Okay, but hold on…be a little bit cool here. I fear you’re in danger of being laughed out of the North if you gear up to the extent offered here.
REI or EMS:
*Decent hat. I like ear flaps, too, but if you’re just wandering around you’ll look silly as a male who is not climbing the actual north face of anything. I was camping this weekend (temps in the low 20’s at night) and two of the guys (up from the city, as we like to say) had goofy fur ear-flap hats. They were mocked. They may not have cared, however, because they were warm. I had my ear-flap hunting hat with me, but pride forbade me wearing it. I do wear it in sub-20 or snowy weather.
*Decent coat. I get mine for around $200-$250. I have a light, packable version (EMS) and a warmer version (REI, maybe?). I have raincoats/shells put over the coats, but I tend not to stay out in the heavy rain long enough for it to overwhelm the coats’ resistance. My husband, on the other hand, wears his shell all the time, with various base layers. Snow slides right off my regular jackets.
*Layers layers layers, and make sure one of them zips up to cover your neck.
*REALLY important to me are my bottom shells. My favorites are a pair of cheap Nikes that I don’t think are meant to be used as such (probably for wearing to and from the gym) but they’re perfect for the job. I have more serious ones as well. These are game changers. I like to sit on snowy rocks without getting wet. They slide down hills nicely, too.
*Socks, yes, but boots more importantly.
*Gloves. I far prefer mittens when it’s really cold, but here again as a male you’ll be mocked unless doing some SERIOUS cold weather surviving. I’m getting ready to replace my good mittens, and will plan to spend $70-$90. I also always keep cheap, light gloves in my jacket pockets (ALL jacket pockets) through the season.
I suggest moving slowly. I can find layers claustrophobic. I can’t imagine wearing two pairs of socks, but happily don’t need to where I am and where I go. SmartWool and good boots work well enough. But buy things, try them, and then buy more if they work.
LLBean is another good option for solid gear, though it lacks the cool cred the mountaineering stores have.