I would so like to meet your wife. I would especially like to drink with her and hear her stories. I imagine there being tears of laughter, and her becoming one of my all-time favorite people.
I can also imagine her being a most excellent long term client, because there’s so much to “unpack,” as we say in the business. “So I’m talking to this sweet old lady and all of a sudden he goes, ‘watch out, the dog bites.’ But he doesn’t! He’s never bitten anyone!”
And then we go over breathing techniques together and discuss the concept of radical acceptance.
Yes, that’s what I pictured, and what I assumed. But again sorority/sit pretty…well.
I do completely agree. Interestingly, exceptionally resilient children have certain common traits, and one of them is winsomeness. Winsome is defined as “attractive or appealing in appearance or character.” Which is what a good dog is.
I think have some social anxiety and I honestly think it comes from being black growing up around no one who looks like me. It’s definitely a journey to find who I am as a person rather than black man and getting a bunch of racist jokes in middle/high school. I am slowly building up my confidence though.
I wouldn’t wish a feeling of unnecessary self consciousness on anyone. It sucks lol.
I need some opinions: Sorority has some “prerecruitment” events that last from 9:30am to 5pm with a 1hr lunch break and maybe some of the sessions are optional
The school gym is on limited hours for the summer: 9am - 6:30pm but peak hours are 4-6pm (when my most solid bet for going are) and chances are I won’t get access to bence. The options are as follows:
Skip all optional “sisterhood bonding” sessions, sneak out early when they’re giving announcements and gamble that I get a barbell. Pros: free and safe, Cons: might not work and might piss sorority sisters off+ miss bonding. I already don’t really feel comfortable with them
buy day passes at a local gym and go early morning. Pros: gaurenteed gym/ bb access, Cons: unfamiliar w/ gym, will cost ~$50, need to walk on sketchy road early morning
Right now I’m leaning towards option 2, BUT $50 is a lot
Edit: Just realized that they are going to do "room checks, which could involve requiring us to DeCOraTe???
Go have a college experience. You have your whole life to lift weights. College happens one time, it’s way too short, and you’ll miss it for the rest of your life afterwards.
This is so true. I went to work full time at 17 and never looked back. Now at 29 I realize I have missed so much and it’s one of the saddest things ever. In the moment I didn’t feel like I was missing anything, and honestly didn’t have a choice. Talking with people now and listening to their stories and what all they’ve done, I lived under a rock and missed a TON of fun moments, memories, learning moments and so much more.
Live up the college experience and have fun! The gym will always be there until the day you’re too ole to go.
It’s my opinion that the sorority model does not work as well as the fraternity model even though they claim to have similar intentions…
That aside - stay and make friends at said sorority especially early in the fall. You don’t want to be the “sister who doesn’t do anything with us”. Also, expect the initiation to be weird (for lack of a better term).
I believe she would too but don’t be fooled, this is some sort of sorcery from an evil enchantress.
I can also imagine her being a most excellent long term client, because there’s so much to “unpack,” as we say in the business. “So I’m talking to this sweet old lady and all of a sudden he goes, ‘watch out, the dog bites.’ But he doesn’t! He’s never bitten anyone!”
And then we go over breathing techniques together and discuss the concept of radical acceptance
Just to add a twist, my wife is a psychologist. Unfortunately for her/fortunately for me my rugged good looks and boyish charm overcame her better judgement. Now she lives the cruel irony of having an arsenal of mental health strategies to help others but they are most required for her personal life.
I think tomorrow when we go to bed, I will tell her how much of a unicorn the academic/professional with proven personal results is in the fitness game and that it is most likely the same for her profession. I’ll also say how grateful I am to be able to give this to her. Then I’ll ask her if our talk is arousing her as much as it’s arousing me.
REALLY! Well, now, that IS interesting. And explanatory. She’s studying you! I’m sure there’s a thick file somewhere in the house.
Hahaha. I occasionally notice that I’ve brought up a topic up during romantic time that’s peculiar (i.e. wildly inappropriate) given the context, but he doesn’t seem one bit quelled by it, luckily.
This has crossed my mind more than a few times. Haha
I think this is an evolutionary thing in all females. Can’t think of a single girlfriend who hasn’t done a: Past midnight, a few wines down, mood is right, all heading in the right direction then “What do you think about us putting a skylight in the hallway…?”
I can see a David Attenborough style narration to it: it’s going well for the male, or so he thinks. Suddenly and quite abruptly she changes her focus to her living quarters. It seems this time he misses out. But he doesn’t give up this easily, no he’s been at this dance before…
Also a psych major. Coincidence? Hmmm…