[quote]cram2012 wrote:
the majority of posters have said “men are scumb who cheat” “real men are faithful” blah blah. for the most part I agree, you have to have integrity, honesty is important so on and so forth. Self mastery is the key… But ponder this, why do sports stars with amazing physiques and mucho dinero cheat all the time? (just one example) Because they have amazingly hot women throwing themselves at them 24-7, thats why.
If I was in that position I would be banging chicks left and right. you only live once and those opportunities are usually a small window of your life, in other words you got to get it while the getting is good. As you get older it becomes more important to settle down and raise a family and more often then not you dont have the opportunities that you once did (there are exeptions of course)
Some of the most exhilerating moments of ones life are spent in those first intimate moments of a relationship.(in my opinion)
Why the hell do we spend so much time in the gym sculpting our bodies and striving to achieve new career goals? to be desired!!!
relationships are crucial to growth and I am not advocating that people cheat, but it happens. I am not going to sit here and say Kobe Bryant is weak, a scumb bag, blah blah blah. He just gave in to temptation, it can happen to anyone given the right circumstances, was it a mistake? does he regret it? probably…but he is a man with opportunities that most of us dont have…dont hate!!
you know your willy gets hard everytime you visit T-Nation and a fine a$$ girl is posted on the home page, imagine if she was throwing herself at you? just because it doesnt happen to you does’nt mean your better than someone else that has the opportunities.
I am not saying Its right to cheat, let me be clear about that, what I am saying is it happens and I can understand why. As you get older you grow, become more mature, and can control those temptations, you make mistakes, doesnt make you less of a person than the next man. thats my take now you guys can hate on me[/quote]
You leave out some important reasons for this phenomenon. The most important is probably the lack of a responsible male role model in their lives. Many professional athletes come from dysfunctional families that either had no male presence or had fathers that were philanderers.
Another reason is that they have been showered with gifts, false affection and favors their whole lives because of their physical gifts, not because of who they are. For this reason, they think that they are always being used and that they should use people in return.
There are plenty of good-looking, married, succesful pro athletes who have women throw themselves at them and they can resist. How can you explain this?
You also said that some of the most exhilirating moments are in the first stages of a relationship. I agree with this, but I think that there are more exhilirating events that occur during a long-term monogamous relationship. For example, buying your first house together; the first time you hear a child’s heartbeat on an ultrasound; when that child is born; when you get that big promotion and your mate is more excited than you are.
There are other things about a monogamous relationship that enrich your life more than you can know until you’ve experienced it. I won’t bore you with those, but I’m sure you can think of some without much effort.
DB