So the scenario is that theres this girl who works at the front desk of my chiropractic where ive been getting graston done on a weekly basis. Anyway, we have had some good conversations in the past couple weeks and i clearly find her attractive… And would like to think she is somewhat attracted to me as well haha. But the thing is i am having trouble asking her out… What do i say? Do i ask for her number, on a date?
Im really kind of lost when it comes to this, im 22 and havent had a girlfriend since i was 18 which was one of those HS relationships. Basically ive put all my time into school/athletics that ive never really chased after girls if you know what i mean. So i freeze up when its time to ask a girl out like today where I didnt know what to say to her to ask her out.
So basically im looking for any help, tips. Laugh all you want, trust me ive laughed at myself haha but forum members need to help a brother out! Haha
There are no tips. Nut up and just ask her - if you are confident about it, that’s your best chance. Sometimes you fail, it’s possible she doesn’t like you in that way and that’s okay, accept it and move on. You don’t like every girl who is keen on you either.
Okay, I do have one tip. Showing her your penis helps. Trust me.
Also, keep us updated. Failure or success, either will keep me amused.
If you’ve already had a few interactions with her she’s already decided whether she is interested or not. How you phrase the question will likely have little bearing on the outcome.
If you’re looking for specif words, try something like “I really enjoy talking to you but I’d like to get to know you better. Would you like to join me for coffee/beer/back realignment/a hike?”
And if you’re not the type for words, yeah whipping it out works just fine too.
The longer you wait, the less the scenario exists. Really think about who you want to be as a person. When you do it (not if), don’t expect perfection. Just expect a result. You’ll feel good about yourself no matter what she says. Then you keep at it (that’s the catch).
As a dude who has been pretty damn shy his whole life, I’ve discovered pretty recently it’s as easy as just asking. Pick something you enjoy, that you hope she enjoys and just go for it. If she says yes, then there you go! If she says no, who cares? At least you know and you won’t sit there wondering, “well what if?”