time went on I stopped having these empty hookups, grew in many ways, developed my communication skills amongst others, and became the kind of guy that settles down, valuing all the things a woman brings. I am no doubt happier.
He is the contrast to that though, he’s been hurt badly and has gone the other direction. “I don’t want a woman, modern women are shit, they’re all dickheads”. It’s hard to get him out of this mentality. He’s a good guy but he’s completely lost his confidence and it manifests itself in other ways. I can imagine it’s like this for many men. A woman is far more likely to initiate divorce and it’s far easier for them to get attention straight out of a relationship, not just that but women often harness better friendships to lean on (could make a point for white knights often being there also). The victim tag almost always lands on the female - and I’m not saying that’s always wrong, but definitely a common observation. Living in a small town makes it even worse, all available girls have been with an assortment of people he grew up with, and it’s just not a situation he finds attractive.
If he just put himself out there, tried to join different clubs/do different activities, dropped his attitude, and actually began meeting people… I believe it would slowly fade away. I’ve tried to help as much as I can but it’s incredibly difficult but also not surprising that this is a growing trend.
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Yes, you have mentioned this a few times
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I was saying it to different people.
Put an end to your frustration. Contact @castoli and end his frustration at the same time.
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Thanks for the response.
They initiate 70% of “no-fault” (read: unjust) divorces.
No-fault divorce was another element of Sexual Revolution.
I’ll likely get back to the rest of your post later.
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I figured it out.
You’re a ninja. Their training is highly secret, so even if you had been trained, you wouldn’t know it.
So there you are just going about your business of living, and unbeknownst to you, you’re an ancient shadow warrior, virtually invisible and completely unstoppable. Like the wind.
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Can you elaborate on what a no-fault divorce entails?
The person filing just says the marriage has broken down and can’t be fixed. No specific reason needs to be given. It’s just irreconcilable differences.
Sorta like dating, but with possible economic consequences.
Yes, very serious ones.
One such person who has covered this topic thoroughly is Dr. Baskerville, who I mentioned before and in other threads. What can and has happened in no-fault divorce is summed up in the first five minutes of this interview.
People are staring a conversaton on my question.
You had a question?
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Doesn’t look like a question to me 
Just start watching and talking about Anime and I’m sure you’ll fine some incel who will be willing to marry you within a month 
Your answer, which ignored the bold question:
Great questions that you didn’t answer.
Great questions. No answer here.
Your “answer”:
I’m not gonna parse through nearly 200 replies doing this, but you get the point.
I’ll go ahead and say there’s a 5% chance you’re not a troll - you may just be socially (and verbally) inept, and still there’s plenty of opportunities for you to find a partner, but you’re getting asked serious and important questions regarding your predicament and you’re giving non-answers and focusing on ridiculous things.
So this:
You can run this on down the road, unless you’re willing to actually answer the tough questions.
There is, of course, the 95% chance that you’re a troll, and if so, I’m wasting my time like everyone else is (besides @skyzyks who’s made this an absolute Bobby Dazzler of a thread), but if you are a real person and you want real help, go back and reread all the posts, pick out the important questions (especially the ones you may be uncomfortable answering), and do some work. @BrickHead is someone who sees things VERY differently than I, but he is smart, well-versed in introspection, and passionate about this topic, and I genuinely think he could help you.
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Thank you!
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I feel crummy about how I initially judged you, dude. We might not agree on stuff but your opinions were obviously borne of the passion you have for being a husband and a father, and I respect the hell out of that. Family is everything - that’s something we can agree on.
I do feel as if you were probably a bit more coachable even at your worst than the OP is right now (again, if she’s for real), but nobody’s beyond help in this type of thing if they’re able to look in the mirror and answer some awkward questions.
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@flappinit It’s OK. Plus that was a long time ago, and I’m not into grudges, especially when someone sincerely apologizes.
Thanks again for the compliments.
Sadly, the BEST examples of trolling here disappeared with the removal of a forum group.
For example, the thread from which I borrowed the “holding a shoe up for size reference” statement…
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I believe I still owe him a ham.
I know someone who has been on the show.
The notoriety of being recognized at Walmart is a bonus.
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