Ericka… don’t break your arm patting yourself on the back by “re-uniting 2 friends”. Yeah… i’m sure this was your intention all along. As for him being mad because he won’t be getting any i seriously doubt that, unless you are 18, which you are not. There is nothing worse than a women scorned!
I wrote:
“However, you were not “dating exclusively” and he did not know this”
You reply:
“Actually I was not seeing anyone else and as far as I know neither was he.”
FYI, for the future, “dating exclusively” means more than the coincidentally not dating more than one person.
And yes, was the purpose of this thread “to bring two friends together” or to glory in your sense of your own sexuality? I try not to participate in conversations engineered to make my male or female friends inflate their self-esteem about their sexual charms or escapades. I think it’s pitiful. It’s much cooler to have sex and not talk about it. I personally think that the coolest approach to romantic matters is not to bullshit yourself on any point. At least that way, when someone gets hurt, or coarsened, we’re mature enough to accept responsibility, which is way more mature than you need to be to fuck.
I’ve had fuck buddies before. You don’t talk to your fuck buddy on a daily basis or even see them on a regular basis. That’s called dating. Fuck buddies call each other up every once in a while just to get together, hump each other’s brains out, and leave. You usually don’t have much in common with a fuck buddy other than the fact that your genitals fit nicely together. However, if you spend time together, enjoy each other’s company and conversation, and do bf/gf things, that’s different. If you’re close friends who spend time together everyday, and you’re fucking, sorry but you’re in a relationship no matter what you call it. If you don’t want your friend to get the wrong idea, don’t fuck him/her.
Ericka, you just happened to be the pig in this situation. I don’t necessarily mean that in a bad way, as I have been a pig to all but one girl in my career. When I say pig, I mean continuing to have sexual relations with someone when you know that you will drop them the moment something better comes along. No big deal, life goes on. Just know that your “friendship” will never be the same.
“Ericka… don’t break your arm patting yourself on the back by “re-uniting 2 friends”. Yeah… i’m sure this was your intention all along. As for him being mad because he won’t be getting any i seriously doubt that, unless you are 18, which you are not. There is nothing worse than a women scorned!”
Actually I was being a smart ass rather than patting myself on the back. Oh, and I am far from scorned. He and I are friends and talk daily…still. If I were scorned that would never happen. Does anyone on here have the ability to recognize sarcasm or are you just too serious for that? Must be a metro thing?
I can’t beleive how many posts this thread has gotten in just one short day
SCRUB has the best clarification and post so far.
Hey Ericka need any new “friends”?
I wish I had a ‘friend’ like you, girl. Tell this insecure asshole to get a life.
Why can’t you have both? I would have kept everything to myself until I knew for sure the new guy was someone I wanted to see on an exclusive basis.
I believe the “Don’t ask, don’t tell” policy can be applied. Until both parties decide that an exclusive situation is desired you are free to date as many men as you please.
IRON MAIDEN: Dont ask, dont tell…
Not sure of that. At all.
If the dame is responsible and uses her brain, fine, there won`t be any STD-fest around.
Which leaves the doubt on the other side, though. If she and her beaus all adhere the DADT policy, somebody`s inviting STD trouble down the line.
If shes not honest enough upfront to tell shes fucking a couple of guys at the same time, or its been 20 in the series, thats a fucking walking bomb youre sleeping with...and you have no idea if you trust` her. How could you? You never did your homework.
DADT…is that a synonym for not having the guts to accept the rightful consequences of your policies? The easy way out for being easy?
Just another reason, guys, to never trust anybody AND ask questions. The more, the better.
Its exactly like a business. If you go for the quick-sell/quick-kill, dont come back crying you have no repeat business or surprises. The one who asks the least amount of questions is usually the loser. Why gamble your health on trust?
If the other has nothing to hide, why should telling the truth be a problem? And if youre a true T-Man, youll probably respect her MORE for being honest than being upset by the 10-20-30-40+ people she could have slept with.
But, what the hell, it`s your life. Do what you want.
Iron Maiden: “I believe the “Don’t ask, don’t tell” policy can be applied. Until both parties decide that an exclusive situation is desired you are free to date as many men as you please.”
Correct, until you’re having sex or sexual intimacy. I think you’re full of shit. You don’t believe that the don’t-ask-don’t-tell policy applies after sex in this day and age.
Oh come on. It’s more than a little decent to let someone know if you plan to be out dating or screwing other people. You just never know who is or isn’t looking for something serious and you have to respect that.
A woman I’ve been chasing for a while keeps on letting me know she’s not interested in losing her “single” status right now. She’s up front about that – and I appreciate it. It’s up to me if I’m willing to see her on those terms or not.
The flip side is… back to the original question… whether or not you were “dating”… it’s now over. Tell buddy to view it that way and he’ll feel normal again.
“Don’t ask don’t tell”? WTF? Not sure about anyone here, but I’d rather not stick my dick in a hearse! I ask every girl I’ve dated (whether we’re intimate or not) what their history is (of course at the appropriate time). I have a right to ask questions when it comes to my health, as do others of me.
Personally, I think you’re only dating when the two of you decide you’re dating. You can both always claim you dated, broke up, and remained friends. However, you want to call it, is relatively meaningless…just learn your leason, and don’t pull the same stunt with someone else.
Don’t ask don’t tell is a great policy for dating and playing the field…not fucking the field. Geeeezus. If you’re just casually dating someone and you aren’t intimate with them, then no, they don’t really have a right to know if you’re dating anyone else. But once you cross the line and start sleeping with that person, you have a moral obligation to either A) stop sleeping with other people or B) tell him/her that you’re sleeping with other people so that they have the CHOICE to jeopardize their life by continuing to sleep with you. If someone trusts you enough to sleep with you, you at least owe that person enough not to expose them to someone else’s germs. When you do the math, it’s like you’re unknowingly sleeping with hundreds of people. Don’t ask don’t tell is like playing russian roulette.
I know what some people are saying: just lighten up, you’re making too big a deal of it - it’s just sex. This is usually the attitude of the 1 in 3 (or close to it) that are carrying around an STD. If the only issues at hand here were self-respect and feelings possibly getting hurt, then I’d be saying go fuck whoever you want whenever you want. I have a pretty liberal attitude when it comes to sex, but we’re playing by different rules these days. When you add STD’s and pregnancy into the equation, a person literally has the power to end another person’s life by sleeping with them.
If you’re not getting what you need from the person you’re fucking, find someone else to take their place. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. It will catch up with you and you will get burned, one way or another. I’m as horny as one can be, but I don’t need more than one person to satisfy me. What, do you take it in the ass from one guy while another one fills in the gaps? Pun intended.
1 in 3 has an STD! Anybody wanna buy some sheep?
The reason behind safer sex is because the other person might have an STD. The reason 1 in 3 people have them is because they don’t wear their seatbelt every time they drive. Using the correct precautions the odds of transmission go pretty damn low.
I’m sure a portion of those with STDs got theirs by assuming, instead of talking and going to be tested, that they were in a monogamous relationship with an STD free partner and so riding bareback was safe. Assumptions about things like that only lead to trouble.
I do agree that DADT is not a responsible or honest way to deal with the situation once sex is involved or about to be involved. Both partners should know the situation so they can make an informed decision as to the risk level they are willing to accept.
AvoidsRoids…from another era, when men were men and sheep were scared!
Maybe THIS was how mad cow disease started…
So which threads on this site in particular did you discuss after sex and did you two drink your post sex Surge, and if so, did P-Dog go for the three rounded scoop serving (138.6 g)?
I hope he used at least 24 oz of cold water.
I think it’s ironic that the guy who’s yelling about how they’re having sex “like monkeys” is named “Silverback”.
Here’s a little update. We’re all monkeys. Haven’t you been paying attention?
Dan “Yes, I’m aware that Silverbacks are Gorillas, and thus apes, not monkeys” McVicker