Dollarbill brought up a point that I was thinking of. You may have some form of OCD(Obsessive compulsive disorder) how ever mild. It’s usually comorbid with depression, i.e. both a result of low serotonin.
So some cognitive/behaviour counselling and/or antidepressants may help. Something has to change, either your thinking or your biology or both.
Dude, fedorov, you sound seriously depressed. Here’s how I think about it, if I’m improving my quality of life, if I know that with each thing I do I am getting better and enhancing the quality of my life, then I’m happy. Sure its good to set goals too, since that helps keep you focused and keeps things in perspective. But it sounds to me like any advice is not going to help you. Look into whether or not you have depression, it could be even getting worse if you are overtraining. See how all these people are offering great advice? All of it is going straight over your head. Something else is wrong in your life and you’ve found bodybuilding as a way of keeping some order or replacing something thats lost. Guess what? Aint gonna work, and you pretty much know that. Find out how you can fix whatever it is thats causing you to feel this way and then get back to lifting and all that and do it in a way that makes you feel better. But first, identify what the hells goin on in your life.
ancient-bump
holy hell this was random of you Prof. X
[quote]fedorov91 wrote:
Bodybuilding is Ruining my life.
plain and simple.
I can’t go have fun with friends because I have to eat chicken breast and oatmeal at ____ o’clock!
Not that I have any friends left because I have to eat chicken breast and oatmeal at ____ o’clock!
I can’t go play street Basketball because it will impede my muscle recovery.
I can’t go to the bar because Alcohol will kill my Testosterone levels.
I can’t stay up late because my Cortisol levels will shoot through the roof and destroy my muscle gains.
I started Bodybuilding to become more physically attractive and enhance my life but instead it has taken OVER my life.
Ever since I started bodybuilding my social life has been nonexistent.
How can I be a great bodybuilder and still have a great social life?
What should I do?
How can I balance living a fun fulfilling life without giving up bodybuilding?
I WANT A LIFE!
[/quote]
I share your pain. I do not go out for lunch with my friends anymore. Haven’t been inside a bar in 9 months. My life has changed.
The way I see it, I am paying my dues for the years of abuse my body took.
I really enjoy lifting weights but if it is a choice between weights and my career then lifting would go.I dont go around carrying a rucksack full of tuppaware but then again Im 200 pounds and not a 260 pound even centopani or whoever.I actually find I can study better on days I can go to the gym so its a false economy saying you dont have 40-60 mins in the day to workout.
I only watch 2 hours of tv during the week so that helps aswell.Also what is the point in turning yourself into a hermit just because you lift weights?Im not big on going out or drinking but if there is a social get together or whatever I will go to it.You dont have to get shitfaced every time you go out,just have a coke or something.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
ancient-bump[/quote]
WWWWWWWWWWWHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY…
Really X are you letting off steam cause you did not get to kill me this weekend on AC3?
[quote]fedorov91 wrote:
I think I also have a very strong psychological connection to my food, almost like religion.
I have to eat X & X at exactly X o’clock at X spot.
How can I get over this?[/quote]
I’m sure you may have seen this before, but just in case here it is again:
I’ve started following a IFing schedule because it fits my lifestyle better. I can go out to eat, have greasy hamburgers from time to time, have beers with friends on the weekends. And best of all, I don’t have to eat every 3 hours.
There’s also another thread similar to this going around on the supplements and nutrition forum regarding ditching the 6 meals a day protocol. Switching to the intermittent fasting schedule was probably the single best thing I’ve done for my overall quality of life this year.
I’m an idiot, I didn’t realize this was a bump from 2004
Should have read what I wrote right before you. Its okay you will be alright.
[quote]fedorov91 wrote:
Bodybuilding is Ruining my life.
plain and simple.
I can’t go have fun with friends because I have to eat chicken breast and oatmeal at ____ o’clock!
Not that I have any friends left because I have to eat chicken breast and oatmeal at ____ o’clock!
I can’t go play street Basketball because it will impede my muscle recovery.
I can’t go to the bar because Alcohol will kill my Testosterone levels.
I can’t stay up late because my Cortisol levels will shoot through the roof and destroy my muscle gains.
I started Bodybuilding to become more physically attractive and enhance my life but instead it has taken OVER my life.
Ever since I started bodybuilding my social life has been nonexistent.
How can I be a great bodybuilder and still have a great social life?
What should I do?
How can I balance living a fun fulfilling life without giving up bodybuilding?
I WANT A LIFE!
[/quote]
oh my dear brother…we all started somehow like that…
I starte bodybuilding because I wanted to look better and fill something that I was feeling uncomplete inside myself… I wanted to be more accepted and feel more accepted inside myself by myself…
then I became a body builder, but it was not enough… I wanted a girlfriend, a beautiful one so that I could feel complete… and it took several time me in a place of feeling more uncomplete…
then I wanted to become someone… I decided to become a personal trainer and it was not enough…
I then decided to go in another country to be an appreciated personal trainer…and then at some point it was not enough…
I decided to leave the country…
then I felt I was missing that country… but missing perpetuated the missing…
and in the middle of this I realized I had everything inside… and now that I know I have everthing inside… I still look for something to give a purpose to my life and today I found more specifically…
BUT in the middle of all of this I can tell you one thing… yes body building apparently detracted for my life… it made me feel different in any sort of ways also the ones I liked less… but with body building I trained my focus ability I trained my endurance to search and wanting to reach the light, and now the light I reaced! thank you body building for being such a perfect permission slip to me
<3
This describes my life too, blah blah blah.
Just kidding Prof, didn’t fool my ass! What gave it away? The actual legitimate responses after the OP’s post, haha. Oh, ‘2004’ helped too.
[quote]fedorov91 wrote:
Bodybuilding is Ruining my life.
plain and simple.
I can’t go have fun with friends because I have to eat chicken breast and oatmeal at ____ o’clock![/quote]
No you don’t, there are plenty of things you can eat that have protein and carbs (protein bars?), and frankly put your body can go more than 2.87965 hours without a food source, trust me, people do it all the time, just eat enough food in total. Amino acids really only become a fuel source after 12 or more hours without food, assuming you eat sufficient amounts of protein and carbs most other times, and even then, still a minor one.
OK maybe, you seem weird
No it won’t, their are guys a lot bigger and leaner than you everywhere who do physical activity beyond strictly weightlifting. Cardio is good for you.
No it won’t, a subtle measurable decrease maybe, its not going to cut them in half or something. Again there are guys a lot bigger than you everywhere who consume liquor both in moderation and excess
Lies, Look at Prof X going to dentistry school, or Bauer, another famous member who never got more than 4 or 5 hours per night, or Alpha, a member with the craziest job ever who is ultra strong and ultra fast and barely sleeps. I’m not huge by any means, but any body comp changes I have experienced through medical school have been a result of hitting the gym less, not sleeping less. Don’t become chronically sleep deprived, go to bed at a reasonable hour at least some times, problem solved.
[quote]I started Bodybuilding to become more physically attractive and enhance my life but instead it has taken OVER my life.
Ever since I started bodybuilding my social life has been nonexistent.
How can I be a great bodybuilder and still have a great social life?
What should I do?
How can I balance living a fun fulfilling life without giving up bodybuilding?
I WANT A LIFE!
[/quote]
I know this is a 6 year old bump, and that I wrote it seemingly back to the OP but I’m really writing it to any T -nation member who has problems similar to this guy.
Your body is a powerful and adaptive homeostatic beast, drinking a few beers, sleeping a few less hours, or performing any cardiovascular activity will not be damaging to your goals as long as they are not Olympia-related.
Guy who said he does not go out for lunch with his friends anymore, can’t you order something reasonably healthy, Like soup and a sandwich or something? Sure you may not be able to calculate the calories perfectly, but even if you underestimate the calories by like 100 or 200, thats only like 0.05 lbs of fat, ie. you could go out twice a month with your friends for a year and put on 1 lb of extra fat if you budgeted in in properly, thats nothing in the grand scheme of maintaining important relationships.
I read the first three posts in this thread and thought “All these guys are such pathetic losers. STFU!”
I know this thread is old as shit
I highly doubt the biggest guys on here obsessed about it that much starting off.Especially if your arms look small enough to floss with.
This thread is 6 years old…OP must be jacked as shit if he kept up with the chicken breasts and broccoli!!
In all seriousness, this guy sounded and looked like he was a budding anorexic.
[quote]TwinIron wrote:
This thread is 6 years old…OP must be jacked as shit if he kept up with the chicken breasts and broccoli!!
In all seriousness, this guy sounded and looked like he was a budding anorexic.[/quote]
Yeah, is it me or was Prof X way more accomodating back then? If somebody posted the same thread today, he would probably to into a rant about how he needs to quit being a pussy and start eating more…
[quote]Professor X wrote:
ancient-bump[/quote]
Man, look how laid back you used to be!
[quote]SkyNett wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
ancient-bump[/quote]
Man, look how laid back you used to be! [/quote]
That’s what I was thinking. I was waiting for the flame, but it never happened.
[quote]Im_New_Feed_Me wrote:
[quote]SkyNett wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
ancient-bump[/quote]
Man, look how laid back you used to be! [/quote]
That’s what I was thinking. I was waiting for the flame, but it never happened.[/quote]
Guys do you know how many Steak years ago that was? Really. I dont want to do the math but a bunch of fucking cows have been eaten.