I went on a date once, and he brought his drunk friend so I think that made it a lot less datey.
If anyone ever decides to ask me out I would it to be something like
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ummm
Uhh…
"Hey wanna go see Thor 2 and then maybe hang out afterwards at my place and play Mario kart or something? You can be whatever character you want. I even have dry bones bowser unlocked for Mario kart wii and even though I really like being him you can pick him. Or if you’re not into that we could go play laser tag, though I think it’s called laser quest now… OH! I have Dinopoly which is like monopoly but with dinosaurs so that makes it a lot cooler. "
THen I’d be like
"YES YES A MILLION TIMES YES! "
And he would be like
“OMG YAY!!!”
And I’d be like
“heheheehhee”
And I’d bring my sailor moon purse to the date and he would KNOW WHAT IT’S FROM AND HE WOULD WANT TO BE TUXEDO MASK FOR HALLOWEEN AND I COULD BE SAILOR MOON !!!
[quote]four60 wrote:
Not going to get to much into if I believe this to be true or just a topic starter.
Without using the word “Date” are you saying you have never spent time with the opposite sex for a social reason (conversation, walk, coffee, lunch, ninja fight). Or is this just a issue when you ask someone for a “Date”? [/quote]
The latter…an issue when asking for a “date.”
And I lol’ed at “ninja fight.” The girl who wants to go there is a true keeper. [/quote]
Ha! Kinda sounds like (without knowing anything about you) you have a issue only when you focus on the ceremony and stigma that comes with Dating. I mean you stated you have gone on walks had meals with women, so the problem seems to be when you try to make it something Official.
Ease up and enjoy it, people stress the fuck out of a good time.
[quote]jskrabac wrote:
…'er more like getting dates advice.
It sucks when I lose motivation from it, and I’ve become completely terrified of approaching women I find attractive anymore…feeling “unworthy” or whatever…and then the even more terrifying long term fear of ending up alone for my entire life.
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I am a fat guy who has always dated hot women. My wife is hot, people assume I am rich, I am not. Take my advice. Two things, first, be confident, not arrogant, just confident. Women smell and hate (mental) weaklings and fake, “want-a-be’s” equally. You can’t fake it. Either you are or your not and if you believe you are, or that you are not, you’re right. Watch every episode of Mad Men and be Don Draper. That show is a master’s class in quiet confidence.
Second, understand no one wins every time. Some women are not going to like you no matter how ______ you are, but what do you get if you don’t ask? NOTHING. What do you get if you do ask? A CHANCE.
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^ Good advice.
As others have already said, self-confidence goes a long way; however, arrogance does not! Even though you’re terrified, you need put yourself out there. There are women that WILL do the initial approaching, but many won’t; I for one was always the “approach-e” never the “approach-er”. Since you’re a little gun-shy, try targeting a girl that is already showing interest in you.
Some of the things I regret most are the chances I didn’t take!!!
[quote]The Other Titan wrote:
Confidence is everything so whatever you do don’t come across as insecure or you’ll look like a fucking loser. I’ve never had a problem with getting dates. If you are afraid of rejection look for cues to indicate her interest. A look and smile your way means you are totally in. A look and a bite to the bottom lip means you are getting laid. Just a long look could mean she is interested, your ugly or you have something on your face. If the signs are there make the first move. Call her a few days after she gives you her number. Try to do something casual like getting a drink at first. When your out, focus on her and avoid talking too much about yourself. [/quote]
Confidence without congruence is artificial and will crumble without continuous positive feedback. Don’t let indicators of interest guide you, Jake. Lead the situation where you want it to go.
Confidence without congruence is artificial and will crumble without continuous positive feedback. Don’t let indicators of interest guide you, Jake. Lead the situation where you want it to go.[/quote]
Sometimes I get the feeling you’re a 'bot and I keep waiting for the spam posts.
Confidence without congruence is artificial and will crumble without continuous positive feedback. Don’t let indicators of interest guide you, Jake. Lead the situation where you want it to go.[/quote]
Sometimes I get the feeling you’re a 'bot and I keep waiting for the spam posts.
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Soon.
[quote]WhiteSturgeon wrote:
Since you’re a little gun-shy, try targeting a girl that is already showing interest in you.
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So am I right about the signs of showing interest? I’m referring to my post above. How do you or women in general show interest? [/quote]
I’m probably the wrong girl to be asking. At best, my interest looks like disdain and at worst, it looks like autism!!!
More specifically, I show interest with scornful glaring and a facial expression of disgust.
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LMFAO! No way! Your husband must have been one brave bastard to have hit on you under those conditions. I bet that you just think you come across that way. You have the friendliest smile I have a hard time envisioning you giving someone a harsh look.
[quote]WhiteSturgeon wrote:
I’m probably the wrong girl to be asking. At best, my interest looks like disdain and at worst, it looks like autism!!!
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LOL! This has to be one of the funniest quotes I’ve ever read hahaha!
[quote]WhiteSturgeon wrote:
I’m probably the wrong girl to be asking. At best, my interest looks like disdain and at worst, it looks like autism!!!
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LOL! This has to be one of the funniest quotes I’ve ever read hahaha![/quote]
-go for the fitness modeling thing…fitness chicks on var are nuts in good/bad ways, and you meet a new crowd of people
-be very confident. If you’re not confident, become confident