Now you tell me.
I’m in!
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Repeat after me: “I really liked what you said tonight. Want to go grab a coffee”
“Wow. You’re really spiritual. Got any tattoos?”.
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Based on my personal experience (admittedly a small sample size, but almost 20 years of observation), my friends and acquaintances who strove to “gain the upper hand” in their dysfunctional college on/off relationships (she showed me a picture with another guy, now I have to show her a picture with two chicks to make her jealous) and stayed together ended up in some seriously fucked up marriages.
Also, I’m a part-time youth sports coach so I see the products of such relationships, emotionally fucked up kids. When your parents are waging a low-intensity psychological war against each other for a decade or more it really messes up the kids.
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Not necessarily true. I’ve been married to my 3x ex for 10 years now.
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Just because it has lasted ten years doesn’t mean it’s something good.
I know what you are saying, but…
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Theoretically, true. Since I mentioned it as a counterexample, I think you can safely assume that it is.
Also, I basically did all of the things that have been suggested to the OP after our last breakup (no contact, work on yourself, etc), which I highly recommend.
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Me there’s no way I have no contact. Tried for 3 months, no direct contact. But my two best friends are dating/living with her best friends, my brother eats every sunday with her, we have mutual friends and parties, my mom is gonna take the tea with her tomorrow ughhh…
I ended up staying in a weird platonic relationship with my ex, due to our own inability to cut ties post-break up…so I stayed in this horrible friend zone which resulted in perpetual anxiety, stress, and feeling like my well being was at her whim and she had complete control over me.
At one point I become so overwhelmed I had this crazy moment where I realized how shitty I was treating myself. Could barely lift, could barely function, so I just cut her off completely. Didn’t give her a chance to respond to my one-way farewell. It hurt like a bitch, but it HAD to be done. The grieving was otherworldly. But it led way to some serious clarity and peace of mind later on.
This is about facing it now, so you can be free later. Otherwise you’re stacking more debt every second you say to yourself “but maybe things can change.”
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I had a similar situation except my ex lived in the apartment above mine and we were part of a larger friend group … so I would see her all the time. It fucking sucked until I moved out and got a new group of friends. Then smooooth sailing and happy days
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This will get sooo funny and will make it so much better once you get a new chick and start going out with all of them. She’ll be so jelly lol
I tried with a nice and hot girl. But I couldn’t. We had sex and I had zero pleasure because I was thinking of someone else… I guess I need more time.
Dude…
WTF is wrong with you?
Or, more accurately, wtf is wrong with me.
Is this actually a thing?
It can be.
Well maybe not zero zero but I really wanted to get it done as fast as possible because I wasn’t appreciating the moment. Plus the fact that I was, in a way hurting a girl that really liked me.
And yeah it is possible, one of my friends told me he once faked an orgasm because he had zero fun
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Yeah I was being a little ironic.
It’s happened to me to not enjoy sex but it was because maybe it was the second/third time I was having it in a row and I tend to lose interest pretty quickly once I have had it once lol.
Also, this makes me want to ask about something that’s been on my mind for a while but I never really touched upon with anyone. Sorry OP for the hijack.
Does it ever happen to you guys that if you’re spending the day/night with a girl and you’ve had sex once you don’t really have a super strong desire to have it again? Like when I’m with my gf and we’ve done it, and maybe we’re going to spend the afternoon in bed together, I might end up playing with her again and enjoy more foreplay, but I don’t always want to straight up have sex again, and I might even lose erection after a while, but this doesn’t happen if we stick to foreplay for round 2/3/whatever that is. Am I just weird?
Yes, your situation is completely unique. I doubt anyone else has ever felt similar to what you have described.
Except when people begin to realize they’ve caught teh gay. The reason the first time is fine is because you haven’t seen her naked, but then you become aware that the tackle just isn’t there and you can’t trick your mind back into it again. After a few days go by though, your brain resets to the ‘maybe’ possibility again and it just becomes a vicious cycle.
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What
Edit: oh just looked at the other post of yours in the thread. That clears up everything lol
Not at all weird.
Nothing is better than the first time. That’s when you’re both eager to get the orgasm.
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