You have your enemies assassinated?
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Nah, part of maturing is not having a list of enemies lol 
I like your thinking though āHAVING enemies assassinatedā instead of āassasinating enemiesā
If youāre gonna be an autocratic dictator you gotta learn to delegate.
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Wales (part of the UK) has just brought in a blanket ban on āsmackingā kids. Now Iām not advocating abusing a kid. But in extreme cases Iāve smacked my kids hand.
And Iāve noticed something as well. Amongst my friends there is a coronation.
100% of the undisciplined, unbalanced kids I know have parents that say things like:
āSmacking your child does nothing to discipline them and produces unbalanced adultsā
Iām so glad they are able to get by with out using force. Imagine how bad it would be if they did!
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Assassination is also a way to achieve this, FYI.
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Thatās true 
but asoā¦
Prevention is the best medicine
I confess that the worst bout of imposter syndrome I have is associated with guitar playing. Iāll admit that Iām a decent guitar player, but my repertoire of licks/runs is real limited and I feel like I just repeat a lot of the same stuff in different order. My drummer runs a recording studio and recommended me to one of his clients as a session guitar player. Iām now helping a 17-year-old ex-Amish kid record a country album, which is cool, but itās weird to be a hack-ass guitar player still getting paid for my services.
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Counterpoint: when something is unbalanced, a solution is to smack it back into balance!
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Genuinely laughed out load.
Iāve never āhitā my kids. Iāve taped them. The one time I used any real force was when the biggest was bullying the little one. Every time the little ones me stood up the biggest one would push him over.
So I did the same to him. Only for 30 seconds.
Empathy is not something you can always articulate. Sometimes you have to live it.
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See, my dad would never hit me. No matter how angry I got him, he would always just slowly count to 100. Then, heād take my head out of the water.
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I still listen to ACDC albums sooooā¦
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I learned the trick a few years back that, if you buy one of their albums, you actually own all of their albums.
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Iāll agree that 99% of parenting can be accomplished without need of physical discipline, but to take that tool away from the parenting toolbox is not appropriate.
If I had a 16 y/o son and found out he was beating his girlfriend, are you then to say that it is inappropriate for me to beat him then? or should we just throw him in jail so he can get beat in there instead?
I have no interest in hitting children and I think many times in the past it has been outright child abuse rather than ādisciplineā, but sometimes a kid needs to get hit. Physical punishment should be the very last tool in your parenting toolbox, but it still ought to be there.
Unfortunately, many times last=only.
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Iād agree with the 16 year old violent BF thing. 100%. And I would agree with the 99% remark also. It was a rare case that I smack my child. Even more so now that can talk and empathise. And it was only ever a shock value. I think it speaks volumes that the other day my kid did something pretty stupid and I was enraged. I stormed into the room and rather than run - he stood there and calmly (for a 9 year old) explained I had it wrong.
If Iād have been some sort of violent father that relationship would not exist. But on ward to other nicer things:
This weekend I was totally destroyed by a 6 year old:
I was reffing an U7 game of rugby. I had to explain some rules to the kids from another club and took a knee so I was on their level. When a kid walks over - runs their finger through my beard and goes āyouāve got a really long beardā. Bam - the whole team wants to touch my face now. And the opposition. It took an age to get them back into positions. And focusing on the game. And every time my head was low so I could see something or talk to a kid I got the ātreatmentā.
Confession:
As annoying as this was. It was quiet cute. I love my Sunday AM rugby.
Also - man some people take U7 rugby WAY to seriously. Yes the whole of the opposition is off side. Yes that pass was a touch forward. Yes they ran a foot out o touch. But dude - they are 6 years old. Let them have fun.
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What does that mean?
I think smacking a kidās hand who is reaching for a hot stove is kind. I think swatting a kid on the butt who is trying to run out into traffic can be kind.
I feel this. I, also, can admit Iām a pretty competent guitar player. But I always feel like Iām just playing variations of the same licks over and over. I played in a classic rock cover band for several years, and so much of that stuff is just mid-tempo blues rock in E or G. Some nights playing out just felt like I was improvising the same solos over every song.
Both.
1 of my kids had an obsession with forks and plugs. We used the plastic blanks indoors. But kids are awful. And he tried it EVERYWHERE. We were in a shop and he trying to put a plastic toy into one. That was safe(ish). But had he found something metal to do it withā¦ So we had to take to smacking his hand even when he was trying with the blanks. He learnt that his hands going near the plugs hurt.
I know it sounds ābarbaricā but pain make you a quick study. And sometimes you can not wait / risk letting them learn something the long way.
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Carl Iām not even a father but reading that terrifies me.
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It is not uncommon. They see you putting things into the sockets and they are trying to copy. One one hand its cute. On the other it will get them killed.
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