[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
Honestly, if you are attracted to a chick that you click with emotionally and the sole hang up with your relationship is you being worried about what your friends think, then you probably aren’t ready for a relationship because that shows some huge insecurities.
Dudes that have that I need a hot chick on my arm to show people how cool I am are lacking some serious self confidence usually. I disagree with Varq and Cap, you need to change yourself before you worry about trying to change her. Especially if the reason you are trying to change her is to impress your friends. [/quote]
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
Honestly, if you are attracted to a chick that you click with emotionally and the sole hang up with your relationship is you being worried about what your friends think, then you probably aren’t ready for a relationship because that shows some huge insecurities.
Dudes that have that I need a hot chick on my arm to show people how cool I am are lacking some serious self confidence usually. I disagree with Varq and Cap, you need to change yourself before you worry about trying to change her. Especially if the reason you are trying to change her is to impress your friends. [/quote]
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X2. Which makes it 20000 for the record
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Well it had to be over 9000, of course.[/quote]
Wait, are we talking the multiplier of the post or acceptable caloric intake for a fat girl?
You’re a teenager, yes? There’s your problem. It won’t be fixed on a lifting website, unfortunately. The good news is that there’s a 99.9% chance you feel such a connection with this person because, again, you’re a teenager…this is what you people do. Every single one of you is perpetually meeting the love of your life, perpetually breaking up, and perpetually meeting a new one within weeks. You can’t distinguish true feelings from the way your penor feels, hence the problem.
[quote]HeavyTriple wrote:
You’re a teenager, yes? There’s your problem. It won’t be fixed on a lifting website, unfortunately. The good news is that there’s a 99.9% chance you feel such a connection with this person because, again, you’re a teenager…this is what you people do. Every single one of you is perpetually meeting the love of your life, perpetually breaking up, and perpetually meeting a new one within weeks. You can’t distinguish true feelings from the way your penor feels, hence the problem.[/quote]
Ya I was going to mention that the OP is in high school and that most of this advice is treating him like he is at least in college, or older.
Why are guys the last ones to find out that guys are immature?
I’d say about 23 or 24 is when guys finally start maturing.
OP is a classic ‘victim mentality’ whether or not he realizes it. He probably works hard in the gym etc, playing sports while the girl does none of it, making him feel like he ‘deserves’ better. That’s normal. That’s is the exact reason most relationships fall apart, because “We grow apart”.
I’m European, so my upbringing and POV is vastly different from the ‘american way’, but I would definitely NOT stay with that girl if I was you.
IMO, you want to meet as many women as you can, because only then can you truly find out what you like, or what type of person is compatible with you.
edit: think about it this way, there is 6 billion people on this earth, and if you don’t feel like it’s perfect with your current girl, stop wasting her time, because there are A LOT of other girls who could be better suited for you.
[quote]HeavyTriple wrote:
You’re a teenager, yes? There’s your problem. It won’t be fixed on a lifting website, unfortunately. The good news is that there’s a 99.9% chance you feel such a connection with this person because, again, you’re a teenager…this is what you people do. Every single one of you is perpetually meeting the love of your life, perpetually breaking up, and perpetually meeting a new one within weeks. You can’t distinguish true feelings from the way your penor feels, hence the problem.[/quote]
Just got out of teen years a month ago…a fresh 20 now
My dear Chobbs, once upon a time I too was a young whippersnapper like yourself. And I too turned away a couple of wonderful women; one was too skinny, and one was too chunky; simply because my ‘friends’ at the time would have taken the piss. I regretted those decision for years afterwards.
Ask yourself this; what will you regret the most? Letting this girl slip through your fingers, or putting up with some friendly ribbing from your mates?
As an aside, all the friends I was worried about impressing are now fat, balding and either divorced or still single. The two women in question are now happily married and hot MILFs.
[quote]HeavyTriple wrote:
You’re a teenager, yes? There’s your problem. It won’t be fixed on a lifting website, unfortunately. The good news is that there’s a 99.9% chance you feel such a connection with this person because, again, you’re a teenager…this is what you people do. Every single one of you is perpetually meeting the love of your life, perpetually breaking up, and perpetually meeting a new one within weeks. You can’t distinguish true feelings from the way your penor feels, hence the problem.[/quote]
Ya I was going to mention that the OP is in high school and that most of this advice is treating him like he is at least in college, or older.[/quote]
Because Chobbs is not in highschool…hasnt been for a while.
[quote]chobbs wrote:
So you know shits gotten real when you post it on a lifting forum but you guys’ give out good advice so I figured what the hell. Long story short…I like this girl and she REALLY likes me, we’ve had a fairly long past together 9 months and went through some rough shit. I trust her with anything and even though I’ve fucked her over she still trusts me. We’d do anything for each other. I know I’m a huge fucking dick for this but one of the two reasons I don’t wanna be with her is that she’s a little bigger, not fat by any means, just bigger. I’m such a fuck I know, but lemme hear your thoughts.[/quote]
Despite what the “holyier then though” crowd will say…I’ll be honest with you. My wife gained some weight after my 2 kids. I spent allot of time in strip clubs and doing stuff thats bad… I finally got her to hit the gym and I bought her some fake tits… 2yrs down the road she looks the best ever… She found out I wasnt happy with her weight gain when she over heard me bitching to a buddy… It was bad news… At the same time it did spur her to hit the gym and diet… Long story short she will be mad to hear it, but if you want her to get hot again she may need the push… Also if she sees you trying to look sexy or do things top spur more sex she will get it… I’ve had friends divorce women for getting fat… Your a man what you like is what you like… Its awful hard to get a boner with ugly chicks…
[quote]HeavyTriple wrote:
You’re a teenager, yes? There’s your problem. It won’t be fixed on a lifting website, unfortunately. The good news is that there’s a 99.9% chance you feel such a connection with this person because, again, you’re a teenager…this is what you people do. Every single one of you is perpetually meeting the love of your life, perpetually breaking up, and perpetually meeting a new one within weeks. You can’t distinguish true feelings from the way your penor feels, hence the problem.[/quote]
Ya I was going to mention that the OP is in high school and that most of this advice is treating him like he is at least in college, or older.[/quote]
Because Chobbs is not in highschool…hasnt been for a while. [/quote]
I guess more time has passed than I thought, or I read some post of his that was talking past tense about high school that I thought was present. Oh well.
[quote]HeavyTriple wrote:
You’re a teenager, yes? There’s your problem. It won’t be fixed on a lifting website, unfortunately. The good news is that there’s a 99.9% chance you feel such a connection with this person because, again, you’re a teenager…this is what you people do. Every single one of you is perpetually meeting the love of your life, perpetually breaking up, and perpetually meeting a new one within weeks. You can’t distinguish true feelings from the way your penor feels, hence the problem.[/quote]
Ya I was going to mention that the OP is in high school and that most of this advice is treating him like he is at least in college, or older.[/quote]
Because Chobbs is not in highschool…hasnt been for a while. [/quote]
I guess more time has passed than I thought, or I read some post of his that was talking past tense about high school that I thought was present. Oh well.[/quote]
[quote]thehebrewhero wrote:
Despite what the “holyier then though” crowd will say…I’ll be honest with you. My wife gained some weight after my 2 kids. I spent allot of time in strip clubs and doing stuff thats bad… I finally got her to hit the gym and I bought her some fake tits… 2yrs down the road she looks the best ever… She found out I wasnt happy with her weight gain when she over heard me bitching to a buddy… It was bad news… At the same time it did spur her to hit the gym and diet… Long story short she will be mad to hear it, but if you want her to get hot again she may need the push… Also if she sees you trying to look sexy or do things top spur more sex she will get it… I’ve had friends divorce women for getting fat… Your a man what you like is what you like… Its awful hard to get a boner with ugly chicks…[/quote]
There’s a difference between being unhappy with your significant other gaining weight and them being in denial about it and your significant other gaining weight and you being passive-aggressive and just seething in anger without constructively telling them that you no longer find them attractive.
[quote]HeavyTriple wrote:
You’re a teenager, yes? There’s your problem. It won’t be fixed on a lifting website, unfortunately. The good news is that there’s a 99.9% chance you feel such a connection with this person because, again, you’re a teenager…this is what you people do. Every single one of you is perpetually meeting the love of your life, perpetually breaking up, and perpetually meeting a new one within weeks. You can’t distinguish true feelings from the way your penor feels, hence the problem.[/quote]
Ya I was going to mention that the OP is in high school and that most of this advice is treating him like he is at least in college, or older.[/quote]
Because Chobbs is not in highschool…hasnt been for a while. [/quote]
My comment wouldn’t change for a 20 year-old.
Unless he’s been through a few of these situations, he’s going to “overfeel.” I’ll allow that it’s possible my cynicism is taking over here, but really, do we think it’s more likely this is some amazing woman OP can’t afford to let go, or is it a typical adolescent relationship?
[quote]chobbs wrote:
So you know shits gotten real when you post it on a lifting forum but you guys’ give out good advice so I figured what the hell. Long story short…I like this girl and she REALLY likes me, we’ve had a fairly long past together 9 months and went through some rough shit. I trust her with anything and even though I’ve fucked her over she still trusts me. We’d do anything for each other. I know I’m a huge fucking dick for this but one of the two reasons I don’t wanna be with her is that she’s a little bigger, not fat by any means, just bigger. I’m such a fuck I know, but lemme hear your thoughts.[/quote]
Despite what the “holyier then though” crowd will say…I’ll be honest with you. My wife gained some weight after my 2 kids. I spent allot of time in strip clubs and doing stuff thats bad… I finally got her to hit the gym and I bought her some fake tits… 2yrs down the road she looks the best ever… She found out I wasnt happy with her weight gain when she over heard me bitching to a buddy… It was bad news… At the same time it did spur her to hit the gym and diet… Long story short she will be mad to hear it, but if you want her to get hot again she may need the push… Also if she sees you trying to look sexy or do things top spur more sex she will get it… I’ve had friends divorce women for getting fat… Your a man what you like is what you like… Its awful hard to get a boner with ugly chicks…[/quote]
I genuinely appreciate this thanks
[quote]chobbs wrote:
So you know shits gotten real when you post it on a lifting forum but you guys’ give out good advice so I figured what the hell. Long story short…I like this girl and she REALLY likes me, we’ve had a fairly long past together 9 months and went through some rough shit. I trust her with anything and even though I’ve fucked her over she still trusts me. We’d do anything for each other. I know I’m a huge fucking dick for this but one of the two reasons I don’t wanna be with her is that she’s a little bigger, not fat by any means, just bigger. I’m such a fuck I know, but lemme hear your thoughts.[/quote]
Despite what the “holyier then though” crowd will say…I’ll be honest with you. My wife gained some weight after my 2 kids. I spent allot of time in strip clubs and doing stuff thats bad… I finally got her to hit the gym and I bought her some fake tits… 2yrs down the road she looks the best ever… She found out I wasnt happy with her weight gain when she over heard me bitching to a buddy… It was bad news… At the same time it did spur her to hit the gym and diet… Long story short she will be mad to hear it, but if you want her to get hot again she may need the push… Also if she sees you trying to look sexy or do things top spur more sex she will get it… I’ve had friends divorce women for getting fat… Your a man what you like is what you like… Its awful hard to get a boner with ugly chicks…[/quote]
I genuinely appreciate this thanks[/quote]
So instead of being nice and including her in going to the gym you are going to piss her off and guilt her into going. Sounds like a great plan.
[quote]chobbs wrote:
So you know shits gotten real when you post it on a lifting forum but you guys’ give out good advice so I figured what the hell. Long story short…I like this girl and she REALLY likes me, we’ve had a fairly long past together 9 months and went through some rough shit. I trust her with anything and even though I’ve fucked her over she still trusts me. We’d do anything for each other. I know I’m a huge fucking dick for this but one of the two reasons I don’t wanna be with her is that she’s a little bigger, not fat by any means, just bigger. I’m such a fuck I know, but lemme hear your thoughts.[/quote]
Despite what the “holyier then though” crowd will say…I’ll be honest with you. My wife gained some weight after my 2 kids. I spent allot of time in strip clubs and doing stuff thats bad… I finally got her to hit the gym and I bought her some fake tits… 2yrs down the road she looks the best ever… She found out I wasnt happy with her weight gain when she over heard me bitching to a buddy… It was bad news… At the same time it did spur her to hit the gym and diet… Long story short she will be mad to hear it, but if you want her to get hot again she may need the push… Also if she sees you trying to look sexy or do things top spur more sex she will get it… I’ve had friends divorce women for getting fat… Your a man what you like is what you like… Its awful hard to get a boner with ugly chicks…[/quote]
I genuinely appreciate this thanks[/quote]
So instead of being nice and including her in going to the gym you are going to piss her off and guilt her into going. Sounds like a great plan.[/quote]
I might suggest it
[quote]GrizzlyBerg wrote:
So instead of being nice and including her in going to the gym you are going to piss her off and guilt her into going. Sounds like a great plan.[/quote]
Well, if it works, she’s likely a keeper. And if it doesn’t, he should have found someone else anyway.
Not quite the approach I’d have taken, but it might actually work.
Then again, she might go, end up really hot, and leave him for someone else…