So does that mean they’re gay if they do that to another dude or WTF? What does that even mean. Men “size you up”? For what?
…I’ve experienced it. I’ve done experiments where I use an average joe’s photo and it got next to nothing, and one with a better looking dude and the results didn’t lie. Why would the real world be any different? These apps just make it more obvious.
It means guys are clearly grabbing you to feel your muscles. Like I said above, motivations for this probably vary quite a bit.
Get muscles and take a job working bar security and you’ll probably see what I mean on day 1.
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Are you Gen Z? I’m not asking in some condescending old-man manner. I’m just trying to get where you’re coming from.
I’m turning 44 this summer.
Yeah I am. Well. I’m in my 20’s. Take that as you may.
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Ok to make it easier.
The person loves you unconditionally like a dog and sticks with you through thick and thin. You know like some 1950’s shit. I don’t think I can make it any clearer then that. You get sick? Fired? Etc. They stay with you. Like a dog.
Do one of those “motivations” include waiting for you to drop the soap?
You can just say it out loud.
You should write a book dude.
OP, lifting did not make me mean. I’ve been a prick since day one.
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You asked the question originally and am I giving you my experience. As someone who has been both a skinny long distance runner and also a not skinny powerlifter / strongman. I would say that there is very little discernible difference to how women treated me or perceived me. I have had way more men ask me about training or comment on my body than women. If all you show someone is a photo then of course more attractive photos’ are going to get more interest. But when you actually just meet people face to face and have a conversation the size of your biceps is pretty low down on the list of things a women is looking for. If you are talking about purely hooking up for sex then maybe physical image is higher on the list.
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Even for a relationship. To get your foot in the door you will need a good physical image to. That’s my point. It’s WHAT you are. Not who you are.
That sounds like having a good wife and building a long-term relationship predicated on vows that each person takes seriously.
Possibly, but any man with aspirations of raping me never followed through on those impulses.
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I meet most new people with my clothes on. If I dont look like a hobo, dress OK and dont smell, I find that enough to get a foot in the door.
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Yeah but how many partnerships even EXIST like that today?
Don’t ask me, I’m not married.
I’ve been hit on by plenty of gay guys. It’s just as flattering as when a woman I’m not interested in hits on me. I’ll take the ego pump and pass on any other kind of pumping.
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What clothes are you wearing. What do you look like? Do you wear cologne. This is pretty vague. Of course looking good, wearing good clothes, etc will get you in if your in shape.
I want someone who cares about me and will love me for WHO I am, even if I’m obese, skinny, or whatever” what would you say? That’s what I want a woman for.
I don’t think this is a big ask at all. I met my wife before I could exercise and when I was effectively disabled. I looked terrible haha. I definitely notice both men and women treating me differently since I regained the ability to be active and lift. However, I never noticed any difference in how my wife is with me since she chose me for my personality.
IMO looks can’t be top priority for marriage since they degrade with age. Also, what if you or your wife get into a horrible accident and are now disgustingly disfigured forever? If it’s love, there should be zero difference in how you treat each other. That said, you should always try to look as good as possible for your husband/wife. Why wouldn’t you haha?
For random hookups, though, looks is #1. I comsider marriage and hook ups to be completely seperate topics, and I never got how they’re put under the same umbrella. “Dating apps” are primarily hook up apps and should be looks based for that reason.
When I bounced there was a guy who’d offer certain male employees $100 tips. When they’d say sure, not always knowing what his reputation was, he’d say “Fine, but you have to get it yourself.” After that sentence people would usually get weirded out. The tip (no, not that, the cash!) was always in his pants, surprise surprise.
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I’m always confused by people who talk about doing this sort of thing and then expect it to be taken as some sort of revelation, rather than bizarre and pathetic behavior. No, OP, you didn’t do an “experiment.” You didn’t even come close to meeting that bar.
I’m in an awfully big glass house to be throwing stones about being weird online, but still.
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Usually shorts, maybe its my big sexy calves that make women want to talk to me.
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…yeah no shit. Your probably not a normal looking person O_O