I so want some of that!!! You guys need some head gear so there are no accidents and you can go harder.
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Yes! We have some, and will most likely do this later. But right now I’m a total noob and we’re more about burning calories
I’ve read your log for a long time, I don’t comment much and try to avoid personal stuff like this but I just want to make a couple of unsolicited comments, feel free to ignore.
If you could take an objective look at yourself you would see that this isn’t true and is very much seeming like a pattern of poor mental health surrounding self and body image. You place far too high an emphasis on your physical appearance.
Which leads me to my second thing, regarding relationships, what you are doing is placing far too much value on relationships (this coming from a devout Christian who values marriage immensely and I have an amazing wife) but what I mean by this is - you need to be complete in and of yourself from your writing you give the impression that you feel the need for another person to complete you.
That kind of expectation will eventually kill any relationship you have. Relationships are amazing and life transforming but they need to be on equal grounding to be successful, your current mindset and expectations of a relationship is overbearing. Be at ease with who you are on your own, once that happens then the right relationship might open up for you and then you’ll be ready for it, enjoying it for what it is, not what it brings to you/does for you.
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I call BS
That’s great!!!
yeah! So jealous
This is a good point. There’s research that shows that confidence is one of the most attractive qualities and is very important for healthy relationships. (I haven’t been in a relationship so I’ll stick to what the science says)
There’s something I’d like to ask, either you or someone else:
Is it possible to get into a trap of never thinking you’re ready for a relationship?
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Yeah i’m not fat nor ugly but I felt that way. At least compared to last week.
It’s just that sometimes I feel the only thing I’ve achieved is my fitness you know. And I’m judged by that. But I’m working on changing that.
I feel I’ll never feel complete and satisfied with myself as long as I don’t have a nice job and my place.
Yeah I’ve heard that. But at the same time… Being alone really isn’t as great. There are advantages to both, but I really prefer with someone. I guess I am, now that I think of it… Perhaps it’s that I don’t really like loneliness?
Maybe it’s a terrible way of thinking, but I’m more the “I could have done more, I have to do more next”. And I have terribly underdone most of my life. So i can’t change the past, but I won’t be at ease until I’ve reached some goals
Are you ever really? Like ready for kids? I’ve known a good deal of people who weren’t ready/didn’t want relationships but then they met someone/it happened and it didn’t mattered if they were ready.
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Honestly mate, no one but you gives a fuck about your fitness
A relationship won’t complete you as well. It will just bring a whole new level of shit into your life.
I genuinely don’t think you’re ready for one. I think you need to start putting yourself out there and sowing your wild oats one would say.
Have fun with it man. You spend too much time in your head
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Hard to comment on when this log is fitness focused, but I’d imagine you’re very wrong, even just that comment “my fitness” you already posted about how you helped transform some kids, that’s more than just your fitness. You’re also part way through a degree, which I’ve no doubt you’ll finish and do very well with.
This is where the mindset change needs to come in my opinion, what happens when you get the nice job and place will you be satisfied then? Probably not, eventually the job won’t pay enough and the place won’t be big enough, or let’s say a global pandemic hits and you lose your job and nice place.
Work is important but shouldn’t be the entirety of you complete and satisfied - I say this because if you aren’t complete and satisfied now, whilst currently working towards those things with an incredibly strong likelihood of achieving them, then I don’t see you being happy when you get there.
Read this with a mindset of looking at potential future partners - would you want to read this about your future wife? Is it a good reason for a relationship or does it just seem desperate.
I know this might be a temporary mindset from disappointment at the current situation but I feel like I’ve see it before in this log. Which is why I’m commenting.
You probably couldn’t have, maybe you even did too much? Again this thinking is overbearing, it will certainly challenge future relationships if not changed.
General caveat - this is all my opinion, feel free to ignore and the above is intended to be helpful not hurtful (apologies if it’s at all harsh).
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I think this might be a real problem for you specifically*, but there isn’t a particular rush you’re young and not everyone wants to or needs to be in a relationship.
- Based on observations from your journal about how much your thinking about the future screws up your present.
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Well that’s not true, I do (and I’m the most important person in my life, ain’t I?) as well as some of my clients. I’ve been unhealthy, and I’ve been less sexy. I prefer right now, no doubts!
I know… You’re not the first I hear saying this, but they don’t leave their wife ahah. And I’ve been in a couple of long-terms.
It’s like when I bought my car a couple years ago, but tenfold. I was stressed by that (yes I’m weird). It would mean a loan, insurance, taking care of it, cleaning it etc… I was stressed for a long time but I don’t regret it all, even though it brings me stress as well as convenience!
I think so, I thought about what @alex_uk and @anna_5588 said and reflected on life and I didn’t slept much again ahahah
Probably yeah. For the past two years I’ve been trying to put myself out there more and more, and I actually don’t regret it at all. Always brings me something.
You might realize that if it took me this many years to be… here well I’m not really normal 
These are excuses, but when I was 11 I was bullied. And the psychologists made me do tests and they had to take the tests for adults. I had 150 IQ and most likely asperger. I’ve been living most of my life fold up on myself. Keeping my feelings for myself, and usually never happy, never desiring something.
I’ve been working on that and it really helped me. Being more social, more daring, more open.
But yeah at 30 I can’t even ask a girl to dance
You know, the other girl, it was the first time I added a girl I didn’t know on IG and grabbed my balls or so we say here to dare and talk to her etc
I think you’re right. It’s all in my head. I actually have two other degrees. I saved a kid from getting crushed by a train once also ahahah
Most likely no after a while. But it’s more about being independant than having a flat in itself you know? Also I’ve been dirt poor and living under minimum wage my whole life, so I don’t ask for much, just living decently…
Well what, should I lie? If I’d rather be alone, then I’d never bother with a woman! But of course, I prefer being alone than with the wrong one. I like being alone often.
I appreciate the time you spend guiding a lost kid… I should just worry less indeed. I have enough worries with the job as it is. Sometimes you have to be blunt. I probably wouldn’t have dieted down (or not this soon) if my brother and all weren’t calling me a fat fuck all the time
Spring really is here. It’s 25°C and beautiful. Gonna be a nice walk with the dogs, and I forgot again to weigh me before breakfast!
Yesterday: 85,6 kgs and 2398 cals
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Yeah mate that’s why I said “no one but you” 
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Indeed sorry mate I read this as I woke up my brain has been foggy for a week
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Slightly misunderstood here I feel, there’s nothing wrong with wanting relationship, but the projection from your log (and presumably to a certain extent you in real life?) Is one of being that girl on a first date asking about marriage and kids. That coupled with the not wanting to be alone ring alarm bells to a dude who reads a few blog posts from across the channel, what sort of unwritten signals (or written if you’re insta flirting) are you giving in real life? It’s why I say about being content with who you are right now.
And looks like you’ve got good reason to be at peace with yourself:
You’re a smart dude and a hero!
Yea not having your own place sucks and crap pay sucks, but it’s not a permanent state, recognise it for what it is a temporary situation whilst you are earning your third degree - I couldn’t even finish 1! Let me also reassure you that the hard work and determination you display make it nigh on inevitable that you will end up successful.
But remember that unless you are content with who you are no amount of success will satisfy you, to illustrate the point the following quote is from Madonna:
‘My drive in life comes from a fear of being mediocre. That is always pushing me. I push past one spell of it and discover myself as a special human being but then I feel I am still mediocre and uninteresting unless I do something else. Because even though I have become somebody, I still have to prove that I am somebody. My struggle has never ended and I guess it never will.’
Your achievements do not hold the key to long term peace and happiness.
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Yes, you’re right. I’m looking for “the one” right now. But that’s not how it works.
Well thank you for the discussion. I have work to do, but I’ve already come a long way. Let’s do this
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I haven’t read all the above comments so someone might have already said it better but here’s my 2c:
You’ve made a phenomenal change in your life over the last 5 years, but especially the last year. At times, the happiness and positive changes you’ve made have shone out of the screen on here. You seem to be trying to do 12 years of change in 1 year, and for the most part you’re managing, its fantastic to see. You have to acknowledge though that trying to do everything at such a pace is going to come with some issues or that there will be some areas that “catch up” slower than others. This is to be expected, not feared. Its not that some things are never going to happen, just that they will happen slower.
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Thank you. It means a lot.
Until you find the one, get out of your shell and have fun with females. Get to know women. I have a lot of thoughts for you.
Find me on IG and message me. the inner oh
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I’ll add you too @theinneroh my man
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31/03
40 mins cycling + some rope skipping
Easy day today. Woke up late and tired again, but I did my walk and my cardio, and I worked almost all day long so that’s good
85,3 kgs so I guess the shit I gained this weekend is slowly fading!
NOOOOOOOOOOO the country is going full lockdown again! Goodbye gym 
When it rains, it pours
Un malheur n’arrive jamais seul…
Is there a point to cut now? I wanted to do my shoots… But what if I lose muscle? I thinks pull-ups and all will do the trick for the upper body but the lower… I’m relaly happy with the mass I’ve gained on my legs
@kleinhound should you reckon I’m just overreacting and some good ol’ WODs will be enough to keep my leg size?
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Yeah mate I doubt you will lose size very quickly (if at all)
Atrophy won’t happen that quickly
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