I guess only time will tell
That is the exact opposite of what the quoted text conveyed.
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I had one ex-gf pull the old “break up” routine and get absolutely livid that I didn’t beg her to take me back immediately. I was upset at the time but my reaction was immediate acceptance and readying myself to move on, which really pissed her off.
Even if that’s the game she’s playing, you don’t want in on it.
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“I wanted to see if you would fight for me, for us! …clearly, you don’t love me as much as you said”
Been there, heard that.
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That’s exactly the kind of girl you don’t want to be with.
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That’s too sappy. Now he’s got to join a biker gang or something.
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I did the opposite… I begged a little then she told me that’ll push her further away so I stopped. Idk why I did in the first place.
Well, because you were hurt and in love. But, it’s never too late to man up.
My current wife broke up with me about 8 months into our relationship. She gave a very long speech to which I just made eye contact and nodded. Then she asked me what I thought.
My response was pretty simple “if that is what you’ve decided and it’s what you want, I’m not to try change your mind. Thanks you for the time we spend together.” She said something then I said “I better go” and I left.
I leave my phone on silent overnight but by the morning i had 8 missed calls and a few messages but I just sent a message back a few days later saying I would pick my stuff up from her.
When I arrived, she said she was going on a vacation but she had written a long letter which she asked me to read there. Basically about what a big mistake it was and she wanted to get back together.
My response to that was that it was too soon to make a decision and I had other things I neednto focus on in the short term. That she should take her week break and we can talk after she gets back.
We got back together soon after that and ended up married. My advice to you is NOT to follow any of the advice here or follow what I did or you might miss your opportunity to get out and end up like me!!!
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Also watch out for the “I love you but I’m not in love with you” bullshit
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So what do you think I should do?
Didn’t read any of the replies BUT She’s talking to someone else which is which she is using the excuse of space. Ditch her and don’t look back. Thank me later
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If you’re going to listen to anyone’s relationship advice, it should probably be Mr. T’s. As usual, he’s spot-on.
The question isn’t what any of us think you should do … but what YOU think you should do. You know how you’ll feel if she were to take you back. You know how she’d perceive you if you begged or persuaded her to take you back. None of us are saying you won’t ever get back together with her.
What is being said is now is the time to move on. Clear your head by focusing on new things. You have time on your hands so how are you going to fill it? By pondering the could have beens? Or by making yourself better and more interesting? Consider the differences, you have choices to make.
Thank you man. This response has actually really helped. All your responses have. I’m doing things I’ve wanted to do. I do believe in the power of intention, so I’ve been journaling. Just a tough moment right now but I’ll get through it with or without her. I’m sure once I’m all put together she’ll crawl back and then I’ll have the upper hand
Are you really unaware that you actually followed all the principles advised in this thread and that’s exactly why, and was the only chance you had, of winding up where you are now?
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My thoughts exactly.
I think you missed the joke.
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For everyone girl that will hurt you, there’s another one out there ready to eat onion rings off your little pecker
Move on, be better, do better and don’t live in the past.
Like that old saying goes…
“If you love something, set it free. If it doesn’t come back, hunt it down and kill it”… or something like that
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I haven’t read the thread but judging by the title…
Here’s one piece of advice that has worked wonders for me: always look at the actions, not the words. When she says something and does something different than what she says, act accordingly to what she did, not said.
She left you, still says she loves you? She left you. If she loved you, she wouldn’t have left you.
Move on.
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