WOW, the system is wonky. I edited above to say that my post was directed at @thefourthruffian, then went to delete the double post, and wound up deleting the first edit, which was in a different post (it appeared).
I blame the little videos.
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Soooo, in the double post that is now deleted (it seems) I noted that this was a difficult post for me not to flame.
I wear a minimizing bra because the man that looks first for this would not be a man I want. He would be a man I would have a hard time trusting.
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Indeed but I doubt only bad men are attracted to big boobs and ass
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Of course thatâs true, but Iâm not looking for a man whoâs looking for a woman who specifically showcases these as primary assets.
Funny thing I may have mentioned beforeâŠI asked my husband one day what he liked best about me. He got a panicked look on his face, but pretty quickly answered âyour brains and your beauty.â Then there was a long pause during which I could SEE him assessing whether heâd answered correctly, then he added âequally,â and looked self-satisfied.
I realized after the exchange that it was unfair to ask - I wasnât looking for any deep anything, just a passing curiosity, but itâs amused me since. His face! That added âequally!â
Whether he was telling the truth or not, the kind of man I want knows my priorities and is willing to share them.
I also know from long experience that when my mind is on display socially, my âsexual market value,â as the PUAâs call it, increases. A lot of men like smart girls. Of course it doesnât hurt that my body is and always has been better than most of my age-peersâ. But âfitâ is the look Iâm going for, not âsexpot.â
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I never understood the fascination with large breasts. I personally feel lucky I donât have to deal with large lumps of fat bouncing around when I workout.
Iâve heard it explained as better ability to adequately feed offspring ⊠not sure if the evidence supports the hypothesis
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I figured out if you quote the post above or below the one you intend to quote, you eventually quote the right one.
I donât disagree that my advice is horribly sexist, bordering on misogynistic, and big boobs can attract the wrong kind of guy. It can also be part of the package that attracts the right kind of guy. If it is true (again, which I doubt) her face is awful, well, sheâs fit and smart and funny. You canât buy fit and smart and funny. You can, however, buy boobs to compensate for a bad face.
I donât view fake boobs as any different than makeup or nice clothes. Itâs all part of the game we play to be sexually desirable â which is a huge part of any healthy relationship.
Like it or not, men like boobs. Good men like boobs. It just gives her a bigger pool to chose from.
Itâs up to her to weed out the unwanted losers.
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Well youâre not a man. I donât understand why women watch Oprah or have to go potty in pairs.
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Tbh, I donât either, nor do I understand âfan girlingâ
I donât like bothering with deodorant or washing under my nails. Or why the smell of my horse on my jeans is not a good smell for a lot of people. Sweaty horse smells good to me.
I have learned, however, that proper grooming, dress, and odor are part what is expected in the world.
Go buy dress-for-success, 2020 version.
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My nose is dead so a lot of smells donât bother me 
I plan on getting a PhD so I have another 7-10 years before I have to deal with that sad reality 
I donât care much for boobs, but a nice booty is a huge plus for me.
@EmilyQ of course ultimately the most important is the brain and personality: because you have to live with the person, not just fuck. And then the face. But a hot body is not always just a matter of wining the genetic lottery.
Personaly Iâm around very, very little women, so getting to know them before thinking about a relationship is almost impossible. So I go for the body first, then the personality. Right now Iâm only really going for the hot fit girls. Because I can, and they are beautiful.
But then, we know the game of iron. A hot, fit body, is like an iceberg: we know that behind it hides grit, willingness to endure and suffer, working hard, making sacrifices, a diet, a lifestyle that we can share etcâŠ
This is not âflameâ just a counter point. If it comes over âcombativeâ Iâm sorry.
I have a hard time with this point of view. The inference is that âbecause my man was attracted to my tits - the next time he sees a nice pair of tits he might be offâ.
However - âyour manâ WOULD need to be attracted to something. Lets say your sense of humour. Why is he not going to cheat on you when he come across another funny girl?
I get that tits are far more sexual giving to a greater chance of lust. But its identical logic. Perhaps if he meets a funnier woman heâll start a new relationship? Its an odd point - appreciate it. But if youâre worried that your man will leave you because another woman also has the same attributes that attracted him to you - then Iâm sorry but there will always be someone out there with better attributes than you.
Secondly - I really donât see why its okay to love someone for their intelligence - a trait largely genetically derived. Over their looks - a trait largely genetically derived.
If someone told me that they married a girl because she was smart Iâd think the same of them as some that married someone for their looks. Well done. She was born disposition to be that way. Sure hard work can help make the most of a situation. But honestly. BLEGH.
FYI I married my wife because I love her. I have no idea why. But I do. I mean I can rattle on all the tripe that people give about kind & loving. But who marries someone they describe as an evil a& cold as ice.
Anyway I see the conversation has moved in 10 minuetsâŠ
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My decision science course should use this as the definition of a heuristic- thatâll get the guys to pay attention 
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Well⊠I think youâre using the literal definition of intelligence rather than the colloquial, which Iâd argue take a bit more work than simply having a Mensa level IQ
Yeah certainly not the most optimal but it is a kind of filterâŠ
I dated for three years a really, really good woman. I knew she was into me, and I was like âheeeh maybeâ. And then I was never sure when later, many hot girls would be interested into me. Maybe I was too young, or too vain? But I said to myself : âIâm never going to get again with a girl Iâm not 100% physically into herâ. Perhaps itâs because I had not experienced being with a 10 yet, and that ultimately it doesnât really matter, but I donât want to risk it anymore.
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Iâm Iâm not looking for a 10, or even physical attraction necessarily. I want an economically viable man who workouts and tolerates my lifestyle choices
Ah, see I view this as a strategic mistake. Your most likely successful mate will likely be someone who is another academic. Being the beautiful professor, in the fitted tweed jacket (and maybe some horn rimmed glasses) will bring all the boys to the yard, from where you can take your pick.
Note, you donât, as I think Emily is misunderstanding, have to lead with your boobs. But, as part of a package, thatâs a great addition.
Me, I think you have the âgifted kid syndromeâ. Youâre smart, youâre tough, but youâre not going to try to compete except where you know you will get first place. Youâve convinced yourself that first place goes to the Barbie Doll. Well, maybe in a swim suit competition or among 12 year old boys, thatâs true. Ergo, you refuse to compete.
Humans need to be a complete package to get a real partner: personality, intelligence, looks, work ethic, etc. Neglecting any of it leads to failure.
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Haha! I actually love fashion and jewelry (especially jewelry), I just prefer living a life in which I can get away with spending less than 5min getting ready every morning. If only women could wear the exact same thing every day Steve Jobs style and still get taken seriously
You would date a man who youâre not attracted to? Then what, only sex in the dark ahahah? And what then, if youâre being hit on by the handsomest guy ever and your hormones are all over the place.
I think that looks in the end donât really matter. Like @thefourthruffian said, in the end weâre looking for a package, and sometimes different parts of the package make you fall in you love.
Then why some people only go for âhotâ people? Why do Dicaprio only dates young, hot models? Are they good person or not? Probably just because he can. Like when youâre rich, you drive an Audi or a Lada?
Hereâs a story, when I started marketing school, 5-6 years ago and that I was still fat, I was hanging with hot girls. Like really hot. One is a model and a Gymshark athlete. But to me she was just a friend, despite most guys hitting on her or looking at her with saucer eyes. I wouldnât have even imagined to hit on her, because in my mind, I had zero chance. Never even I imagined it. I didnât care for her. Fastforward like a month ago and I bump into her, and yeah now I would totally hit on her.
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