You will never regret caring too much. Showing love when others won’t or don’t is a character trait of only the strongest people. She may never help herself, or have self actualization, but she raised you, and you seem to know and trust yourself. I hope you can wade through the shit, and whether you stay or go, you can just love her like you do. Sorry for the unsolicitated advice, sometimes we just want to vent.
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Nah it’s all good.
Sometimes I too want to just vent, but I don’t mind other people’s thoughts as well. Let’s me know folks actually read what I post lol
Thanks for all the feedback guys. I appreciate it.
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You have the answer right there. We can’t force others to do things.
Do you have to be unhappy and sacrifice so much to help her? Perhaps there’s a way to way to help without sacrificing yourself.
I strongly suggest you read The Total Money Makeover and/or do the Financial Peace University course (you can buy the materials and do it at home).
My wife and I did ok with money - - - better than the average American - - - but we had no idea how much money we wasted until we followed a pre-planned budget. Seeing our legit expenses vs our income changed our lives.
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Just read your post Cyber…
Really sorry to hear about it.
I’ll second @MarkKO you and your husband should move.
I would though keep in touch with your mom, you obviously care a lot and love your mom, and she loves you. Otherwise you were not allowed to move back.
Being adult and live with your parents can be very frustrating, not only to you but also to your mom. It’s something you can do for a short period, when and if sh** hits the fan.
My advice would be to really sit down and talk to your mom, together with your husband and stepdad.
You have to let her know, that what you do is the best you can, and that you think it’s actually very good.
Tell her that you are an adult and your husband is an adult too. You have your life, you have your stuff to deal with. If you pay a lot (75 % is a lot) then your mom and stepdad also have some obligations to do some housework, you’re all in this together and that is something your mom has to know and acknowledge.
Get it sorted sooner than later, if you can’t figure a way to live together were everybody is happy, then move. You owe that to yourself and your mom.
And you just chase that competition girl.
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I’ll do my best.
Hopefully I can squeeze it in.
Even if I have to arrive three days earlier. However if the move demands most of my attention or money then I’ll have to try again. And if my husband needs me at the time I have no problem trying again. Would it seem like I wasted 65$? probably. But I don’t look at it like a waste.
But fingers crossed.
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Sorry to hear about the family-related stress.
Erg… I’m not sure how this works, but I’d assume that as a married adult you can apply on your own merits, your own tax info as a married couple? I know student aid is a long and complicated process, but see if you can take control of this piece, separate from her finances.
And just to cheer you up. Look at those quads! Wonder Woman doesn’t skip leg day.
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I’ve been slowly gathering all my info to switch it so that I can do it.
When I first started college she took over because I was still living with her, and I didn’t know how to do crap.
And that’s a legit sketch drawing. I like it. If only my quads were that big lol. Thanks for the kind words.
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LOG # 298
10 min jump rope
LOG # 299
Practicing Oly stuff.
No rhyme or reason really. Kept the reps and sets around 5x5 or 5x6
Practiced:
Push jerks
Squat snatch
Clean and jerks
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LOG# 300 (yay!)
DE bench
Warm up: hammer strength press: 135x6
Work up:
135x5
155x3
155x2
Working set:
175 2x8
Assist:
CGBP: 135 x 10 (was pretty exhausted by now)
Triceps push down: 50lbs 2x15
Cable rows: 2x10
Stuff for my butt, because girls and butts lol
Hip thrusts 135x 2x30
Adductor/abductor: super set run the rack. Started at 200lbs all the way down to 50, everything by 10
Hamstring curls: AMRAP
hanging leg raises: 5x6
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Concerning my mom…
Suffice to say, all it took was a 12 pack of beer to get us talking about anything and everything concerning where we are now.
She agrees, that she needs to talk more and probably see someone, and I agree that perhaps it’s best that she need some time to herself and to her husband, and that it’s time for another round of me to leave and focus on what I need to.
As it has always been…I’m not the catalyst that landed her to where she is now. It’s a mashup. Dealing with this, coping with that… I understand.
I’m glad I have this level of friendship and trust with my mother. I’m glad she talked to me, and opened up to me as well. I’m glad it didn’t lead to yelling and screaming again.
Gonna be a bit rough trying to fit lifting into all of this, but I’m ready. Ready as I’ll ever be.
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oh man (or woman) I’m glad you got the mother/daughter talk, and it turned out well.
Makes me feel good to hear that.
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So the correct prescription was judicious application of alcohol.
You can do it. We see the determination applied to your lifting in here. Just point that awesome at school and work and you’ll beat 98% of your competition without breaking a sweat.
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The alcohol helped ease the tension lol. I would think lol.
And thank you for the encouragement. I haven’t been feeling very confident about anything much lately.
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You are awesome, and an inspiration!
Ehh more like 20% amazing, 35% inspirational, and
45% weirdo lol
You are 100% of each, you’re a 300 % girl.
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LOG # 301
Was supposed to be ME dead’s today, but that time of the month said otherwise. Still tried to ballpark a decent number. Picked 330 for the max and even that was too heavy. Threw that out and decided to use 315 for DE work. Fuck you hormones. Give me my damn strength back.
315x 8 singles. All felt slow and awful.
Assist:
Deficit deads: 3in deficit, conventional x10 reps 225
Adductor: 100lbs 3x15
Hamstring curls: 50lbs 2x15
Back extensions: work up 70lbsx10, 120x10, 150x10, 190x10
Hanging leg raises: 2x15
Mobility work
KB swings roughly 50 reps total. Kind of divvyed up the sets however.
On what I mentioned earlier, it was completely my fault as to why this months period was so unbelievably rough.
Rewind about a week, and I had the most intense sugar cravings I think I’ve ever had. On top of just an unquenchable thirst and hunger. I think it’s rather normal considering that whole month prior I hadn’t been eating as much and I didn’t have much of an appitite. However in response to all the sugar and carbs, I would stay up, well into the next day, be extremely lethargic, and eventually pass out. Sugar also provokes my periods to be down right nasty. So, yea…definitely my fault.
I guess my body did a manual override and hit the reset button. Started with an annoying break out of acne (that I still have). Ugh. Then It felt like lightening struck my lower half companied by the most aggressive cramps…EVER. Appetite completely left, and I slept for a consecutive two days. Couple of days ago I finally wake up with enough energy to run a marathon, and feeling perfectly fine. My sleep rhythm must be back where it was. Woke up at 5 this morning on the dot. Scarfed down an unusual amount of chicken and rice. Then had another meal before heading to the gym. But I tasted everything. Everything. Usually I’m not even paying attention to the taste of whatever I’m eating. Just waiting for my body to stop squeezing out large amounts of iron. Surprisingly, my weight never budged throughout any of all that. Usually it’s all over the place. However I’m think I’m in the okay to jack my calories back up because 1.) my body is doing a fantastic job of utilizing carbs, and 2.) I’m damn hungry all the time again. Went from mid to low 1500s up to 2100-2200, think I’m good to go to be back in the high 2500s to low 2600s.
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