Like I said: guy who had no clue what he wanted to do with his life at 21 years of age, reading 1 book changes his entire personal outlook, and crying strangers… I don’t even know what your point about crying strangers was, but my point is… you clearly sucked when you were 21.
I don’t suck. But thanks for the “advice”.[/quote]
Just stop now. You are going to look back at these posts in a couple years and be embarrassed with yourself.
Or keep going, this is comedy gold son, gold I tell ya.
[quote]mr popular wrote:
like you’ve ever lived together.[/quote]
I never got this particular piece of advice. Will someone give me a semi-solid reason why living together is a good idea before marriage? Just doesn’t make sense.[/quote]
Would you buy a $50,000 car if they wouldn’t let you test drive it first?[/quote]
Exactly. The only people I’ve known to up and get married without having ever lived together (in my age group anyways) are divorced. Or they’re super religious, don’t believe in divorce, and are living horrible lives now. [/quote]
Statistically, people that live with each before marriage have a higher rate of divorce…[/quote]
That’s actually wrong. Statistically over 50% of marriages end in divorce anyway so the stats are skewed. I don’t care how long you’ve dated someone, how many days in a row they’ve stayed over, how much time y’all spend together, whatever. YOU DON’T TRUELY KNOW SOMEONE UNTIL YOU LIVE WITH THEM. If y’all aren’t living together and there’s tension or an arguement breaks out or whatever, you can just leave and stay at your place or vice versa. All your privacy goes out the window when you live together. Your time is no longer your time, for the most part. You’re sharing it with your partner. I’ve lived full time with 2 women now and half lived with another and am really conscious and appreciative of my time being MINE.
OP, you mentioned some pretty telling stuff, specifically that y’all haven’t spent a lot of time together, you’re only 22 and her parents aren’t your biggest fan. I hate to sound so negative man, but this looks like a serious disaster waiting to happen. I’d really sit down and think long and hard about what you’re getting yourself into. From what I’m reading this will not work.
If you don’t already have your core principles, goals, and values in place when you’re 21 (the kind that stick way past 30), then I say again: you suck.[/quote]
LMFAO.
Kid, you are 21, and are trying to talk about things like you have actually lived past 21 and are looking back…
How on Earth do you not understand how stupid that is?
Oh yeah, you are 21…[/quote]
Hey man fuck you, I’m twenty and I got shit locked, DOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWN!!! One more week until I can get legally fucked up! So, excited. rubs nipples oh yeah.
You do understand that there is more than one motherfucking demographic for a marriage right, hater of all haters? White people divorce 30% of first time divorces, divorce rate for hispanic, black, and chinese all have different divorce rates. People that don’t live with each other have a statistically lower chance of getting a divorce then those that live with each other before they get married. FACT. I posted the studies, look 'em up hater!
You do understand that there is more than one motherfucking demographic for a marriage right, hater of all haters? White people divorce 30% of first time divorces, divorce rate for hispanic, black, and chinese all have different divorce rates. People that don’t live with each other have a statistically lower chance of getting a divorce then those that live with each other before they get married. FACT. I posted the studies, look 'em up hater![/quote]
Haha. And I can post statistics that show your statistics are WRONG. I can also look at emprical evidence of those I know personally. You’re 20 years old. You have no idea what you’re talking about. Did you learn this in one of your sociollogy classes? At 20 you’ve never even had a serious relationship, though you’ll swear up and down that you have. Nice of you to jump on the “Hater” bandwagon by the way. I’m off to lift then get drunk. Y’all have fun.
[quote]NvrTooLate wrote:
13 years with two kids[/quote]
Doesn’t sound like he gets a lot of sex.[/quote]
Are you trying to be funny? When I post, take it as gospel. Don’t question me. How old are you?[/quote]
No, two kids doesn’t sound like a lot of intercourse. If you said he has six kids then I’d be like “man’s get some vajayjay.” 21 on next Saturday.[/quote]
That’s just a stupid post. How does having two kids equate to less sex?
[quote]NvrTooLate wrote:
13 years with two kids[/quote]
Doesn’t sound like he gets a lot of sex.[/quote]
Are you trying to be funny? When I post, take it as gospel. Don’t question me. How old are you?[/quote]
No, two kids doesn’t sound like a lot of intercourse. If you said he has six kids then I’d be like “man’s get some vajayjay.” 21 on next Saturday.[/quote]
That’s just a stupid post. How does having two kids equate to less sex?
Come back to this thread when you grow up Chris.[/quote]
I think he thought that because he’s catholic… and catholics don’t believe in contraception.
At 21, most people haven’t even finished college. You are NOT living in the real world in college unless you are old/mature enough to completely be on your own. I am speaking of life experience, maturity, responsibilities and sacrifices. [/quote]
And you suddenly know everything about me… how?
[quote]I didn’t say people need to wait until 30. Most women don’t even stop giggling like little girls and acting grown until the age of 22-24, so yeah, I think most people getting married 5 years younger than that will FAIL. I knew many soldiers married at 18-19 who didn’t last because they were too fucking immature when they said their vows.
Somehow this is a concept you truly can not understand.[/quote]
I am not your friends. Somehow this a concept you can not understand.
I have never gone “drinking all night long” in my life and don’t plan to. FYI: I already have a ‘real job’, pay the mortgage on a house I live in, am engaged to be married, with a kid on the way, and I make time for all of the things I want to do in my life.
I moved away from my parents when I was 17 years old, worked full time while in school to pay for an apartment while supporting a brother with personal/clinical problems.
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The average 20 year old is doubtfully ready for all of that unless they are independently wealthy or far more mature for their age than most. [/quote]
Well at least we can agree that the average 20 year old sucks.
Never stated that at all. I was just pointing out how ridiculous it is for you to blame modern marriage problems on age, when the marrying age has hardly changed at all in a century.
[quote]NvrTooLate wrote:
13 years with two kids[/quote]
Doesn’t sound like he gets a lot of sex.[/quote]
Are you trying to be funny? When I post, take it as gospel. Don’t question me. How old are you?[/quote]
No, two kids doesn’t sound like a lot of intercourse. If you said he has six kids then I’d be like “man’s get some vajayjay.” 21 on next Saturday.[/quote]
That’s just a stupid post. How does having two kids equate to less sex?
Come back to this thread when you grow up Chris.[/quote]
I think he thought that because he’s catholic… and catholics don’t believe in contraception.
Am I right?
[/quote]
I said that, because I was joking with OP, OP got it. See he asked if I was joking. I was playing off the fact that I was Catholic, yes. No, we don’t believe in contraception, we believe in God. However, the Catholic Church does recommend contraception, NFP. Not artificial contraception. And, lay persons use both.
[quote]eeu743 wrote:
Jesus Christ somebody doesn’t like mr popular very much
I’m not the “same person” I was when I started college, or even a year ago. I don’t see why I would ever stop learning, and growing, and making myself a better man. [/quote]
According to your suite mate, what you just wrote means you suck. He attacked me first. If he or you can’t handle it coming back, then maybe you should try standing down next time.
The same thing you just wrote is the idea that he attacked me for.
Maybe you don’t know each other as well as you think you do.[/quote]
Stand down from what exactly? I didn’t even say anything to you? He didn’t “attack” you, god. You’re getting bent out of shape about nothing man.
On a side note I do find it interesting that the various comments about how immature mr popular is contain so much mockery and a fair amount of personal insults.
And you suddenly know everything about me… how?[/quote]
When did you become the focus of this thread’s discussion? My response about marrying at or around the age of 20 had nothing to do with you. Why do you think this discussion is all about you?
[quote]
I am not your friends. Somehow this a concept you can not understand.[/quote]
?
I understand it and am thankful for it.
[quote]
I have never gone “drinking all night long” in my life and don’t plan to. FYI: I already have a ‘real job’, pay the mortgage on a house I live in, am engaged to be married, with a kid on the way, and I make time for all of the things I want to do in my life.
I moved away from my parents when I was 17 years old, worked full time while in school to pay for an apartment while supporting a brother with personal/clinical problems.[/quote]
Once again, who cares about you? Why are you telling me all of this?
[quote]
Never stated that at all. I was just pointing out how ridiculous it is for you to blame modern marriage problems on age, when the marrying age has hardly changed at all in a century.[/quote]
[quote]eeu743 wrote:
Jesus Christ somebody doesn’t like mr popular very much
I’m not the “same person” I was when I started college, or even a year ago. I don’t see why I would ever stop learning, and growing, and making myself a better man. [/quote]
According to your suite mate, what you just wrote means you suck. He attacked me first. If he or you can’t handle it coming back, then maybe you should try standing down next time.
The same thing you just wrote is the idea that he attacked me for.
Maybe you don’t know each other as well as you think you do.[/quote]
Stand down from what exactly? I didn’t even say anything to you? He didn’t “attack” you, god. You’re getting bent out of shape about nothing man.
On a side note I do find it interesting that the various comments about how immature mr popular is contain so much mockery and a fair amount of personal insults.[/quote]
If you don’t already have your core principles, goals, and values in place when you’re 21 (the kind that stick way past 30), then I say again: you suck.[/quote]
LMFAO.
Kid, you are 21, and are trying to talk about things like you have actually lived past 21 and are looking back…
How on Earth do you not understand how stupid that is?
Oh yeah, you are 21…[/quote]
I really don’t think they get it. He seems to be responding like a defense mechanism because he is choosing to get married at that same age.
I doubt anyone is going to wait around or care for nine years just to see if his marriage works out.
The whole thing just sounds like either a JOKE, or your girl is doing the old “what is he willing to give up for me test”. Either way, don’t bring it up again ignore that shit. Keep doing what your doing as long as your not fucking up your time with her then you should be cool.
If she pushes the issue you need to sit that ass down and ask why is this an issue and if she can’t come up with a good answer then its a control issue soooooooooo now you have another conversation you have to have.
[quote]eeu743 wrote:
Jesus Christ somebody doesn’t like mr popular very much
I’m not the “same person” I was when I started college, or even a year ago. I don’t see why I would ever stop learning, and growing, and making myself a better man. [/quote]
According to your suite mate, what you just wrote means you suck. He attacked me first. If he or you can’t handle it coming back, then maybe you should try standing down next time.
The same thing you just wrote is the idea that he attacked me for.
Maybe you don’t know each other as well as you think you do.[/quote]
Stand down from what exactly? I didn’t even say anything to you? He didn’t “attack” you, god. You’re getting bent out of shape about nothing man.
On a side note I do find it interesting that the various comments about how immature mr popular is contain so much mockery and a fair amount of personal insults.[/quote]
Are you two going together? [/quote]
To what? We go to the gym together a fair amount. Sometimes we go to the pool together to get some sun. We used to go more places together, like out to get food and stuff, before we were both working a lot.
I really don’t think they get it. He seems to be responding like a defense mechanism because he is choosing to get married at that same age.
I doubt anyone is going to wait around or care for nine years just to see if his marriage works out.[/quote]
I have a different viewpoint from you based on my experience, and you see that as “a defense mechanism”?
You made blanket statements about people in their early 20s being too dumb or immature to have a successful marriage. Wouldn’t you feel the need to chime in if you were me?
What if I said some people are just too black to get married? You’d be all over that crap (like a defense mechanism?), and it makes exactly as much sense as blaming modern divorce rates on age.
You always have somebody there to talk to no matter what. There is always somebody there to hold your hand. Always somebody there to give you a hug when you’re feeling blue. Always somebody beside you when you sleep.
[/quote]
While I understand the sentiment behind it, just realize that this sounded extraordinarily gay.[/quote]
I’ve got to agree with FightinIrish here. I fully understand what you mean, and it is nice to have companionship, but it is almost impossible how gay that comment was.
If you were in a Turkish bathhouse, and a beefy, oiled-up goat herder from Ankara named “Feliz” told you he dropped his rainbow-patterned moustache comb on the shower floor and informed you that you would, in fact, be picking it up…along with his bar of lavender soap…it would still only be about 85% as gay as your comment.
