I know this is a joke and to be honest this last part cracked me up, but this is actually true.
For any one in a thousand relationships that, after breaking up and coming back together ends up working well, there are 999 that just won’t be the same. And it’s hardly ever worth it giving a second chance when the first time didn’t work. If it’s meant to be, it’ll work, period.
My 2 cents
She found some other guy but she wants to keep you around as a second option in case her new fling doesn’t work out.
New guy probably makes her feel alive, and she most likely let’s him do things to her that you never did/could/wanted to, but she probably feels that the guy is unreliable and may dump her after he had his way with her.
So when that happens she can take you back for emotional support and whatever more you have to offer.
Yeah be the best version of yourself but no, don’t take her back, or else the best version of yourself is an idiot.
This, this, this
Well done sir
No. Wrong mindset. Good relationships aren’t about who has the upper hand. They’re about mutual respect and cooperation. They’re about love, not power.
Yes. Yes, yes, yes.
@cnewstead, how old are you and your ex-gf?
Money.
I had an ex that decided to be celibate based “on a download during breathwork.” She admitted that she felt like she “needed to take back her power and stand in her truth.”
No shit.
Run, don’t walk, get as far away from this psycho as you can.
My situation: what if she still has feelings for you? (I left her) How can I not have hope…
You left her. You decide it is over.
I’ve had the good fortune to have never seriously dated someone like this …
“stand in her truth” makes no sense … did she explain to you what the fuck she was babbling on about?
People split up for many different reasons. One of which is no longer having feelings for the other…however, most of the time that’s a fuckin’ lie. Feelings don’t just stop (unless you’re a sociopath and never had any to begin with).
Ultimately it doesn’t matter. What matters is that relationship/trust was severed. Time to move on and keep movin’ on.
This is a C- answer. No, she’s a dumpster fire.
Only dogs go back and eat their vomit. Move the fuck on.
True, but if you can’t manage that then you damn well better have the upper hand or you will end up in trouble.
This deserves a medal
I think she tried, but it was just a lot more of the same. I eventually figured it out. Should have tagged the OP, my bad. Hoping he doesn’t waste another second on this person.
Keep it moving, nothing to see here.
Next.
Stand in her truth, fucking lolz.
I once stepped in dog poop bare footed. I knew what I had done as soon as it happened. I stood in my truth, then heel walked over to the hose.
So I dated a guy from ages 16 to 22, Jimmy, and during the last probably three years we broke up and got back together regularly, which was my fault. Everyone, including us, assumed we’d get married eventually despite my flakiness.
In the aftermath of Prince’s death a couple of years ago, a friend’s dirty dream about him made me think for the first time about how completely unappealing he and his type are to me, e.g. Johnny Depp and Leo DeCaprio in his younger years, while other women seem to find that type (small framed, slender) (makeup! wispy-ass facial hair!) very sexy.
And I realized that Jimmy has a similar build and that I was never attracted to him, though he was cute and athletic. I just wasn’t experienced enough to know that I’m attracted to bearish men. He was my best friend and the best thing that ever happened to me, but our relationship was impossible. We kept getting back together because he wanted to and because I couldn’t think of any reason NOT to, so I definitely did the “I still love you” thing. But it wasn’t working for a reason.
For what it’s worth.
Yea, I have some of those under my belt as well … My wife dated a guy for about the same age range you posted and basically the same thing … they broke up got back together b/c he wanted to and she didn’t know any better.
Both 23
Understandable, as is the OP’s situation.
“Stand in my truth” girl was 55, I was 54.
No excuse.
But, OP can definitely learn.
Run!!!
Have you been dating woo women? Don’t you know better by now?
I don’t care how cute they look in their hippy dresses and brain straps, I’m all done with sacred redefining of potential and being called to explore the cosmic totality of crystal powered feelings.
You would be much better off finding an alcoholic 15 years younger than you with daddy issues.