Being Married and Still Lifting?

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I’m 28, met my wife when we were both 21, and we got married at 24, and life is pretty awesome. But, I have an insanely awesome and PATIENT wife.

We had our first kid in May of last year and my wife was basically a single mother for a while. I’d leave at 6am to hit the gym, then go straight from there to work, get home around 5, then two nights a week I had grad classes from 6-9, and usually the other nights I had mountains of homework/projects/tests to work on. On days that our newborn would be napping during the hour I was home, I literally wouldn’t see her awake that day.

My wife never once told me to stop working out, mainly because she knew that was my hour to be free from the real world. I did take 2 or 3 months off from the gym after the baby came, but that was because my wife damn near died during delivery and needed all the help she could get. But, once we all got settled, right back to the gym I went.

So yeah dude, being married isn’t an excuse to stop working out.

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[quote]AlexC1 wrote:

[quote]scj119 wrote:

[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]mr popular wrote:
like you’ve ever lived together.[/quote]

I never got this particular piece of advice. Will someone give me a semi-solid reason why living together is a good idea before marriage? Just doesn’t make sense.[/quote]

Would you buy a $50,000 car if they wouldn’t let you test drive it first?[/quote]

Exactly. The only people I’ve known to up and get married without having ever lived together (in my age group anyways) are divorced. Or they’re super religious, don’t believe in divorce, and are living horrible lives now. [/quote]

Statistically, people that live with each before marriage have a higher rate of divorce…

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[quote]AlexC1 wrote:
I’m 28, met my wife when we were both 21, and we got married at 24, and life is pretty awesome. But, I have an insanely awesome and PATIENT wife.

We had our first kid in May of last year and my wife was basically a single mother for a while. I’d leave at 6am to hit the gym, then go straight from there to work, get home around 5, then two nights a week I had grad classes from 6-9, and usually the other nights I had mountains of homework/projects/tests to work on. On days that our newborn would be napping during the hour I was home, I literally wouldn’t see her awake that day.

My wife never once told me to stop working out, mainly because she knew that was my hour to be free from the real world. I did take 2 or 3 months off from the gym after the baby came, but that was because my wife damn near died during delivery and needed all the help she could get. But, once we all got settled, right back to the gym I went.

So yeah dude, being married isn’t an excuse to stop working out.[/quote]

I’m going to make this point again because I am looking at avatars and I don’t see anyone huge yet.

There is a BIG difference between “going to the gym” and actually living the lifestyle of a bodybuilder.

It doesn’t seem like many here do the latter at all and as such, probably shouldn’t speak on it.

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[quote]Edgy wrote:
A friend asked me if my wife had a hard time with me being at the gym so much. I told him that I trained before we were together and will be training long after shes gone.

Girlfriends, Wives, Kids, Friends…all come and go.

But Training stays your constant.

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I don’t agree with that mindset. That doesn’t sound like a recipe for a happy successful family life at all.

Sounds like a good way to end up old, sad and all alone

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^Dude look at the avatar, 433 lbs of solid muscle. Okay, maybe less my mane is kind of heavy. But the bitches don’t be disrespectin my workout schedule and get me all the zebra sammiches I can eat.

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[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]AlexC1 wrote:

[quote]scj119 wrote:

[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]mr popular wrote:
like you’ve ever lived together.[/quote]

I never got this particular piece of advice. Will someone give me a semi-solid reason why living together is a good idea before marriage? Just doesn’t make sense.[/quote]

Would you buy a $50,000 car if they wouldn’t let you test drive it first?[/quote]

Exactly. The only people I’ve known to up and get married without having ever lived together (in my age group anyways) are divorced. Or they’re super religious, don’t believe in divorce, and are living horrible lives now. [/quote]

Statistically, people that live with each before marriage have a higher rate of divorce…[/quote]

You know what they say about statistics. The only divorced couples in my circle of friends are those that didn’t live together first.

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Then please disregard any and all marriage advice I give until I gain another 40 lbs.

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[quote]DickBag wrote:

But i don’t understand how 3 hours a week in the gime is a big deal.

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3 hours a week? Come on bro

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[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]AlexC1 wrote:

[quote]scj119 wrote:

[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]mr popular wrote:
like you’ve ever lived together.[/quote]

I never got this particular piece of advice. Will someone give me a semi-solid reason why living together is a good idea before marriage? Just doesn’t make sense.[/quote]

Would you buy a $50,000 car if they wouldn’t let you test drive it first?[/quote]

Exactly. The only people I’ve known to up and get married without having ever lived together (in my age group anyways) are divorced. Or they’re super religious, don’t believe in divorce, and are living horrible lives now. [/quote]

Statistically, people that live with each before marriage have a higher rate of divorce…[/quote]

Statistics hmmm…

In 2000 the average number of occupants in a car was three
In 2005 the average number of occupants was two
In 2010 the average number of occupants was one and one half

The statistical conclusion is that in 2015 the average number of occupants will be one half and in 2020 every third car will be empty.

Now, back to living together before marriage…

You get to see and experience the most intimate aspects of that person first hand, for realz, without the pretence of arranged meetings and NOT with your game face on.

They get to see you when you are at your worst i.e. first thing in the morning standing in the kitchen, in front of your trusty blender with the worst case of kyphosis ever’ scratching your balls in your T-Nation jocks trying to figure out what supershake blend you will get you to that NEXT LEVEL!

They get to sleep alongside your hairy, bed hogging, snoring arse on a regular basis (provided you’re not assigned to the couch that is!).

They get to hear AND smell your protein farts and listen to you going on and on about training when really she (or he) doesn’t really give a shit! Can your sensitive ego handle the rejection?

There is so much more I cant go on and I cant believe you actually asked that question?

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[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]AlexC1 wrote:

[quote]scj119 wrote:

[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]mr popular wrote:
like you’ve ever lived together.[/quote]

I never got this particular piece of advice. Will someone give me a semi-solid reason why living together is a good idea before marriage? Just doesn’t make sense.[/quote]

Would you buy a $50,000 car if they wouldn’t let you test drive it first?[/quote]

Exactly. The only people I’ve known to up and get married without having ever lived together (in my age group anyways) are divorced. Or they’re super religious, don’t believe in divorce, and are living horrible lives now. [/quote]

Statistically, people that live with each before marriage have a higher rate of divorce…[/quote]

Correlation =/= Causation

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Why would you not be able to lift weights, get the calories in and make good progress while married?

I got married this year, living together since 2,5 years and making progress as I haven’t seen before when I started with training. One of the key factors is that my wife realizes how I love pursuing the road to hugeness. Just get your shit together…

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[quote]AlexC1 wrote:
I’m married and have a kid and I hit the gym at least 5 days a week. [/quote]

I love that avatar. How did you get your kid to float? I wanna try that… ; )

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[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]AlexC1 wrote:
I’m 28, met my wife when we were both 21, and we got married at 24, and life is pretty awesome. But, I have an insanely awesome and PATIENT wife.

We had our first kid in May of last year and my wife was basically a single mother for a while. I’d leave at 6am to hit the gym, then go straight from there to work, get home around 5, then two nights a week I had grad classes from 6-9, and usually the other nights I had mountains of homework/projects/tests to work on. On days that our newborn would be napping during the hour I was home, I literally wouldn’t see her awake that day.

My wife never once told me to stop working out, mainly because she knew that was my hour to be free from the real world. I did take 2 or 3 months off from the gym after the baby came, but that was because my wife damn near died during delivery and needed all the help she could get. But, once we all got settled, right back to the gym I went.

So yeah dude, being married isn’t an excuse to stop working out.[/quote]

I’m going to make this point again because I am looking at avatars and I don’t see anyone huge yet.

There is a BIG difference between “going to the gym” and actually living the lifestyle of a bodybuilder.

It doesn’t seem like many here do the latter at all and as such, probably shouldn’t speak on it.[/quote]

Another Rule passed down from the great and powerful Oz. In charge of the groups and now in charge of who posts in GAL.

Mebbe x should be the one to get a life.

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[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]AlexC1 wrote:
I’m 28, met my wife when we were both 21, and we got married at 24, and life is pretty awesome. But, I have an insanely awesome and PATIENT wife.

We had our first kid in May of last year and my wife was basically a single mother for a while. I’d leave at 6am to hit the gym, then go straight from there to work, get home around 5, then two nights a week I had grad classes from 6-9, and usually the other nights I had mountains of homework/projects/tests to work on. On days that our newborn would be napping during the hour I was home, I literally wouldn’t see her awake that day.

My wife never once told me to stop working out, mainly because she knew that was my hour to be free from the real world. I did take 2 or 3 months off from the gym after the baby came, but that was because my wife damn near died during delivery and needed all the help she could get. But, once we all got settled, right back to the gym I went.

So yeah dude, being married isn’t an excuse to stop working out.[/quote]

I’m going to make this point again because I am looking at avatars and I don’t see anyone huge yet.

There is a BIG difference between “going to the gym” and actually living the lifestyle of a bodybuilder.

It doesn’t seem like many here do the latter at all and as such, probably shouldn’t speak on it.[/quote]

Out of curiosity, what kind of a time commitment is it for you?

Personally I don’t see how it would need to be any different than any other serious activity done while working a full time job. For example, going back to school, being a serious artist, getting a pilot’s license and flying regularly, etc.

As long as the relationship can take it. A marriage or relationship doesn’t have to mean spend every minute of every non-working hour together. Some husbands/wives expect to spend every free moment together and in that case I guess not everyone is compatible with certain lifestyles.

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[quote]RTJenforcer wrote:

[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]AlexC1 wrote:

[quote]scj119 wrote:

[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]mr popular wrote:
like you’ve ever lived together.[/quote]

I never got this particular piece of advice. Will someone give me a semi-solid reason why living together is a good idea before marriage? Just doesn’t make sense.[/quote]

Would you buy a $50,000 car if they wouldn’t let you test drive it first?[/quote]

Exactly. The only people I’ve known to up and get married without having ever lived together (in my age group anyways) are divorced. Or they’re super religious, don’t believe in divorce, and are living horrible lives now. [/quote]

Statistically, people that live with each before marriage have a higher rate of divorce…[/quote]

Correlation =/= Causation
[/quote]

Indeed. A lot of people who are living together only get married because they are trying to fix something. A lot of other people who have lived together are not religious enough to be against divorce.

That said, divorce is GOOD. People who don’t want to be together should not be together.

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[quote]Professor X wrote:

I’m going to make this point again because I am looking at avatars and I don’t see anyone huge yet.[/quote]

Well, in my avatar “I” am huge. lol

True, but WTF does that have to do with the OP’s issue?

Oh really? Time away is time away whether the OP joins a Quilting Group, is a bodybuilder, or just spends a few hours at the gym on a treadmill.

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[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]AlexC1 wrote:
I’m 28, met my wife when we were both 21, and we got married at 24, and life is pretty awesome. But, I have an insanely awesome and PATIENT wife.

We had our first kid in May of last year and my wife was basically a single mother for a while. I’d leave at 6am to hit the gym, then go straight from there to work, get home around 5, then two nights a week I had grad classes from 6-9, and usually the other nights I had mountains of homework/projects/tests to work on. On days that our newborn would be napping during the hour I was home, I literally wouldn’t see her awake that day.

My wife never once told me to stop working out, mainly because she knew that was my hour to be free from the real world. I did take 2 or 3 months off from the gym after the baby came, but that was because my wife damn near died during delivery and needed all the help she could get. But, once we all got settled, right back to the gym I went.

So yeah dude, being married isn’t an excuse to stop working out.[/quote]

I’m going to make this point again because I am looking at avatars and I don’t see anyone huge yet.

There is a BIG difference between “going to the gym” and actually living the lifestyle of a bodybuilder.

It doesn’t seem like many here do the latter at all and as such, probably shouldn’t speak on it.[/quote]

And since you admittedly aren’t married, perhaps you don’t qualify to give the OP advice either.

Bitch.

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[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

[quote]Professor X wrote:

I’m going to make this point again because I am looking at avatars and I don’t see anyone huge yet.[/quote]

Well, in my avatar “I” am huge. lol

True, but WTF does that have to do with the OP’s issue?

Oh really? Time away is time away whether the OP joins a Quilting Group, is a bodybuilder, or just spends a few hours at the gym on a treadmill.

[/quote]

The Op also stated he is looking at it from the perspective of a serious bodybuilder when I asked him.

Yes, there is a very large difference between someone who just goes to the gym and someone whose entire life revolves around eating, lifting, recovering, and making time for those things daily without fail.

The average weekend warrior is NOT on the same level no matter how much they cry about their effort.

Someone serious has their day scheduled out days ahead of time. Yes, that takes a tad more understanding from a wife than some guy who simply leaves the house for an hour a day with little further issues.

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[quote]Testy1 wrote:

[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]AlexC1 wrote:

[quote]scj119 wrote:

[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]mr popular wrote:
like you’ve ever lived together.[/quote]

I never got this particular piece of advice. Will someone give me a semi-solid reason why living together is a good idea before marriage? Just doesn’t make sense.[/quote]

Would you buy a $50,000 car if they wouldn’t let you test drive it first?[/quote]

Exactly. The only people I’ve known to up and get married without having ever lived together (in my age group anyways) are divorced. Or they’re super religious, don’t believe in divorce, and are living horrible lives now. [/quote]

Statistically, people that live with each before marriage have a higher rate of divorce…[/quote]

You know what they say about statistics. The only divorced couples in my circle of friends are those that didn’t live together first.
[/quote]

Neil Bennett found at Yale University that couples that live together have a higher rate of separation and divorce, 80% more likely. National Council on Family Relations showed that marriages were less satisfying when cohabitation occurred then when they wait until after marriage. Dr. Khan and London found that those women that have sex before marriage are 60% more likely to be divorced. As well affairs are higher. Also by “test driving” you are getting married based on convenience or compatibility, not basing it on commitment.

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[quote]worzel wrote:

[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]AlexC1 wrote:

[quote]scj119 wrote:

[quote]Brother Chris wrote:

[quote]mr popular wrote:
like you’ve ever lived together.[/quote]

I never got this particular piece of advice. Will someone give me a semi-solid reason why living together is a good idea before marriage? Just doesn’t make sense.[/quote]

Would you buy a $50,000 car if they wouldn’t let you test drive it first?[/quote]

Exactly. The only people I’ve known to up and get married without having ever lived together (in my age group anyways) are divorced. Or they’re super religious, don’t believe in divorce, and are living horrible lives now. [/quote]

Statistically, people that live with each before marriage have a higher rate of divorce…[/quote]

Statistics hmmm…

In 2000 the average number of occupants in a car was three
In 2005 the average number of occupants was two
In 2010 the average number of occupants was one and one half

The statistical conclusion is that in 2015 the average number of occupants will be one half and in 2020 every third car will be empty.

Now, back to living together before marriage…

You get to see and experience the most intimate aspects of that person first hand, for realz, without the pretence of arranged meetings and NOT with your game face on.

They get to see you when you are at your worst i.e. first thing in the morning standing in the kitchen, in front of your trusty blender with the worst case of kyphosis ever’ scratching your balls in your T-Nation jocks trying to figure out what supershake blend you will get you to that NEXT LEVEL!

They get to sleep alongside your hairy, bed hogging, snoring arse on a regular basis (provided you’re not assigned to the couch that is!).

They get to hear AND smell your protein farts and listen to you going on and on about training when really she (or he) doesn’t really give a shit! Can your sensitive ego handle the rejection?

There is so much more I cant go on and I cant believe you actually asked that question?
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I don’t really have an ego. However, the statistics are not in favor for people that cohabit.