I really don’t think they get it. He seems to be responding like a defense mechanism because he is choosing to get married at that same age.
I doubt anyone is going to wait around or care for nine years just to see if his marriage works out.[/quote]
I have a different viewpoint from you based on my experience, and you see that as “a defense mechanism”?
You made blanket statements about people in their early 20s being too dumb or immature to have a successful marriage. Wouldn’t you feel the need to chime in if you were me?
What if I said some people are just too black to get married? You’d be all over that crap (like a defense mechanism?), and it makes exactly as much sense as blaming modern divorce rates on age. [/quote]
Aren’t you 21 right now? You have no clue how much more mature you will be 10 years from now than you are right now.
If I were you, I would be worried that my thoughts led me to believe relating this to a race issue made sense.
Most people in their 30s do not act like they did in their late teens and early 20s. It is a completely different maturity level and a whole new set of responsibilities.
Any sane person can comprehend that can have an affect on any marriage whether it results in “failure” or “success”.
Poor Brick. Brick the only person who has to be happy and/or impressed with your life altering decision is YOU. Be happy dude. IH the internet gods were very nice to you and Greeny. <3 OP I think a lot of people missed the comment in your OP that she was telling you this lifting thing wasn’t okay anymore. Don’t ever give up who you are for someone else. It never works.
FWIW, I got married at age 23. Still married at almost 48. I’m basically the same person, but with much more experience (my wife and I “grew” together), and an 18 year old son.
[quote]attydeb2005 wrote:
Poor Brick. Brick the only person who has to be happy and/or impressed with your life altering decision is YOU. Be happy dude. IH the internet gods were very nice to you and Greeny. <3 OP I think a lot of people missed the comment in your OP that she was telling you this lifting thing wasn’t okay anymore. Don’t ever give up who you are for someone else. It never works. [/quote]
Oh hell, Deb… I know that. I just wanted to poke Brick:)
Your last comment is the absolute truth. Everyone should have things that they’re passionate about and find someone that can at least appreciate that.
They don’t have to understand whatever it is that they do, but, they should at least support it.
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
FWIW, I got married at age 23. Still married at almost 48. I’m basically the same person, but with much more experience (my wife and I “grew” together), and an 18 year old son. [/quote]
This is nice. Age and maturity level do not always mean the same thing. I don’t think we can make blanket statements about being too young at 21 to marry. I’m 43 and I’m still not sure I have the unselfishness to commit to a marriage. Living proof you can get old but be immature forever LOL.
My grandparents married when they were 21 and eighteen and they’re still together!
If I recall correctly, Push met or married his wife in his early twenties.
Ever check out that site www.wifeysworld.com. Those two were high school sweet hear and now run a sex site and they sure seem to be having a blat in their marriage.
Here’s my thing, I’m 22 years old, power lifting for 3 years. Senior in college about to get a degree in physics. So here’s the main question then I will give my story:
Is it still possible to keep lifting and training, doing what makes you happy even when you are married?
So story:
Met this girl 5 (soon to be 6) years ago when I was in the UK. Hit it off, stayed in contact emailed every day (one or more times). We get back on the same continent, meet up and we get engaged. I am happy about it, she’s a great girl, supports me, builds me up ,and I do the same for her.
To fast forward a bit, the engagement was in Aug, it’s now about to be Nov. She’s back in the EU studying. We skype a lot, email a lot. I’m going over for New Years.
ANyways long story shot, I’m getting the whole, “You can’t be married, and still workout.” Something I don’t believe. I want to continue lifting, and yes I know both sides have to make sacrifices but to what end?
Any thoughts here are greatly appreciated[/quote]
I didn’t bother to read through all the posts so if this has been answered already - my apologies.
Op, in reading your story, it appears to me that you are ghey. I think the crux of your problem is that you are with a woman, which you have no idea how to control or live with. You should immediately cease all relationships with women and find a more compatible mate.
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
Chiming in as one of the women who trains, competes, has a couple of kids, house, mortgage, full time job and full time, live in boyfriend (who also trains and competes) it isn’t exactly an unattainable goal. I also have time to go to movies, read books, go to the park, help my kids with their homework, post on t-n, get laid and sometimes, do fuck all.
My point is that I find it to be an unsupportable assumption that you can’t be married and train.[/quote]
[quote]Bricknyce wrote:
I started meeting so many more women after I left DA LIFE and became an ordinary gym going schlub. :)[/quote]
I’m not sure what “DA LIFE” is you left because you kinda look like you were always a Ordinary Gym going guy. Not that there is anything wrong with that.
[quote]Bricknyce wrote:
I started meeting so many more women after I left DA LIFE and became an ordinary gym going schlub. :)[/quote]
I’m not sure what “DA LIFE” is you left because you kinda look like you were always a Ordinary Gym going guy. Not that there is anything wrong with that.[/quote]
He was actually a contract killer. His appearance was carefully cultivated to look exceedingly normal.
[quote]Bricknyce wrote:
I started meeting so many more women after I left DA LIFE and became an ordinary gym going schlub. :)[/quote]
I’m not sure what “DA LIFE” is you left because you kinda look like you were always a Ordinary Gym going guy. Not that there is anything wrong with that.[/quote]
Hey fuckhead, how does what I look like NOW indicate what I looked like before? And I currently weigh 208 at 5’10", which isn’t exactly skinny either! Two years ago I weighed 245-250.
And how do you know what I look like shirtless considering I’m wearing a cardigan in a dark lounge?
And even to GET big, one has to live THE LIFE that’s suitable to get bigger. That means eating six meals per days, stellar sleep habits, a lot of food preparation, and other anal retentive, anti-social (socializing sense of the term, not psychological disorder) behavior.
Well according to this dude’s reasoning, concentration camp victims never appeared well nourished, because after all, what they look(ed) like after or during internment indicates they never appeared well nourished.
eeu is my least favorite poster on this site. Hands down. tighty whitey avatars are probably the only things ive ever gotten genuinely annoyed at while browsing this site.
