Fine-Tuning the Machine & Tacking on the Vanity Plates

Training
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Alrighty, I’m gonna quick post my benching from last night and then I’ll pop in later to post the squat session that I did today. It’s my sister’s 30th and I have to go Skype her with the fam. That bitch is in Antigua for another week plus… hopefully making a little niece or nephew for me to spoil in the future. Hahaha.

Wednesday bench

Warmup- bench width pullups: 4, 4, 3; shoulder dislocates: a bunch; bradfords with the bar 2x10

BP- 65x5, , 85x5x2, 105x5x2, 115x2x2, 95x10x3

Home to watch the Phillies play 12-19th innings against the Reds. My 2 favorite teams. No scotch, but I was tempted…

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[quote]kimbakimba wrote:
A five year relationship is a long time. Although it sounded like you didn’t spend a whole lot of time with your ex in recent months, its still a transition time and those aren’t easy.

The older I get, the more I wonder if one can ever REALLY know another person. You may think you know someone, but there are some private parts that some people keep well hidden even from their SO. Its just odd that your ex chose to reveal some of these parts to you on your way out the door.

Anyway, you’ve made your decision and seem OK with it and I wish you peace.[/quote]

This got my attention, ladies. Sorry to hijack, however, I’m curious as to whether you all really want to know the SO completely. There are two sides that are at war within me: the cynic believes that while people talk about wanting to know everything, the moment the SO lays all their cards on the table, most of those same people turn tail and run. Meanwhile, the hopeful part believes in putting it all out there for that SO to know. Literally wearing your heart on your sleeve for that SO. Your thoughts?

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[quote]Beast27195 wrote:

[quote]kimbakimba wrote:
A five year relationship is a long time. Although it sounded like you didn’t spend a whole lot of time with your ex in recent months, its still a transition time and those aren’t easy.

The older I get, the more I wonder if one can ever REALLY know another person. You may think you know someone, but there are some private parts that some people keep well hidden even from their SO. Its just odd that your ex chose to reveal some of these parts to you on your way out the door.

Anyway, you’ve made your decision and seem OK with it and I wish you peace.[/quote]

This got my attention, ladies. Sorry to hijack, however, I’m curious as to whether you all really want to know the SO completely. There are two sides that are at war within me: the cynic believes that while people talk about wanting to know everything, the moment the SO lays all their cards on the table, most of those same people turn tail and run. Meanwhile, the hopeful part believes in putting it all out there for that SO to know. Literally wearing your heart on your sleeve for that SO. Your thoughts? [/quote]

It is hard to lay it all on the line and be totally open. I would like to be able to tell a future SO everything though, not for the relationship but for me(I think that requires confidence). I would like to be this confident.

Hi Veggie! :slight_smile:

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I personally don’t expect even the people closest to me to tell me EVERYTHING - i don’t think its human nature. And I’d be lying if I said I told my guy everything too. There are just some things that are held sacred to you, your deepest dreams and desires and things like that. But its knowing that I can tell my guy anything if I wanted that’s important, as well as the fact that if he or I asked about something then the honest answer would be given. And anyways, I kinda like not having all one’s cards open, I’ve known my guy for 10 years and he still surprises me! We’re ever evolving.

Veg, you’re quads are looking awesome! You have an incredible figure, mama. Your measurements are definitely indicative of your hard work. Strong and sexy!

Nice benching!

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My hubby and I have been together since we were teenagers. We’ve grown up together while having babies and making sense of what this so called military life is all about.

It’s brought out the good, bad and now crazy sides to us both :wink:

And he still loves me and chases after me like a puppy.

But all that doesn’t happen overnight. Take your time Beast man, take your time.

Hi VEG!!!

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[quote]mom-in-MD wrote:

My hubby and I have been together since we were teenagers. We’ve grown up together while having babies and making sense of what this so called military life is all about.

It’s brought out the good, bad and now crazy sides to us both :wink:

And he still loves me and chases after me like a puppy.

But all that doesn’t happen overnight. Take your time Beast man, take your time.

Hi VEG!!!

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I get the time thing, as well as what you both are saying, Masch & Charlie. I am not referring to just sharing everything in one sit-down (I will take another look at what I wrote in a sec…) I meant it more in the sense of what you referred to, Masch. Being open and willing to share. Thanks for the input, ladies.

And Veg, if I didn’t mention my liking of your last pic, then I truly suck at life. :wink:

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Have fun watching baseball.

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Hi veggie! Very nice benching. Still a lot of volume there.

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That’s a lot of benching!

Re: Beast’s comments - I wouldn’t expect to know everything about a SO, just as I like to keep part of myself private. But certain things obviously require full disclosure. A SO leading a double life as a serial killer might just put a dampener on things.

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I am willing to hear/ open minded. But I do believe that some things are better kept to oneself. Your S/O is NOT your mother, your psychiatrist or savior.
a little mystery and seperation between two people is very much ok.
I do answer truthfully if a question has been nagging the husband and he actually asks.
There are a lot of variables to this however, personality, time and timing, level of relationship…

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[quote]nlmain wrote:
I am willing to hear/ open minded. But I do believe that some things are better kept to oneself. Your S/O is NOT your mother, your psychiatrist or savior.
a little mystery and seperation between two people is very much ok.
I do answer truthfully if a question has been nagging the husband and he actually asks.
There are a lot of variables to this however, personality, time and timing, level of relationship…

[/quote]

I’m kind of on the fence about this subject. I lean more towards if you are married to someone they should be your everything (besides G-d). However, I do agree there should be both emotional chastity and sexual chastity before marriage. :slight_smile:

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[quote]nlmain wrote:
I am willing to hear/ open minded. But I do believe that some things are better kept to oneself. Your S/O is NOT your mother, your psychiatrist or savior.
a little mystery and seperation between two people is very much ok.
I do answer truthfully if a question has been nagging the husband and he actually asks.
There are a lot of variables to this however, personality, time and timing, level of relationship…

[/quote]

My sister from another mother. Thanks for saving me the typing.

Hi veggie!

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can’t believe i’m quoting alanis morrissette (lol)

‘i believe that 1 and 1 make 2’.

i think there is a difference between being discrete about some things (i’m sure we all have things somewhere we might not be so proud of) and lying / misrepresenting (e.g., about present activities).

guess a lot comes down to having an intuitive sense of whether knowledge of something really would be a deal breaker for the other person or not. if you think it would be and you lye / mislead then that doesn’t seem right. if you really don’t think it would make much of a difference to them then it probably doesn’t matter so much.

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It’s impossible to fully know another. That’s my take.

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This discussion about telling everything to your SO is very interesting. i personally do not expect or want to know everything. But as Cal stated, leading some sort of double-life (which FWIW is sort of what happened in my recent relationship) can kinda be a deal-breaker. alexus, you are so right on target. And Beast, thanks for starting the conversation. I have told you before that you can hijack whenever you see fit. In fact, I don’t view it as a hijack anyway.

Last few days have been busy. That said, training has been awesome. I trained squats/legs on Thursday and there was an estrogen fest going on in the squat/DL area of the gym: me, a older PL lady squatting in the rack next to me, and a little FA DLing some pretty serious weight in her socks nearby. It was very uplifting. The FA stopped me in the locker room to complement my FS technique. She seems pretty cool and it is always nice to be recognized by someone as being serious.

Thursday training: legs

Warmup- MANY wall squats as I waited for some meathead kid to wrap up his 1/4 FS session. I used my usual “stare-down” approach and didn’t wait too long. Also like 4 sets of spiderman crawls.

FS- barx5, 95x5x2, 105x5x2, 115x5, 120x3, 125x3, 2, 135, 135

GM- 115x10, 125x10x3

OH Bulgarians (no deficit, couldn’t get step because some group exercise class in session)- 68x8x3, each leg

Those OH Bulgarians are fucking hard! I like them. A lot.

Friday- off

Saturday: back and triceps

Warmup: some shoulder drills, pull aparts, etc

BB row- 118x8, 128x8x2, 138x6, 6, 4, 142x4*PR

After the first set some dude came over and said that my rows were one of the most impressive things he has ever seen (?), told me that I was his hero and asked me how much I weigh. LOL. I answered him and then put more weight on the bar. The last set was exhilarating.

Pullups- 2, 4, 3, 4

Cable straight-arm pulldowns- 10x3

Stretchers- 8x4

Dips- 13*rep PR, 7, 7, 5

BB standing OH tri ext- 58x10, 63x8, 68x8

Cable javelin throw tri ext- 10x3 each arm

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[quote]veggiestrong wrote:
I answered him and then put more weight on the bar. The last set was exhilarating.

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Just perfect.

And the OH bulgarians really blow my mind. I fall over on regular bulgarians.

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Wow. Those overhead bulgarians sound hard. I’m impressed!

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awesome. sounds like you have a nice gym, too.

cool overhead work. waiters walks and now overhead bulgarians. your balance must be pretty good indeed.

congrats on your dips

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OH bulgarians? I might have to give those a go!

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What would I do without my awesome family?

I’m currently sitting in my broken-down car on the shoulder of I-95 waiting for my dad to come to my rescue. I had to go walk a client (dog) and was cruising along when next thing I know my car starts slowing down and the battery idiot light on my dashboard lights up. Oh well. Sucks because it is like 90+ degrees today. Hope I can still make it to the gym before they close at 8 pm.

Always excitement in veggieworld!