I have some advice.
When your left testicle finally descends, slap her with it
As soon as I dig it out of a guinea pig sack lined runway, I will.
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
@ pangloss:
In a dating/relationship scenario (never an interest) she would order for you. Dress you, direct your life in general.
Sexually I have no idea what her whole sexuality encompasses but I’d say we were in between your examples. I was not tied up and totally helpless and while she was “responsible” for her own orgasm, she was responsible for mine too and as mentioned it wasn’t a tease and denial, prolong the pleasure thing. It was a power trip for her to refuse activity leading to mine. Ultimately I got off but I would bet her “boyfriends” eventually lose that “privilege”. It was highly irritating.
@ Frankie:
she was hot, the sex was frustrating as mentioned but ultimately ended well. There won’t be a repeat and a relationship was never considered.[/quote]
How big is she? Maybe I’m not able to generalize beyond my own experience, but all of the men I’ve slept with have had a considerable strength advantage over me. I may, and often do, start out in the role of aggressor or tease, but at some point generally the dominant option is removed if I’m teasing or lingering too long. Or talking! Sometimes that happens. lol
Couldn’t you just…take over, and get off when you were ready?
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
@ pangloss:
In a dating/relationship scenario (never an interest) she would order for you. Dress you, direct your life in general.
Sexually I have no idea what her whole sexuality encompasses but I’d say we were in between your examples. I was not tied up and totally helpless and while she was “responsible” for her own orgasm, she was responsible for mine too and as mentioned it wasn’t a tease and denial, prolong the pleasure thing. It was a power trip for her to refuse activity leading to mine. Ultimately I got off but I would bet her “boyfriends” eventually lose that “privilege”. It was highly irritating.
@ Frankie:
she was hot, the sex was frustrating as mentioned but ultimately ended well. There won’t be a repeat and a relationship was never considered.[/quote]
How big is she? Maybe I’m not able to generalize beyond my own experience, but all of the men I’ve slept with have had a considerable strength advantage over me. I may, and often do, start out in the role of aggressor or tease, but at some point generally the dominant option is removed if I’m teasing or lingering too long. Or talking! Sometimes that happens. lol
Couldn’t you just…take over, and get off when you were ready?
[/quote]
Petite. And yes, I could but again this wasn’t a tease and denial scenario. Legitimate “no” lines would’ve been crossed. Maybe she’s in to the rape fantasy (i’m not) and missed it but considering her relationship parameters I doubt it.
Whatever her issue is, it did not settle my ennui 
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
^ I tell me I want to have sex and “virtue” is highly subjective. The rest of your post is soap box rambling as described.[/quote]
Yes, I don’t disagree. However, I never disagreed with that in the first place. What I said, basically, is that society says that you should follow through with that urge outside of marriage. Even though that is not the right thing to do, and that a real dominate man would not be persuaded by society when society is wrong.
And, i challenge you to prove that virtue is highly subjective. I think it is more that you don’t want to put the effort into being virtuous (understandable) and are just making excuses as if we didn’t know what was virtue in the first place. Or, that I’m on a soap box.
It is telling when someone just attacks the person instead of the argument as you have done repeatedly in this thread with both sides, first for insinuating I’m encouraging rape, I jack off in my bed, and then the other way that I’m on a soap box or some bull shit.
Maybe it is time to check yourself and the reason why you attacked me twice (and others for various things) and reject that a man should be virtuous. Maybe virtue is not highly subjective, maybe virtue is objective and that in order for a man to be an actual “man” he has to acquire virtue.
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
^ I tell me I want to have sex and “virtue” is highly subjective. The rest of your post is soap box rambling as described.[/quote]
Yes, I don’t disagree. However, I never disagreed with that in the first place. What I said, basically, is that society says that you should follow through with that urge outside of marriage. Even though that is not the right thing to do, and that a real dominate man would not be persuaded by society when society is wrong.
And, i challenge you to prove that virtue is highly subjective. I think it is more that you don’t want to put the effort into being virtuous (understandable) and are just making excuses as if we didn’t know what was virtue in the first place. Or, that I’m on a soap box.
It is telling when someone just attacks the person instead of the argument as you have done repeatedly in this thread with both sides, first for insinuating I’m encouraging rape, I jack off in my bed, and then the other way that I’m on a soap box or some bull shit.
Maybe it is time to check yourself and the reason why you attacked me twice (and others for various things) and reject that a man should be virtuous. Maybe virtue is not highly subjective, maybe virtue is objective and that in order for a man to be an actual “man” he has to acquire virtue. [/quote]
Submitting to anothers ideology is not “dominant”. You are twisting the adjective used to describe a control freak of a woman to evangelize catholicism and it doesn’t fit. Nature existed before, exists now and will exist long after any known or as of yet to be created philosophy and sex is part of nature. Incongruous personalities too. Your suggestions are irrelevant and off the mark.
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
@ pangloss:
In a dating/relationship scenario (never an interest) she would order for you. Dress you, direct your life in general.
Sexually I have no idea what her whole sexuality encompasses but I’d say we were in between your examples. I was not tied up and totally helpless and while she was “responsible” for her own orgasm, she was responsible for mine too and as mentioned it wasn’t a tease and denial, prolong the pleasure thing. It was a power trip for her to refuse activity leading to mine. Ultimately I got off but I would bet her “boyfriends” eventually lose that “privilege”. It was highly irritating.
@ Frankie:
she was hot, the sex was frustrating as mentioned but ultimately ended well. There won’t be a repeat and a relationship was never considered.[/quote]
How big is she? Maybe I’m not able to generalize beyond my own experience, but all of the men I’ve slept with have had a considerable strength advantage over me. I may, and often do, start out in the role of aggressor or tease, but at some point generally the dominant option is removed if I’m teasing or lingering too long. Or talking! Sometimes that happens. lol
Couldn’t you just…take over, and get off when you were ready?
[/quote]
Petite. And yes, I could but again this wasn’t a tease and denial scenario. Legitimate “no” lines would’ve been crossed. Maybe she’s in to the rape fantasy (i’m not) and missed it but considering her relationship parameters I doubt it.
Whatever her issue is, it did not settle my ennui ;)[/quote]
So, are you saying that in the middle of it, if she declared “oh no, you’re not doing that right now,” or however she verbalized her control, and you said “oh yes I am,” she would have removed her consent and declared the situation nonconsensual?
I can only imagine that this would, if anything, worsen one’s ennui. It would mine, if I had both random hookups and a general sense of dissatisfaction with life. But of course these two things feed one another, so I don’t have either one. 
Guys…I think I’ve figured it out…CargoCapable is HoustonGuy…again.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
@ pangloss:
In a dating/relationship scenario (never an interest) she would order for you. Dress you, direct your life in general.
Sexually I have no idea what her whole sexuality encompasses but I’d say we were in between your examples. I was not tied up and totally helpless and while she was “responsible” for her own orgasm, she was responsible for mine too and as mentioned it wasn’t a tease and denial, prolong the pleasure thing. It was a power trip for her to refuse activity leading to mine. Ultimately I got off but I would bet her “boyfriends” eventually lose that “privilege”. It was highly irritating.
@ Frankie:
she was hot, the sex was frustrating as mentioned but ultimately ended well. There won’t be a repeat and a relationship was never considered.[/quote]
How big is she? Maybe I’m not able to generalize beyond my own experience, but all of the men I’ve slept with have had a considerable strength advantage over me. I may, and often do, start out in the role of aggressor or tease, but at some point generally the dominant option is removed if I’m teasing or lingering too long. Or talking! Sometimes that happens. lol
Couldn’t you just…take over, and get off when you were ready?
[/quote]
Petite. And yes, I could but again this wasn’t a tease and denial scenario. Legitimate “no” lines would’ve been crossed. Maybe she’s in to the rape fantasy (i’m not) and missed it but considering her relationship parameters I doubt it.
Whatever her issue is, it did not settle my ennui ;)[/quote]
So, are you saying that in the middle of it, if she declared “oh no, you’re not doing that right now,” or however she verbalized her control, and you said “oh yes I am,” she would have removed her consent and declared the situation nonconsensual?
I can only imagine that this would, if anything, worsen one’s ennui. It would mine, if I had both random hookups and a general sense of dissatisfaction with life. But of course these two things feed one another, so I don’t have either one. :)[/quote]
In paragraph one, yes, exactly.
I disagree random sex creates dissatisfaction in life however, it merely satisfies a natural urge. Unless you encounter a highly irritating personality clash.
Yep…HoustonGuy.
What?
On the 1% chance you are not HoustonGuy then go and search him and see that he left the board not too long ago…came back as BootScootinBoogie or something like that…everyone knew it was him again and that was about two months ago…now you are new and seem to be channeling him.
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
@ pangloss:
In a dating/relationship scenario (never an interest) she would order for you. Dress you, direct your life in general.
Sexually I have no idea what her whole sexuality encompasses but I’d say we were in between your examples. I was not tied up and totally helpless and while she was “responsible” for her own orgasm, she was responsible for mine too and as mentioned it wasn’t a tease and denial, prolong the pleasure thing. It was a power trip for her to refuse activity leading to mine. Ultimately I got off but I would bet her “boyfriends” eventually lose that “privilege”. It was highly irritating.
@ Frankie:
she was hot, the sex was frustrating as mentioned but ultimately ended well. There won’t be a repeat and a relationship was never considered.[/quote]
How big is she? Maybe I’m not able to generalize beyond my own experience, but all of the men I’ve slept with have had a considerable strength advantage over me. I may, and often do, start out in the role of aggressor or tease, but at some point generally the dominant option is removed if I’m teasing or lingering too long. Or talking! Sometimes that happens. lol
Couldn’t you just…take over, and get off when you were ready?
[/quote]
Petite. And yes, I could but again this wasn’t a tease and denial scenario. Legitimate “no” lines would’ve been crossed. Maybe she’s in to the rape fantasy (i’m not) and missed it but considering her relationship parameters I doubt it.
Whatever her issue is, it did not settle my ennui ;)[/quote]
So, are you saying that in the middle of it, if she declared “oh no, you’re not doing that right now,” or however she verbalized her control, and you said “oh yes I am,” she would have removed her consent and declared the situation nonconsensual?
I can only imagine that this would, if anything, worsen one’s ennui. It would mine, if I had both random hookups and a general sense of dissatisfaction with life. But of course these two things feed one another, so I don’t have either one. :)[/quote]
In paragraph one, yes, exactly.
I disagree random sex creates dissatisfaction in life however, it merely satisfies a natural urge. Unless you encounter a highly irritating personality clash.[/quote]
I’m not suggesting that it creates dissatisfaction, but rather that it does nothing to create satisfaction. Random sex itself is neutral, however the pursuit of it requires a focus of energy in a direction that does not increase emotional well being. It’s a masturbatory exercise to some extent.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
@ pangloss:
In a dating/relationship scenario (never an interest) she would order for you. Dress you, direct your life in general.
Sexually I have no idea what her whole sexuality encompasses but I’d say we were in between your examples. I was not tied up and totally helpless and while she was “responsible” for her own orgasm, she was responsible for mine too and as mentioned it wasn’t a tease and denial, prolong the pleasure thing. It was a power trip for her to refuse activity leading to mine. Ultimately I got off but I would bet her “boyfriends” eventually lose that “privilege”. It was highly irritating.
@ Frankie:
she was hot, the sex was frustrating as mentioned but ultimately ended well. There won’t be a repeat and a relationship was never considered.[/quote]
How big is she? Maybe I’m not able to generalize beyond my own experience, but all of the men I’ve slept with have had a considerable strength advantage over me. I may, and often do, start out in the role of aggressor or tease, but at some point generally the dominant option is removed if I’m teasing or lingering too long. Or talking! Sometimes that happens. lol
Couldn’t you just…take over, and get off when you were ready?
[/quote]
Petite. And yes, I could but again this wasn’t a tease and denial scenario. Legitimate “no” lines would’ve been crossed. Maybe she’s in to the rape fantasy (i’m not) and missed it but considering her relationship parameters I doubt it.
Whatever her issue is, it did not settle my ennui ;)[/quote]
So, are you saying that in the middle of it, if she declared “oh no, you’re not doing that right now,” or however she verbalized her control, and you said “oh yes I am,” she would have removed her consent and declared the situation nonconsensual?
I can only imagine that this would, if anything, worsen one’s ennui. It would mine, if I had both random hookups and a general sense of dissatisfaction with life. But of course these two things feed one another, so I don’t have either one. :)[/quote]
In paragraph one, yes, exactly.
I disagree random sex creates dissatisfaction in life however, it merely satisfies a natural urge. Unless you encounter a highly irritating personality clash.[/quote]
I’m not suggesting that it creates dissatisfaction, but rather that it does nothing to create satisfaction. Random sex itself is neutral, however the pursuit of it requires a focus of energy in a direction that does not increase emotional well being. It’s a masturbatory exercise to some extent.[/quote]
Well this is certainly an interesting perspective. I never thought about the energy used to get to a relatively neutral place. I don’t understand how it would lead to dissatisfaction though, considering the satisfaction of sex, excepting this particular, irritating woman.
Edit:
I also think when you’re horny and unsatisfied you are on the negative side of your personal satisfaction line and even if getting neutral is all casual sex does for you, it is a positive step.
[quote]Nards wrote:
On the 1% chance you are not HoustonGuy then go and search him and see that he left the board not too long ago…came back as BootScootinBoogie or something like that…everyone knew it was him again and that was about two months ago…now you are new and seem to be channeling him.
[/quote]
I don’t know what this means.
What are your thoughts on dominant women?
[quote]Nards wrote:
Yep…HoustonGuy.[/quote]
lol, great call.
Poor Emily. She comes out of the woodwork to have a conversation and it turns out to be HG.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
@ pangloss:
In a dating/relationship scenario (never an interest) she would order for you. Dress you, direct your life in general.
Sexually I have no idea what her whole sexuality encompasses but I’d say we were in between your examples. I was not tied up and totally helpless and while she was “responsible” for her own orgasm, she was responsible for mine too and as mentioned it wasn’t a tease and denial, prolong the pleasure thing. It was a power trip for her to refuse activity leading to mine. Ultimately I got off but I would bet her “boyfriends” eventually lose that “privilege”. It was highly irritating.
@ Frankie:
she was hot, the sex was frustrating as mentioned but ultimately ended well. There won’t be a repeat and a relationship was never considered.[/quote]
How big is she? Maybe I’m not able to generalize beyond my own experience, but all of the men I’ve slept with have had a considerable strength advantage over me. I may, and often do, start out in the role of aggressor or tease, but at some point generally the dominant option is removed if I’m teasing or lingering too long. Or talking! Sometimes that happens. lol
Couldn’t you just…take over, and get off when you were ready?
[/quote]
Petite. And yes, I could but again this wasn’t a tease and denial scenario. Legitimate “no” lines would’ve been crossed. Maybe she’s in to the rape fantasy (i’m not) and missed it but considering her relationship parameters I doubt it.
Whatever her issue is, it did not settle my ennui ;)[/quote]
So, are you saying that in the middle of it, if she declared “oh no, you’re not doing that right now,” or however she verbalized her control, and you said “oh yes I am,” she would have removed her consent and declared the situation nonconsensual?
I can only imagine that this would, if anything, worsen one’s ennui. It would mine, if I had both random hookups and a general sense of dissatisfaction with life. But of course these two things feed one another, so I don’t have either one. :)[/quote]
In paragraph one, yes, exactly.
I disagree random sex creates dissatisfaction in life however, it merely satisfies a natural urge. Unless you encounter a highly irritating personality clash.[/quote]
I’m not suggesting that it creates dissatisfaction, but rather that it does nothing to create satisfaction. Random sex itself is neutral, however the pursuit of it requires a focus of energy in a direction that does not increase emotional well being. It’s a masturbatory exercise to some extent.[/quote]
Lol that’s because you’re a woman you’re part in the sexual encounter is saying yes. For guys there’s the thrill of the hunt.
[quote]sardines12 wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]CargoCapable wrote:
@ pangloss:
In a dating/relationship scenario (never an interest) she would order for you. Dress you, direct your life in general.
Sexually I have no idea what her whole sexuality encompasses but I’d say we were in between your examples. I was not tied up and totally helpless and while she was “responsible” for her own orgasm, she was responsible for mine too and as mentioned it wasn’t a tease and denial, prolong the pleasure thing. It was a power trip for her to refuse activity leading to mine. Ultimately I got off but I would bet her “boyfriends” eventually lose that “privilege”. It was highly irritating.
@ Frankie:
she was hot, the sex was frustrating as mentioned but ultimately ended well. There won’t be a repeat and a relationship was never considered.[/quote]
How big is she? Maybe I’m not able to generalize beyond my own experience, but all of the men I’ve slept with have had a considerable strength advantage over me. I may, and often do, start out in the role of aggressor or tease, but at some point generally the dominant option is removed if I’m teasing or lingering too long. Or talking! Sometimes that happens. lol
Couldn’t you just…take over, and get off when you were ready?
[/quote]
Petite. And yes, I could but again this wasn’t a tease and denial scenario. Legitimate “no” lines would’ve been crossed. Maybe she’s in to the rape fantasy (i’m not) and missed it but considering her relationship parameters I doubt it.
Whatever her issue is, it did not settle my ennui ;)[/quote]
So, are you saying that in the middle of it, if she declared “oh no, you’re not doing that right now,” or however she verbalized her control, and you said “oh yes I am,” she would have removed her consent and declared the situation nonconsensual?
I can only imagine that this would, if anything, worsen one’s ennui. It would mine, if I had both random hookups and a general sense of dissatisfaction with life. But of course these two things feed one another, so I don’t have either one. :)[/quote]
In paragraph one, yes, exactly.
I disagree random sex creates dissatisfaction in life however, it merely satisfies a natural urge. Unless you encounter a highly irritating personality clash.[/quote]
I’m not suggesting that it creates dissatisfaction, but rather that it does nothing to create satisfaction. Random sex itself is neutral, however the pursuit of it requires a focus of energy in a direction that does not increase emotional well being. It’s a masturbatory exercise to some extent.[/quote]
Lol that’s because you’re a woman you’re part in the sexual encounter is saying yes. For guys there’s the thrill of the hunt. [/quote]
this post makes orion sad…
[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:
[quote]Nards wrote:
Yep…HoustonGuy.[/quote]
lol, great call.
Poor Emily. She comes out of the woodwork to have a conversation and it turns out to be HG.
[/quote]
I don’t mind HG. Yes, he’s occasionally douchey but certainly not all the time. And he does start interesting discussions. This is not the first time I’ve done a skim-through of the forum and decided to post because something he’s said has sparked my curiosity. (Or activated my rescue complex.)
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:
[quote]Nards wrote:
Yep…HoustonGuy.[/quote]
lol, great call.
Poor Emily. She comes out of the woodwork to have a conversation and it turns out to be HG.
[/quote]
I don’t mind HG. Yes, he’s occasionally douchey but certainly not all the time. And he does start interesting discussions. This is not the first time I’ve done a skim-through of the forum and decided to post because something he’s said has sparked my curiosity. (Or activated my rescue complex.)[/quote]
Sex aside, what are your general thoughts on women who demand to flip traditional gender roles in relationships, and furthermore women who would choose all the minute details of everything from dressing to food selection for their mates?