The girl says she loves me. However, she is in a relationship right and she is happy with it. I talked to the guy and he told me that he wished she loved him as much as she loved me. This is very confusing for me. My brain so “no”, and it’s probably the best thing to listen to, my heart says “go”. Human emotions are most often faulty as I have observed. I am very afraid that if I go there, the flame won’t reignite. I’d also hate it if I stole away such a great girl from such a nice guy.
Oh yah, moving ain’t an option… YET. I am going away to college next year. OSU is a good school and only a couple hours away from her. I am also considering joining the Navy under Search and Rescue Diver or under the SEAL program. My parents are saying “NO”, while I haven’t decided. Any thoughts or feelings are welcome.
Thanx a whole lot! Again, I treat the your opinion with the upmost respect. I am overwhelmed by the responces I have gotten. Most T-Mag readers are example’s to follow by. I am a totally different person now than I was a year ago… much of that credit goes to you guys. I am finally beginning to understand what being a real Man is all about; it is “being the master of your destiny” and not being content with mediocrity (damn, I’m starting to sound like my Dad, creepy).
Beandog, stop talking with this woman. Get her out of your life–look what she’s doing to you. Speak to her one more time to tell her that she is not good enough for you and you are moving on with other women that meet your criteria. If this doesn’t change her mind about you, move on! For Christ’s sakes, her boyfriend is telling you this kind of crap? What kind of man would put up with that from a woman he’s involved with? Beandog, if you read this forum, there’s a 95% you’re man enough to kick this BAGGAGE to the curb and find someone without such issues.
Your mission today is to go out and talk with 50 women, anywhere you choose. Think of this as another workout.
Beannog I suggest you wipe her like a dirty rag, she is stringing you along. You have got some good ideas with what to do and seeking advice is useful but don’t let the advice of others end up being all you base your decisions on, trust your judgement.A real good book to read is called First things First, by Steven Covey it deals with planning,life balance and trusting your judgement, good for any age.
Fate? No. Here’s an example that should put it to bed for good (but if you don’t believe in God, then I suppose it won’t). We are all creations of a loving God who wants us to love Him back. We are given free will to make that choice. Why then do some people not choose to love God? Why would a loving God make the choice for some people to turn from Him and suffer eternal damnation? You are not fated to do or be anything in life. God doesn’t make junk, and you can do anything you want in life.