Uh oh! Hopefully the lead is somewhere on the inside of the construction of the cup and not the lining of it. 
Yes, I skimmed and the company said you would have to tear the cup apart.
I do not follow The Weather Channel but, every morning there is some… We are going to die, headline. 
I have even tried to block it and it stills pops up.
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Ugh, journalists. They’ll jump on whatever trend they can find and look for ways to make people worry.
Remember the summer of bees? I think that was back in the early 2000s.
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That’s it. Some of my peeps have news on ALL day. I don’t know how they do it. I would be ready to eat a bullet. 
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Me neither! That would for sure raise my blood pressure. And during an election year, it would be even worse.
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I believe most social media systems have something in their settings that allows you to put up these kinds of restrictions - but I doubt they will actually force you off them. They’ll probably give you a notification or reminder when you hit x number of minutes.
There might be something in your phone’s settings that allows you to do this too, but I haven’t dabbled. I’m an all or nothing kinda guy.
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Yeah, I see myself just getting irritated at the interruption and turning it off. Sometimes I’m better about it, other times worse.
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Good to know! I’ll have to play around with that and see if I can use it constructively.
Chris tells me to “post and ghost” but that feels rude and leaves me with a bit of anxiety.
What if someone makes a comment, and then they get the impression that you’re ignoring them because you don’t see it. People take social media so damn seriously that I worry about hurting feelings on accident.
Is this a sign of being too high in agreeableness and does Jordan Peterson have a strategy for decreasing it?
I just want to care less about people’s feelings. 
High Agreeableness = Golden Retriever Personality
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Pick a subset of people (that includes yourself) and focus on them and them only. It’s the same as not eating certain foods or only very very occasionally eating them because they are nutritionally devoid
And tell yourself that “not caring” == being an arsehole. People have limited bandwidth and you are a person.
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I can see that happening too. But hopefully taking half a year off has helped me reframe it a little.
I can post sporadically without compulsion to be consistent. I also don’t feel as compelled to check in all the time, or document mundane parts of my day, and I’m not on the lookout for “content” to post. (Yuck.)
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HAHA you speak my language. Great metaphor!
And very good point! I also need to be okay with letting people think what they want. They’re grown-ups. If I don’t see a private message or a comment and someone gets butt hurt over it, then that’s not my problem.
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A little Schopenhauer or Nietzsche goes a LONG way
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You have no control over what they make of your actions or inactions.
You made a post, they aren’t obligated to comment on it, nor are you obligated to respond to their comment. You don’t owe each other anything.
IDK if JP does, but I would try to containerize it. Its a pretty awesome personality trait to have, but it should be used sparingly and selectively.
Caring about a stranger’s feelings - is kinda silly.
Caring about how someone feels when you care about them - is normal/healthy.
There is a topic of proximity selection for these kinds of things…
“Donate $1 to help provide clean water for African Children”
does not hit the same as
“Donate $1 to help local foster homes”
I would argue the people that you frequently speak with and care about should be responded to when you want to.
Everyone else could be 10,000 miles away on a Russian troll farm for all we know.
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Man that’s good insight. I want my brain to absorb that completely. Backing away from socials did help me to stop caring, but I just don’t want to return to that place of getting anxious about the potential thoughts and feelings of other people.
That’s always been a weakness, and social media just encourages it.
It’s a validation-machine, and not just in a way that makes you want praise, but also in a way that makes you compelled to be (constantly) available for people you hardly know.
Okay you need to be a therapist now because this is GOLDEN.
That last bit is so good that I bolded your italics. That level of maturity is what I picture having if I were living at the top of my potential.
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Oh, good to know! Probably a little Mark Manson too.
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It’s a lot easier to do these things when you’re, well, me. You saw my personality test results.
But my personality would not get me any type of social media following either, except maybe certain male-centered topics. I’m not nice enough.
Funny you mention it though - I actually dislike most therapists and their methods of intervention. I tried it - probably went to 40-50 sessions. Never saw any real results, but there was a lot of nodding along to validate my frustrations.
I’m not saying it doesn’t work, but I just don’t think it’s that helpful for men (most of the time). Most of us don’t need to air out our grievances, we need to figure out how the hell to fix them. The best therapist I ever had helped me with that… I met her once and never needed her again. Coincidence? Maybe.
Anyways, I appreciate the kind words.
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Men’s Sheds and the experience of depression in older Australian men - PubMed (nih.gov)
Talk therapy is not as effective in men. Australia has been doing “men’s sheds” for awhile and it is showing a lot of positive results
I have tried talk therapy too and I would say the first couple sessions provided a couple good tools to use and then the rest were just somebody nodding along to my bitching session and not providing any real benefit.
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Interesting. I generally believe most men benefit from action, not talking about their problems.
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It’s two-fold, talking helps but it typically needs to be in the presence of an activity.
My wife taught young kids for many years and the trick with boys was to put something in their hands for them to manipulate (legos, puzzle, toy car) and they would almost always talk then. If they were just forced to try and talk she wouldn’t get anywhere.
So it’s something ingrained in the male genome where activity promotes interaction with others and that by itself can be a form of therapy. Other men are more willing to listen if they are also busy. I think any guy who really thinks about the previous statement can see it’s true.
It’s why we call the gym, sports, games (like darts/billards/bowling) “therapy”..it’s tongue in cheek but also true.
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I got excited reading mens sheds, knew nothing of the context of the conversations assumed I could blag giant garden shed as good for my health and slip it past the Mrs.
I don’t want a shed everyone is invited to!
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