[quote]mr popular wrote:
There are also plenty of examples of professional bodybuilders who balance bodybuilding and family, in fact Lee Haney married his girlfriend from highschool and raised two kids while winning 8 Mr. Olympias (still together to this day).
Family is there to support and love you, not be some burden, and it’s disturbing that so many people automatically jump to that when the subject gets brought up. Get your minds right. I feel sorry for all of the guys here who think starting a family is like deadly poison to their perfect self-absorbed lives.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
I don’t know one person who at the age of 30 thinks they are exactly the same as they were at 21. You will be married to a completely different person in ten years if you get married that young. If this were the year 1778, then yeah, you would be OLD for marriage at 21 because life expectancy was only 35-40. That term “30 is the new 20” is around because it is the truth both as far as maturity and quality of life.
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So you’re advising guys in their 20s not to get married until they’re in their 30s, because everyone else is more immature now than they used to be?
Most people got married in their early twenties 50 years ago, who cares about the god damn 1700s?
Average marriage age now is only a few years older than it was 50 years ago, yet things seem to be so much worse. I don’t believe that has anything to do with people marrying too young, and everything to do with a screwed up culture (nor does that culture get fixed by everyone waiting to be old enough to have down syndrome babies).
Also, if you are truly a totally different person at 30 than you were when you were 21, then I’m sorry but you just suck. I could see if you had a drug problem or used to be religious or some other traumatic or extremely life-altering thing happened to you, but this should be the minority of people I would hope.
If you don’t already have your core principles, goals, and values in place when you’re 21 (the kind that stick way past 30), then I say again: you suck.[/quote]
This was one really stupid post…but then, it is coming from you.
At 21, most people haven’t even finished college. You are NOT living in the real world in college unless you are old/mature enough to completely be on your own. I am speaking of life experience, maturity, responsibilities and sacrifices.
I didn’t say people need to wait until 30. Most women don’t even stop giggling like little girls and acting grown until the age of 22-24, so yeah, I think most people getting married 5 years younger than that will FAIL. I knew many soldiers married at 18-19 who didn’t last because they were too fucking immature when they said their vows.
Somehow this is a concept you truly can not understand.
But then, it is you…and yes, you suck.
I already knew I needed crayon with any statement I make because guys like you need color and big pictures.
Most guys are still drinking all night long at the age of 21. Let me know how that works at 30 when you have a job, a mortgage, a wife, kids and have little time for friends outside of the marriage.
The average 20 year old is doubtfully ready for all of that unless they are independently wealthy or far more mature for their age than most.
In the end, that couple needs to come to their own terms, but if you think “maturity” equals “the average 20 year old” then you must not get out much.
