[quote]tommytoughnuts wrote:
[quote]Cowboy_69 wrote:
Tommy, Id actually like to help you out, mate. How old are ya, for starters? What were saying here man is the way youre heading at the moment with this "I just wanna be friends with this girl but I ALSO want to be in a RELATIONSHIP with her"...aint gonna happen, buddy.
Age?
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Im 20.
Why do you think it is impossible to not sleep with a girl and still maintain a healthy relationship? I purposefully pursue women who I know share my belief systems and it works. I have had many healthy, non sexual relationships.
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Let me get this straight: You think God wants you to kill the enemy for his Corps but that he believes getting your dick wet is a sin? You got a lot of growing to do man.
[quote]WhiteFlash wrote:
[quote]tommytoughnuts wrote:
[quote]Cowboy_69 wrote:
Tommy, Id actually like to help you out, mate. How old are ya, for starters? What were saying here man is the way youre heading at the moment with this "I just wanna be friends with this girl but I ALSO want to be in a RELATIONSHIP with her"...aint gonna happen, buddy.
Age?
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Im 20.
Why do you think it is impossible to not sleep with a girl and still maintain a healthy relationship? I purposefully pursue women who I know share my belief systems and it works. I have had many healthy, non sexual relationships.
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Let me get this straight: You think God wants you to kill the enemy for his Corps but that he believes getting your dick wet is a sin? You got a lot of growing to do man.[/quote]
Who is this GOD person your talking about?
To the OP man your going to wake up one day (probably in your 30’s) and say man was I crazy. I think everyone should get it on several times before they get hitched. How do you know if she is going to satisfy you. Sex is a big part of relationships. Wake up now before it is to late.
[quote]cryptik wrote:
To the OP man your going to wake up one day (probably in your 30’s) and say man was I crazy. I think everyone should get it on several times before they get hitched. How do you know if she is going to satisfy you. Sex is a big part of relationships. Wake up now before it is to late.[/quote]
Agreed. Once you get married, she may never want it anyways except to have children. Then you’ll be wishing you took the advice from those internet people.
Does she even know about your commitment? If she does, great. If not, you should probably let her know. Unless you want to tell her when she’s making a move on you and ruin everything anyways. Just sayin.
Honestly, people, the kid made a hard commitment to abstain from doing the deed until marriage and all you heathens are trying to convince him he’s fucking up? Fantastic, someone comes in here with some sort of ridged moral conviction and you all try to turn him onto getting his dick wet by telling him what a stiff he is … fantastic.
How about instead of preaching to someone about a positive life decision we give him date ideas that are fun so he can give it to her … the fun that is. I’m absotlutely ashamed at the level of intolerance you dicks are giving this kid. He’s not a pussy after all.
Seriously, let’s lend him a hand, stroke his ego, and give him ideas for a great time!!
[quote]polo77j wrote:
Honestly, people, the kid made a hard commitment to abstain from doing the deed until marriage and all you heathens are trying to convince him he’s fucking up? Fantastic, someone comes in here with some sort of ridged moral conviction and you all try to turn him onto getting his dick wet by telling him what a stiff he is … fantastic.
How about instead of preaching to someone about a positive life decision we give him date ideas that are fun so he can give it to her … the fun that is. I’m absotlutely ashamed at the level of intolerance you dicks are giving this kid. He’s not a pussy after all.
Seriously, let’s lend him a hand, stroke his ego, and give him ideas for a great time!![/quote]
Fag.
[quote]tommytoughnuts wrote:
[quote]Rhino Jockey wrote:
These guys are right. If you aren’t fulfilling her sexual needs and wants than she will find some other guy to do the job. I understand that you want to wait and all that but unless you are interested in finding a girl that wants to wait as well, I can pretty much guarantee that this is going to end badly.[/quote]
How the heck can you guarantee that? Do you know who I attempt to date? Do you know anything about me at all? No sir you do not.
Just because I don’t bone the mess outta her doesn’t mean that my relationships will backfire on me. [/quote]
I said it could work if the girl shared the same beliefs as you and stood behind them. Unfortunately those types of people are few and far between. There are plenty of girls that claim they are being celibate. I always laugh about it as I am fucking them. Like I said dude, if you find the one that can live by your standards than more power to you but it really is like finding a needle in a haystack.
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Comedy club FTW! For some reason, it’s a rare occurence for a chick to get taken out to a comedy club. They dig it!
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That can backfire big time if the comic decides to pick on her or you…
It’ll end in complete failure…
[quote]WhiteFlash wrote:
[quote]polo77j wrote:
Honestly, people, the kid made a hard commitment to abstain from doing the deed until marriage and all you heathens are trying to convince him he’s fucking up? Fantastic, someone comes in here with some sort of ridged moral conviction and you all try to turn him onto getting his dick wet by telling him what a stiff he is … fantastic.
How about instead of preaching to someone about a positive life decision we give him date ideas that are fun so he can give it to her … the fun that is. I’m absotlutely ashamed at the level of intolerance you dicks are giving this kid. He’s not a pussy after all.
Seriously, let’s lend him a hand, stroke his ego, and give him ideas for a great time!![/quote]
Fag.[/quote]
You’ve got a lot of growing up to do…
Awesome mind blowing sex.
Man, I don’t really understand your line of thinking but I’ll do my best to help you out. I always liked to take first dates to cool kinda hole-in-the-wall restaurants with killer food and a cool set-up, preferrably a patio. You don’t want to go somewhere like Chili’s 'cause it’s too mainstream, but you don’t want to park your car in front of a taco cart either. If the weather’s nice sit on the patio.
Ya’ll can talk, maybe grab a beer or glass of wine, get to know one another and once the food gets there if the date’s going well you can offer her bites, steal food off her plate, shit like that. If it has gone well you can go grab a drink after dinner At the bar ya’ll can stay parked, shoot some pool, throw darts, all kinds of shit to keep the chatter up and stay loose. I don’t know how to help you after that though man, 'cause all of my first dates ended up with anything from making out at the car to trying to find my pants in the morning before work.
[quote]polo77j wrote:
[quote]WhiteFlash wrote:
[quote]polo77j wrote:
Honestly, people, the kid made a hard commitment to abstain from doing the deed until marriage and all you heathens are trying to convince him he’s fucking up? Fantastic, someone comes in here with some sort of ridged moral conviction and you all try to turn him onto getting his dick wet by telling him what a stiff he is … fantastic.
How about instead of preaching to someone about a positive life decision we give him date ideas that are fun so he can give it to her … the fun that is. I’m absotlutely ashamed at the level of intolerance you dicks are giving this kid. He’s not a pussy after all.
Seriously, let’s lend him a hand, stroke his ego, and give him ideas for a great time!![/quote]
Fag.[/quote]
You’ve got a lot of growing up to do…[/quote]
Haha.
[quote]Smallfry69 wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
Comedy club FTW! For some reason, it’s a rare occurence for a chick to get taken out to a comedy club. They dig it!
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That can backfire big time if the comic decides to pick on her or you…
It’ll end in complete failure…[/quote]
What is this, The Nutty Professor? How often do you think that actually happens?
wtf is wrong with everyone? so this kid doesnt want to have vaginal intercourse until marriage,leave him alone you jackasses i respect him for it. i mean after all there is a way to satisfy needs AND keep her tiny hymen kosher, cant believe no one mentioned it… just PIITB…jeez…amateurs
Related to the OP original question…Take her someplace that has tons of variety. That way if she gets bored you can move to the next. Some type of funplex(go carts, mini-golf, air hockey). You sound like you’re already friends with this girl so you shouldn’t have a hard time talking to her.
It really doesn’t matter where you go(within reason), as long as you can keep her entertained and keep a conversation going. Take her to the food court on campus, walk around campus talking after? Set that as a base plan and let the evening plan itself. Some girls like spontaneity over set plans.
A good first date, and one that I recommend to anyone who asks me on the subject, bring her by my place and watch me have sex with her.
DB
[quote]polo77j wrote:
Honestly, people, the kid made a hard commitment to abstain from doing the deed until marriage and all you heathens are trying to convince him he’s fucking up? Fantastic, someone comes in here with some sort of ridged moral conviction and you all try to turn him onto getting his dick wet by telling him what a stiff he is … fantastic.
How about instead of preaching to someone about a positive life decision we give him date ideas that are fun so he can give it to her … the fun that is. I’m absotlutely ashamed at the level of intolerance you dicks are giving this kid. He’s not a pussy after all.
Seriously, let’s lend him a hand, stroke his ego, and give him ideas for a great time!![/quote]
I sense a lot of subliminal messaging in there…
[quote]tommytoughnuts wrote:
I DO NOT want to sleep with her. I DO want to date her and try to pursue her in a respectful manner. I want to wait until I am married to get down with the get down, and until that day comes I will date girls in a way that does not include sex of any sort. [/quote]
So…no oral? No touching/caressing? No french kissing? Or am I misinterpreting? At any rate, not my business, and to each his own man. You say this has been working for you in previous relationships; fair enough.
As far as dates are concerned; they should be about YOU and HER having FUN and discovering a little more about each other. Is all. Dont try to impress her, dont go out doing shit that`s totally out-of-character for you either or she will expect that of you from that point forward. Really the emphasis should be on having fun and doing things that YOU genuinely ENJOY doing. Whatever THOSE things are…DO THEM with her.
The fact that youre having a genuine good time will rub off on her and shell like you all the more for it 
[quote]polo77j wrote:
Honestly, people, the kid made a hard commitment to abstain from doing the deed until marriage and all you heathens are trying to convince him he’s fucking up? Fantastic, someone comes in here with some sort of ridged moral conviction and you all try to turn him onto getting his dick wet by telling him what a stiff he is … fantastic.
How about instead of preaching to someone about a positive life decision we give him date ideas that are fun so he can give it to her … the fun that is. I’m absotlutely ashamed at the level of intolerance you dicks are giving this kid. He’s not a pussy after all.
Seriously, let’s lend him a hand, stroke his ego, and give him ideas for a great time!![/quote]
Some classic shit right there polo
Take her to Ikea, or something like rock climbing, paintball… Something unusual. Girls are bored of normal guys, and definitely you are not like every other guy.
Why Ikea? You have over there bedrooms, kitchens, bathrooms and all those things you have in houses, and you can make it fun! Act like you cook her meal, you are waiting for her in bed, waiting for her to change your tv channel because you are comfortable in your chair, and when she is already coming, let her bring you your protein shake 
Just have fun!