Just make sure you wank yourself silly if you get the urge to call her. My guess is you’ll change your mind afterwards. With an empty sack you’ll be like “ah fuck it, who needs that chic”.
Seriously, life is about experiences OP, good and bad. You’ll learn a lot about yourself from this which will serve you well for the remainder of your life. Be thankful and move right along.
Oh but of course it is , because you must be the magic golden cock with the awesome pipe action right? Tell me where I’m wrong ? I have been so wrong, I’d love for a Lothario like yourself to expain…
To help you out here…I’m not saying that sex with your woman doesn’t matter. Neither am I saying that being terrible with your “pipe” is A OK.
What I am saying, despite what PornHub or MTV or some male shaming feminist magazine some guys would read & believe, women rate other things way above getting “piped down” in a relationship and view sex differently than most men relate to.
My pipe is pretty amazing bru …
As I replied to someone else. I am not saying that sex isn’t important in a relationship. I am saying that telling a dude whose girl just left that its for a better / bigger / more active cock, is probably just not that accurate and not helping his situation. There are far more reasons a woman would leave this early on in the relationship other than a new cock is all I’m saying.
**This is all of course assuming OP is a normal dude, with abilities and normal functioning cock and normal sex drive (and likes to perform oral as well…)
How old are you?
I work with plenty of young twenty-somethings who spend all day on tinder. Hook up with a guy for a week. Have another ‘secret’ tinder bang with someone else, and then talk to their friends along the lines of: “well guy A was nice, we had a lot in common and he was good in bed, but after last night, OMG, I couldn’t stop (cumming)! How do you think I should break it off with guy A?”
Times have changed. Girls be nasty. And not the good kind of nasty in bed. Nasty inside. And not that inside. …
And some things never change.
Well, sometimes. They just weigh it with other factors, like being slut shamed, disrupting a stable financial/domestic situation, etc. But the desire is there. It just has to be REALLY good pipe for them to make the break — or the cost is low (i.e., no one will know).
If those countervailing factors are weak (such as not having kids, not having a husband who is the major breadwinner), they go for the good pipe. If the cost is too high (e.g., slut shaming friends), they keep their legs crossed.
But women (in general) are just as big of players as men (in general); they just play more risk-adverse. If they are on their own, they go after it like a 12 year old boy who just discovered masturbation.
I grew up in a vacation town where women were off on their own, no husband, no kids, and a girlfriend who wouldn’t shame them. So many were so on the prowl for strange pipe, it’s almost funny.
Same situation with women on business trips. Want to get laid every day for a week? Go to the hotel bar at Marriott Extended Stay where businesswomen are stuck for a week in some crap town. If you are an attractive male, you will be repeatedly and aggressively approached for no strings sex – the complete opposite of a normal bar scene.
What has changed is girls don’t slut shame (as much).
Ehh, that’s what I guess I was getting at. I should have said, “the younger girls at my office, talk and brag about their one-night-stands, stud-catching abilities, and how many guys want them at once”.
The acceptance of this type of behavior reminds me more of Rome each year.
“she still loves me”
“She left me”
Move on. Loyalty + Respect > Love
Home girl does not respect you.
It’s actually created an interesting dynamic. Very attractive guys are getting laid A LOT more than they used to get laid, while mildly attractive guys and average guys are not getting laid nearly as much.
I suspect this is why “incels” are a thing now.
I’ve noticed the opposite. Average, semi-attractive guys getting laid (I suspect more often) and had don’t have to attract a female in-person, be it a bar, party, anywhere really. Now all they have to do is find the best looking pic of themselves, type some BS, and statistics work out in their favor.
Ok now that you articulated your point instead of simply calling mine out, I think a large part of what you say is accurate.
I’ll say when a woman is promiscuous, she is by far a filthier more conniving & predatory human than most men could imagine being - this is for several reasons some based on evolutionary adaptation, but mostly based on sociological changes around us - yeah women can cheat, lie and hide adultery far better than men can.
Also agree except I’d say that most often they go for the money, power , prestige 1st. Meaning there are just as many women who have the lazy, unemployed , garage band BF with amazing “pipe game” who leave him for a guy with more money, nicer situation and better station in life.
This “rich-er” guy could be a complete beta provider, which she will eventually cheat on, if she didn’t already keep a physical relationship with garage band guy in the first place. OR the new guy could be a go getter with a future and a commanding personality that she will admire and she’ll never go back to the old guy, no matter how much better the sex was (usually - there are exceptions to everything)
When I was living in DC I did the exact same - I had a certain few hotel bars and def meet lots of women there. Lots for Federal based non-sense would work M-Th and Friday was fly home day, so the drinks were a flowin on Thursday evenings.
One thing I can add is a sort of confirmation bias that I realized a long time ago with some of this mindset - Me and a buddy went out frequently to meet women in DC. He’d say things like “they’re ALL total sluts…I just met her and she blew me…” The fact he got a BJ just confirmed in his mind all of the suspicions he had about women. But, what he didn’t stop to consider are the 10-15 girls rejecting him before the one didn’t. In other words it was more of a numbers game and on a long enough time line, any guy can get action.
The flip side of this, as you know , in reality, a moderately attractive woman wouldn’t need to approach 10 guys to get sex. On her first 3 tries she’ll get a taker, if not on the first attempt in most cases. From an evolutionary stand point, if every single woman were naturally this promiscuous (and desired sex the same as men…which they don’t) then the world would have been overcrowded a long loooong time ago…or we’d all be dead with AIDS by now.
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Yes, sadly Slut Shaming is all but dead…you might find it in some small towns or more conservative areas of the US, but I know in DC, NYC, SF, Seattle (insert any more or less progressive city) its all part of GRRL PWR! and championed along with not being able to cook and reminding you how “independent” they are with their “fur baby”
Oh boy here we are now.
I guess you were asking me?
I’m 41…and yeah just in the last several years the game has changed from picking up in person to just talking shit on an app. This allows the Dirty Berties to hide out and not get “judged” by men or their other slutty friends.
I’m surprised it took over 100 posts to happen personally.
You know it’s funny … so, I’m in my mid-30s and remember a mixed mindset among the females around my age growing up. Some were a bit more conservative so to speak and some more “independent/girl power/not wanting to learn to cook” etc.
Knowing how some of their lives have progressed and still talking to a few of them - the ones who didn’t want to learn to cook and were “independent” seem to regret it a bit. We’ll be out for dinner, some of us are talking about what we cooked, how we cooked it, yada yada yada … the ones who never did seem envious, a bit jealous.
Just weird mindsets … not sure why people thought/think learning how to cook would limit/detract from their independence or degrade their lifestyle … now they’re having to shell out boucoup bucks for shit I make at home saving time and money … my wife is a good cook too…just weird mindset.
that and the result is adulting classes being a thing
100% agreed.
IMO a direct side effect of modern technology making us all pretty damn lazy compared to our ancestors. Then add some 3rd wave feminist myths having young ladies view the image of traditional house wife (or even cooking a nice meal for your family) as some kind of servitude to the “patriarchy”.
Pretty much … little do these people know a lot of ‘modern’ technology would have made our ancestors more productive (i.e. they don’t have to knead dough, they have a machine for that, etc. - even ‘smart’ tech is very helpful at improving productivity).
not saying servitude is something to be desired, but there’s a satisfaction that comes with from completing hard and/or complex work … has something to do with deferred/delayed gratification. But, it takes effort to exert will and overcome our seemingly predisposition towards taking the easy way out…fixed mindset v growth mindset kind of shit.
3rd wave fems and the SJWs push that fixed mindset of turning perceived oppression into a virtue as opposed to the growth mindset where fortitude is a virtue and you overcome perceived obstacles and setbacks…
I don’t really support the whole SJW take on that either, but I watched my mother do nothing but the typical “house wife servitude” thing, and I can see how easy it is for women to feel the way they feel about things like that.
I’d agree that servitude has a very fine line. Women can be that typical house wife image, but I think it’s way too easy for that shit to be taken advantage of, or taken for granted.
You’ve got young ladies like myself who’d rather be single, than do house work day in and day out as their family slowly gets used to mom doing what mom does. Some women take comfort in that, others are terrified of it.
I think it comes down to the family as a unit. Specifically the mom and dad. Not one parent has to constantly do the same tedious shit. Take shifts, take turns. Dad does dinner, mom helps with homework, dad puts the kids to sleep, mom makes breakfast, dad washes dishes, vice versa. The thought of being a typical house wife leaves a bad taste in my mouth to be honest. But being married young, I’m at least glad my husband understands equality in the marriage. I may not fully understand how he feels all the time, neither he, but at least we can directly express what is bothering us, and work together to fix it. Whatever it is.