I think a lot of the acceptable age difference boils down to preferences, priorities and circumstances.
Bringing this thread back on-topic, the trend seems to be informing young children that there are not, in fact, any meaningful boundaries at all in relationships.
Thanks for the post. It was not a ramble.
I donāt know if itās that as much as women being more forgiving about decaying physical traits like graying hair or beer guts.
Letās be honest, most guys start to look like shit in their 30s too.
I agree here. I am in the early / mid 30s age bracket. The women seem to take care of themselves better on average compared to the men. They care at least a little bit about maintaining healthy weight, where the guys donāt seem to care much. They put effort in their grooming and clothing much more than most the guys I know.
Overweight & Obesity Statistics - NIDDK.
Not that obesity is that great of a metric (because a lot of us here are technically obese because itās a BMI categorization), but this makes more sense to me.
I dunno if you work or worked at an officce, but women are often on a diet trying to lose or mantain weigh, but itās a strange diet that inclues cake everyday.
Thereās always a reason for some woman to bring a cake.
They also canāt understand how you can refuse a piece of cake. āWell now you know how we guys feel about turning down a piece of assā itās the answer I have to hold back.
But they sort of make up for that by cutting bread and other carbs or fasting or whatever.
Dudes donāt make up for all the beer and hotdogs and pizzas at our kidās football/soccer matches, for example.
If I had to guess, I think women in general eat a higher percentage of their food as carbs.
At my office though, both women and men bring in donuts, bagels, muffins regularly it seems.
Haha! I am pretty sure that often it causes them guilt to see a man not eat cake. Many people want justification for their actions, others eating the cake makes it a normal thing. If a guy (who is on average not caring as much about his diet) refuses, it makes the action seem worse.
I dated a 39 year old when I was 21. Super sweet girl and smart (she is an OBGYN), but she wanted children like 6 months into us dating and I was 21ā¦
I think thatās an age gap that is not pragmatic, especially in that situation.
No. If a women keeps herself fit and a man keeps himself in shape and both age from 20 to 35, the manās value will incline while the womanās sexual market value will decline.
Right. I donāt think men age like fine wine.
Agreed. I still married an older woman though. She is only 2 years older though which is negligible.
Her clock ran out. Itās just nature. 39 is extremely late; thatās high risk pregnancy.
Most women get the baby fever at 30 then try to lock down any man they can.
The point is not that every man looks better at 40 than 20. First of all, mens looks donāt matter AS MUCH. Secondly, men have the potential to be higher market value at 40 than at 20, while women donāt have that option (except for when your name is Kim Kardashian, and have the best plastic surgeons in the world, she objectively looked better at 40 than 20, but even then itās debatable if her market value is higher). Women go from 20 to 35 and always depreciate in value except for rare circumstances. Mens trajectory is upwards until circa 35 and they have to actively work against being more attractive (gaining lots of weight, not having a job, being lazy for example).
And another point, the men who let themselves go are largely the ones in long term relationships. Single men at 35 often are very very high market value.
My wife and I got married at 27 and 29. We had been dating for 3.5 years. She had our first child at 34 and our second at 36.
At about 31-32 she was all over me for children. We tried for a few years with no success. The issue was me, but some HCG and she was pregnant within a month both times lol.
I would say single men at 35 with no children and a solid career are cream of the crop. I am not the best looking dude out there, but I have had women toss themselves at me even knowing I am marriedā¦ mostly younger ones after seeing my vehicles or learning what I do / own.
Thatās the advice I give to young women I care about. āGet a man while you are 25 at the latest. Eva use you still have high market value but you want to have children in the next few years.ā
I would prefer them investing in a man earlier instead of hoeing around but thatās not my duty to save them from themselves.
Your wife did that at 25. Intelligent of her. She very likely couldnāt have got a man your caliber at 30.
Well in those respects you are 100% right.
She does have a PHD. Funny enough when she got with me it was the lowest part of my life (emotionally). I had buried a fiancƩ not 6 months earlier and she put up with A LOT of shit from me.
But like she said, she saw the potential in me and invested and knew what she wanted.
Yeah, I know what youāre saying, but again, a manās sexual value is not determined only by how good he looks, especially as he gets older.
Men, on the other hand, donāt care as much (enphasis on AS MUCH) how succesful, competent, edducated, well employed, a woman is, if sheās fat with saggy tits and a flat ass.