I mean no disrespect as i do believe that we all just want to make a better versions of ourselves. But i see and read this kind of stuff on IG like “i am going to war” and other stuff about the gym.
I live in a 3rd world country, i am an ex-fighter and nowdays i am a military hand to hand combat instructor in a country that has 700 dollars average sallary per month and exact same prices for food that America has, only our McDonalds costs 3 times as much as yours(keep in mind having 700-800 dollars on hand per month is a good money).
I dont know guys, where in your gym is this dark place, no fun, or WAR. For us, gym is something nice you do for yourself…if you can afford… 80% of the people cant afford gym and food for sporting needs. It is a luxury which you earn by saving your money and you definetly love and enjoy it.
Training is the best part of my day and every day i say thanks to the universe that i am priviledged enough to be able to actually train and eat as much food as a family of 6 usually need.
Gym is not a war, its not hardcore and its not badass. If you have windows and/or air conditioning there, its a luxury place for people who have money and lots of free time.
Thats what i have to say about just going to the gym. But if we speak about the training itself, as it “hurts” someone or is hard… well, since i come from a fighting background i cant say its hard or not fun or hurts… I have trained with the best, and i have been beaten down by the best. At the ages of 25-30 i firstly did my combat training, was getting my ass kicked, and then i went to gym to “relax”. It is fucking sweet - you can just listen to music, lift weights, put in some work, feel the iron pushing back. No one is trying to choke you or kick you in the face, you dont have to dodge shit etc.
Gym is more of an intellectual thing for me - i have no problems breaking my back with weights i cant lift. The problem is to understand how to progress. Its in the mind. For the body there is nothing hard, at least for me, as i am used to training that ends with broken bones - gym is such a sweet, calm and relaxing place…
Honestly, if training is not fun for anyone - you have a friggin NICE life. How good of a life you have if training “hurts” and gym membership is not even “fun” for you.
This is somewhat of a cliche American problem, where people are so fat, it actually kills them while 1/3 of the world is starving to death and 1/3 of the world is just barelly getting by on food… There, in the land of free calories, also live people who go to WAR at the shiny, sunny, air conditioned centre of wellness… Makes me smile.
As far as the original question goes… i dont think it needs to suck. First thing, as i said, i think if it sucks, just do different sport. When you found the thing you like to do, no, you dont have to be miserable.
Im trying to do strenght training and i have found that i have best results if i never feel like i really went hard. Probably cuz of my background - i can really push myself to death if i want to, and i dont really care about pain. I could max deadlifts every day. The problem is - it doesnt work. For me, with my mentality, it is very hard to do SO little, and feel so fresh after something that is supposed to be training…but its what you need to do if you want to get stronger week by week. My results really improved when i really backed off my intensity.
I think its like tattoos(someone mentioned those). Some kids say they hurt because they have never felt pain and had problems. Anyone who has ever stepped on a rusty nail while working or had a broken nose will say that tattoos are a snooze…