So do I!! We should do an act together - we would be HILARIOUS!!! Lol.
You got it! Wishing you ALL the luck and funnies! Just get up there and be all your authentic self. You can’t go wrong!
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At the very least, we would crack each other up. 
Thank you!!! I’m looking forward to owning the stage tonight.
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good friend of mine did this a few years ago. He was working in real estate and showed a couple around a home. Kept talking about how suited it was to a new family, and told the woman that the small bedroom would be perfect as a nursery when the baby came. She promptly replied, “i’m not pregnant i’m fat !” Fair to say he didn’t close the sale.
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IDK, this seems like a trash assignment for like a ton of reasons.
Self deprecating humor is pretty much always bad.
Guys doing it are generally seen as less attractive as a byproduct, but at least it’s usually funny.
Girls doing it really only have 2 jokes to go off of… being (1) a slut or (2) being emotionally damaged. Every female comedian uses these two bits as her primary source of laughs.
You’re not either of the two, so what other negative qualities to do you have to try and poke fun at?
The few that are there just won’t be funny.
Not your fault, IMO.
Poking fun at things that you’re bad at, can be funny but only if they’re relatable.
Anyways, I applaud you for being open and honest about it. Comedians usually say bombing is one of the worst feelings you can get, but it helps you learn about other people, and about yourself.
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Haha ironically, he chose the homework because of something I’d said about myself the week before! So apparently I just never stop trashing myself out loud, and he wanted me to use that as fuel, but make it playful. I was not there yet.
At some point I’ll figure out how to do it.
Overt self-deprecation usually is! Especially if it’s too serious. I think the secret is making it less stabby and more cute… and if it’s done with authenticity and confidence, most people won’t even realize what happened, but they’ll find the comedian more endearing at the end.
Here’s an example of Pete Holmes doing it right:
This is what I think of as cute self-deprecation. It works!
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Thank you so much!! Weirdly enough, it was a huge privilege to bomb early. It gave me a taste of what that’s like, and last night I did a thousand times better.
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An Update
Last night was so much better. I scored laughs, got tons of positive feedback, and felt playful and sassy.
Fun night. Needed that win.
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Oh my goodness that story makes me physically cringe. That is horrific! Maybe we should all just assume everyone’s fat until they explicitly tell us they’re preggo. 
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The very best comedians struggle for months to come up with a lousy half hour of good material, and plenty of it falls flat.
You are too hard on yourself. Genuinely funny ideas often do not reach their potential. Many things that seem funny at first glance are not - and professional comedians do not know until they try them out on a variety of audiences. Look at Jo Koy at the Oscars, and he is hilarious.
Self deprecating humour can be good. Louis CK and Nate Bargatze are masters at it. You couldn’t see Anthony Jeselnik doing it well.
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That’s very comforting to hear. Thank you. 
Much luck & many funnies!
I’m really painfully afraid of speaking in front of a group. Left alone, it would simply never happen. But in my 12 step program, there’s this thing called a Lead. Thats where, when asked, you stand before a meeting and tell your story. typically What it was like in active substance abuse, what brought you to bottom, and what life is like for you now. And its kind of obligatory. Not actually, but there’s an understanding that you’re supposed to share your experience, strength and hope with others, and this is one of the ways to do it.
So of course my angry ex girlfriend asked, cuz she’s like the secretary for this huge group that is the place where everybody goes to see a lead. Rehabs & stuff send a van every week, its like a whole thing. And she Knows I’m like the most introverted, painfully shy, doesn’t ever want to do that- guy.
But I did it anyways. My opening line was “I’ve always viewed the world with a jaundiced eye, so it’s quite fitting that I started drinking at 12…” And people laughed! It broke the ice really well. So I found a way to make 12 year olds drinking funny.
A few minutes later I got to a relapse I had after a couple of years sober. I said “It was like falling down the steps backwards. I’m sure you can all relate to that…” and that got a lot of laughs.
All told, it was a great experience, and I got people to laugh along to a 12 year old substance abuser, relapsing, a famously brutal magistrate, and a few other things that aren’t typically funny. And this guaranteed that she would never ask me to do my lead there ever again!
So I’ve had to use humor to make a lot of really dark and painful experiences more palatable and in some cases, even funny.
You can do it. If I could, anybody can.
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Incredible story! That was really clever.
You clearly have a comedic and storytelling gift.
I think that’s the beauty of it. Laughter heals whether you’re the one causing it or the one actually doing it.
Your past and the way you share it are riveting. I know you’re not big on public speaking, but Im betting you could change lives or at least spread a lot of laughter.
I did well! There’s a lot of work to do because the teacher had some joke pointers and I’ve got homework, but as far as stage presence, I was a totally different person than last week.
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Thanks!
Yeah. For me its relating to people on a different level.
I was hanging out with a couple friends. We’re a pretty busted up bunch. We’re laughing about some pretty grave stuff and the one guy drops “Do you guys realize everybody in this room has been in a coma? Just thought I’d point that out. It doesn’t happen too often.”. And we all just completely lost it.
Trauma bonding can be fun! It’s cathartic really. And the guy that said it just looks funny. Like a drunken pumpkin. But he knows it, and uses it.
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Oh yeah! I didn’t mean to imply that you didn’t. Just trying to be encouraging.
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I try to be funny at work. Between the LDS folk and the Woke folk, I have discovered I am not funny.
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HA! You just need a better audience.
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Haha I was just updating you on how it went and the encouragement was so appreciated.
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I came back in to remember what iron brand Dani mentioned and noticed your post (2 weeks later, haha).
Thorne has 500mg of vitamin C and 75mg of citrus bioflavonoids. Kirkland has 1,000mg of vitamin C and 100mg of citrus bioflavonoids (it’s also like 1/5 of the price of Thorne). Is Kirkland the superior choice? Is twice as much vitamin C and more flavonoids a good thing, or does it get to the point where it’s just wasted surplus? Just wondering if there’s a reason why you pay so much more for one brand when the other one supposedly has twice the amount of good stuff.
I mean, it’s the one I take… Lol. Honestly, both are great options. If you have a Costco membership - Kirkland is my rec. If you don’t the Thorne option is solid.
For the Vitamin C, once you meet 100% of your daily needs, you just pee the rest out. There are no guidelines for flavonoid needs and fruits and veggies are great sources of them too - a little extra probably isn’t a bad thing, but if they do any good past a certain amount is questionable.
That’s what I thought, but I couldn’t remember if I was thinking of Vitamin C or something else.
I’d probably go with the Kirkland then. Cutting the pills in half still equals Thorne’s amounts and it becomes 10% of the cost.
Thanks for clarifying! I just like to hear thoughts from people I trust before buying supplements - there’s so many out there and I never know which amazing claims to trust.
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