Been there more than once.This might sound a tad harsh,but listen up anyway.
Dump her,NOW,not tomorrow,not next week,NOW!!
I say this with your best interest in mind.She cheated on him with you.Don’t take this personally,but you gotta ask yourself this question.What makes me so damn wonderful that she’d never cheat on me?If you are that great(and we all think we are)you should already be doin’ way better than her.Just tryin’ to watch out for my iron-brother!
Look man, you’re going about this all wrong. Forget about all the good things that the two of you had because it doesn’t matter anymore. It didn’t matter to her when she made the choice to lay down with another man. Drunk or not, I promise that she was thinking of you and pondering whether or not your future together was worth jeopardizing for one night with a guy she’d probably been with countless times before. She showed you what she’s made of when the chips were down, and you’ll never trust her again.
The sooner you realize this, the sooner you can get rid of the feelings of rage. Trust me, I know what it feels like. But if you listen to her bullshit when she tries to come crying back to you, it will only prolong the suffering. Just cut her off and someone will eventually come along who will make you completely forget about her. You’ll feel like an ass for even talking this nonsense about taking her back.
Take AvoidsRoids’ advice. Or, see my thread entitled “How to Have a Good Weekend.”
Thanks guys for the great advice.
Archaic,
tough medicine, but you’re a T-man…
Peace
Nukklehed
Kick her straight to the curb. Don’t look back.
BTW, there’s no such thing as “basically” bf/gf – at least that’s the way you need to think to avoid these kinds of things in the future. Good luck.
I’d go and sleep with her best friend. Nothing better than revenge!
I’d go and sleep with her best friend. Nothing better than revenge!
I did that, she is now my wife.
That kicks ass!
GOOD GOD! Can we say…Have her cake and eat it too?? Dump the bitch. she’s not worth your time. If shes cheatin on her dude with you, than how the hell do you know she’s not goin to do the same to you (which she already has!).Why do you want to be with someone who is beatin around the bush with her ex! It just makes you the “man next in line”. HELL, just use her for sex! WHO CARES!
I’ll never understand how some guys end up with girls like this.
From a girl’s perspective here… go with your gut… but since you’re already dating again… then I think that you don’t really care as much as you’re making out… love overwhelms you straight off the bat, so if you don’t know what you feel now, then move on… figure it out and go from there… there is no rule that says that you have do anything RIGHT now… time is good for all things… either that or fuck her and then fuck her off!! Kisses, Chester…
CHINADOLL: That`s what happens when the small brains takes precedence over the big one.
I never got to understand how feelings are truer and more reliable than analysis (taking ones time). The only thing I got from listening to my heart` was to be heartbroken. Never happened when I took the time to know whom I was dealing with instead of starting dreaming right off the bat.
Oh well, maybe that`s part of the learning process.
I’d go and sleep with her best friend. Nothing better than revenge!
I did that, she is now my wife.
Are you serious?
The only reason I starting seeing the other girl is to get my mind off things… It didn’t work though, and I don’t want to see her again.
I decided that maybe setting up a friends with benefits thing was a good idea, but I don’t know if it will work because she still has feelings for me.
I saw her the other day, and we went out to the bar just to talk… And then she started bringing up her feelings, ‘do you think you can trust me again?’ ‘I feel awful about what happened’ ‘can we ever have what we had?’ ‘I think you’re my soulmate…’ blah blah blah… I just didn’t know what to think. I wanted to believe her, but I don’t know if I can.
If I think she’s changed should I give her another chance?
Something my father once told me… ‘we usually already have the answers to the questions we ask, especially when it comes to matters of the heart… it’s only whether you are able to face your answers’… refer to my last post… you already know what you want to do, don’t listen to any of us… just go ahead and do it… are you waiting for someone to tell you it’s ok to go back to her? Then here… allow me… go back to her, give her another chance but whatever you do, if she breaks your heart again, don’t ever regret having gone back because it was obviously something that you needed to learn… Kisses, Chester_blu
Listen to Chester, dude. It’s so easy for us to sit back and say “once a cheater, always a cheater”. You aren’t worried about getting your heart broken again, I hope. Remember: we are the men who take the road less travelled. Don’t listen to the voices of fear. Even if she does you wrong, it will not destroy you. Make this time rewarding for you, and take this ride as far as you can. Now I KNEW I had another metaphor laying around here somewhere, but I seem to have misplaced it… dang. Oh well, good luck.
Chiming the same tune as Lothario here.
When in doubt, take the ballsiest road.
Think about what YOU want. Think of what you cannot accept and what you can. Make up your mind. Tell the other one what you can and cannot accept, in a take it or leave it approach. Keep it business like, coming from a position of strength. Dont cave in cause you are needy. Dont lower your standards, or do so at your own self-esteem`s price. Your call.
If you don`t cave in, strong in your ballsy convinctions, just be patient…the other always does.
You cant lose. If the other accepts your conditions (just honestly being yourself, in the end), then youve set the grounds for a win-win setting. If the other doesnt want to respect your terms or compromises without offering anything back in return, you know point blank you are entering lose-win territory, with you as the loser. At that point, you have the past as a reminder of how things can be. And you have the choice or not to play the casino. You can always walk away at that point. Only you determine whats your real price and worth.
Works fine in other negotiations too. The first to break the silence loses. Always.
hey just fuck her mom
‘the first to break the silence loses…’ Bullllshiitttttt (oops sorry I sneezed…) The rest of it was good though… lol…
CHESTER BLU: Works fine for me.