I am very aware of and can understand why men believe that arms, abs, shoulders, etc. would garner attention from women. I think they can provide some rationale for that. I feel that throwing calves into that is a little silly. Of course, people can be ridiculous at least some of the time, so probably not a shocker. And I dunno, maybe there are at least a few women out there who care about their partnerās calf development!
I very much respect anyone who comes out of the closest on anything in an unashamed way. Celebrate that!
Shoulders are the only part of my body Iāve received specific compliments about from women, and thatās on more than one occasion. Soā¦thank you Dan John?
I confess I may have told a bit too much about myself online todayā¦
If we can see it, its important.
If we canāt see it (back, glutes/hams, etc.) it doesnt exist.
Weāre like hide & seek with a 3 year old, with ourselves.
Imo overly developed/large calves are a sign of a non athletic, non explosive person. Exhibit A -Lawrence Taylor, greatest defensive NFL player of all time. Exhibit B -Usain Bolt, fastest human ever. Exhibit ad nauseum -no NBA pro has giant calves, theyāre all lean and proportional.
I confess I abhor large muscular calves in females, that plus cankles. I confess Iād rather go BBWā¦well, maybe abstinenceā¦
I confess that body hair grosses me out
I videoed my top set of deadlifts in the gym today. In doing so I felt I had to mention it to the lady training next to me and assure her she would not be in the shot. She was very nice about it and we conversed for a few mins after the set between training. I have become one of those video at the gym guys !! LOL
I am not for you
Every day I increasingly embrace the prospects of becoming a crazy dog lady, and I am okay with it.
And How Did You Find This Out, young lady?!!?
HMMM?
Nevermind, nevermind. I dont want to know.
clutches chest, dives for the fainting couch
On the topic of menās obsession with developing their calf muscles, itās for kudos from other bros. Some of us start lifting to attract girls, but eventually we all seek props from the dudes who are bigger than us.
This is true. I posted video of my BB bench on here, but it would never occur to me to show it to my wife.
I like developed calves. I donāt need (or want) them to be enormous, but I see them as functional muscle, so find them attractive in cyclists, runners, and elevation hikers, and justā¦a marker of health and strength.
Coming back to this, I have two thoughts. One is that āI ate like an asshole this weekendā is standard phrasing in my head, and one Iāve expressed at work a couple of times to what I think were surprised looks. Is this not a standard reference? Is it a gym thing?
The other thought (and addressing SELAD in earnest rather than jokingly) is that it hasnāt helped me to think āJesus, stop eating like a fucking asshole!ā I like @T3hPwnisherās just stop eating so damn much because it transfers the burden to every day rather than trying to hit specifically at the times when Iām out of control, during which I am, of course, out of control, and eating like an asshole.
Although confession: I was down almost three pounds in two days on the just stop eating so damn much program, but then the weekend hit and off I went to a trampoline park birthday party three hours from home, where I both strained my back (goodby daily cardio!) and ate like an asshole (though less of one, because I am trying). Iām back up to where I was before starting the JSESDM program, but I also restarted cardio yesterday.
I may need to start a thread about weight gainer meds, because I think Lexapro may be ruining my life. Except Iām sleeping like a baby and have stopped walking around in a state of free floating dread, so I donāt want to stop.
More embarrassingly, I post physique pics on here. Iād never show them to my friends
Jon Andersen had great, simple guidance.
āDonāt ever get too hungry or too fullā.
Iāve been to two of these this month, and for the fist time in my entire life.
They are awesome! The only thing missing is paintball guns.
Thatās what I figured to be the case.
Edit: I guess my exploration of this topic points more toward that men donāt admit to themselves that women donāt care that much if at all. And I could understand why. People rationalize silly and sometimes dangerous things, so yeah. I will continue to find it all comical.
@EmilyQ Like I tell my clients - Just take it one meal at a time. And your next meal is your next opportunity to get back on track. Weāre all @ssholes when it comes to eating sometimes, and thatās okay. Iām a firm believer that āall foods fitā BUT all foods donāt fit all of the time. Balanceā¦ Itās simple, right??? lol
Whenever someone feels guilty about eating an entire pan of brownies, I always tell them that theyāre just carb-loading for whatever life may throw at them.