What the fuck is this thread? I’ve been with my wife for over 6 years now. Initially it was a turn on for her, then gradually when she was feeling needy, she would occassionally try to make me feel guilty about leaving to hit the gym.
It was at this point, that I very seriously told her that this is something that wasn’t even up for discussion, something that I love and that she simply needed to accept. Since then she has never again tried to guilt me or prevent me from doing what I love.
[quote]serpiente-6509 wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]JLD2k3 wrote:
[quote]therajraj wrote:
Get up early and lift before work. My Chiropractor was telling me he was having the same sort of issue once he settled down. When he started lifting in the morning it mostly went away.
Oh and don’t get married at 22, you’ll regret it. [/quote]
I concur with all of this post. I didn’t start lifting until I had been married a year, but I decided to do it in the morning before work because it was the only time I knew I would not have a scheduling conflict.
My wife is a late sleeper and me getting ready for work used to wake her up earlier than she cared for, so now I just bolt for the gym and she’s up and almost ready for work by the time I’m back, so she sleeps better and I hit the gym. Perfect system.
I was engaged at 22…thankfully I didn’t go through with it. Now I’m married to the girl of my dreams.[/quote]
Are we all simply discussing “going to the gym” or the actual lifestyle of a SERIOUS lifter? Anyone can simply “go to the gym”. It is more of an effort to live the whole lifestyle of someone who plans on looking way different in 5 years.[/quote]
I’m coming from the view point of a serious lifter[/quote]
I don’t think everyone else is. I’ve seen some of the pics here and very few look like serious lifters or live that lifestyle. Be careful whose advice you listen to because of that.
It takes full support of your spouse if you plan to do this long term. It will disrupt some outings, some plans and you will need her for support. She pretty much has to be down with it for it to work AT ALL.
[quote]NvrTooLate wrote:
13 years with two kids[/quote]
Doesn’t sound like he gets a lot of sex.
[quote]mr popular wrote:
like you’ve ever lived together.[/quote]
I never got this particular piece of advice. Will someone give me a semi-solid reason why living together is a good idea before marriage? Just doesn’t make sense.
[quote]Grneyes wrote:
We wouldn’t have met if I didn’t want to work out and improve myself. The fact that I’ve done most of my improving since meeting you and especially since moving in with you is testament to how good you are for me. 
[/quote]
I just threw up a little bit in my mouth. Kidding, that is sweet and corny.
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]mr popular wrote:
like you’ve ever lived together.[/quote]
I never got this particular piece of advice. Will someone give me a semi-solid reason why living together is a good idea before marriage? Just doesn’t make sense.[/quote]
Would you buy a $50,000 car if they wouldn’t let you test drive it first?
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]Im_New_Feed_Me wrote:
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
Why the hell would any grown man with ballz marry some girl who forced him to quit what he loved to do?
Mind you, I do see this very often. I know guys who ride (motorcycle) seriously who suddenly give it up because their girl told them too. I see that as a loss of your fucking manhood.
I would never marry someone who made me stop doing something I enjoyed that much just to be with them. Hell, what is she giving up that she loves to do everyday?
You are setting yourself up for some real problems with that marriage if you lose yourself just to be with someone else.
We all know some compromises need to be made, but anyone truly ceasing to be who they were before marriage likely won’t be married that long.
Yeah, most guys probably do quit lifting when they get married. That is why most married guys gain upwards of 20lbs of pure fat and lose any muscle they had within the first two years of marriage.
Let her run your life in the beginning and you will end that life with her still in the driver’s seat.
But I guess some guys like that.
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You never answered my question, does the doctor have a fiance?[/quote]
That’s funny, as I was reading his post, I wondered the same thing…[/quote]
Why is my personal life the concern of any of you to this degree?
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Because about a month ago you said something on the lines of Professor X’s fiance. And, I was just curious if you’d have more time to play on T-Nation since…you know the wimmenz will be making all that fucking food you eat. And, everyone deserves to be happy ;).
[quote]serpiente-6509 wrote:
[quote]Hallowed wrote:
OP I’m confused WHO is saying you can’t lift and be married? is SHE saying that? If SHE is saying that then yes you have a problem.[/quote]
Okay to clear up some MAJOR misconceptions here which I should have made in the opening. Sorry but the first post was written when I was borderline Pissed off.
She supports my lifting, and has helped me a lot in the past with it. She herself used to be a competitive swimmer until she fucked up her rotators pretty bad. Right now she is still an active runner though.
As to WHO is saying the whole: You cannot lift and be married? That is coming from her best friend, my father, and her parents (who think I am a bad guy for her).
I’m going to continue lifting no matter what. Main thing I was going for is get feedback from people who are
married and kinda see how they still keep their hobbies and accommodate one another.
So really guys, and ladies who replied, thanks for the ass whipping and I should have clarified sooner. [/quote]
So no one else noticed that it isn’t his wife saying it?
Dude, if she supports it and you like doing it… I mean what is even the question? This is ludicrous.
If you guys don’t even live together I’m confused what it even matters what you do with your spare time… I mean if you’re by yourself what’s the difference between spending an hour loafing around the house or using that hour to lift?
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]Im_New_Feed_Me wrote:
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
Why the hell would any grown man with ballz marry some girl who forced him to quit what he loved to do?
Mind you, I do see this very often. I know guys who ride (motorcycle) seriously who suddenly give it up because their girl told them too. I see that as a loss of your fucking manhood.
I would never marry someone who made me stop doing something I enjoyed that much just to be with them. Hell, what is she giving up that she loves to do everyday?
You are setting yourself up for some real problems with that marriage if you lose yourself just to be with someone else.
We all know some compromises need to be made, but anyone truly ceasing to be who they were before marriage likely won’t be married that long.
Yeah, most guys probably do quit lifting when they get married. That is why most married guys gain upwards of 20lbs of pure fat and lose any muscle they had within the first two years of marriage.
Let her run your life in the beginning and you will end that life with her still in the driver’s seat.
But I guess some guys like that.
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You never answered my question, does the doctor have a fiance?[/quote]
That’s funny, as I was reading his post, I wondered the same thing…[/quote]
Why is my personal life the concern of any of you to this degree?
[/quote]
Because about a month ago you said something on the lines of Professor X’s fiance. And, I was just curious if you’d have more time to play on T-Nation since…you know the wimmenz will be making all that fucking food you eat. And, everyone deserves to be happy ;).[/quote]
I’m not planned to get married any time soon. I have way too much going on right now.
[quote]WestCoast7 wrote:
Why are you getting married in the first place? Your 22.[/quote]
This is what I was wondering; anyways you control your schedule not her- if this is not the case you have more issues than not being able to work out.
[quote]scj119 wrote:
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]mr popular wrote:
like you’ve ever lived together.[/quote]
I never got this particular piece of advice. Will someone give me a semi-solid reason why living together is a good idea before marriage? Just doesn’t make sense.[/quote]
Would you buy a $50,000 car if they wouldn’t let you test drive it first?[/quote]
Exactly. The only people I’ve known to up and get married without having ever lived together (in my age group anyways) are divorced. Or they’re super religious, don’t believe in divorce, and are living horrible lives now.
A friend asked me if my wife had a hard time with me being at the gym so much. I told him that I trained before we were together and will be training long after shes gone.
Girlfriends, Wives, Kids, Friends…all come and go.
But Training stays your constant.
“Stay hungry and keep after it.”
(quoted from Schwarzenegger first movie ‘Stay Hungry’)
[quote]serpiente-6509 wrote:
I’m going to continue lifting no matter what. Main thing I was going for is get feedback from people who are
married and kinda see how they still keep their hobbies and accommodate one another.
So really guys, and ladies who replied, thanks for the ass whipping and I should have clarified sooner. [/quote]
I’ve been married for a few years now. My wife and I have separate hobbies and like it that way. A lot of times she goes her way and I go mine. Then we spend time together talking about what we did.
Beats the heck out of too much time together with nothing to talk about because we were both there when what ever was done was being done.
Women appreciate good hip/lock-out strength.
Dave Tate is married and has 2 kids and still finds time to lift twice a day, he even bring his children to train. His marriage didn’t stopped him from lifting, so I don’t see how the OP’s would act as a no-lifting factor either.
[quote]DeltaOne wrote:
Dave Tate is married and has 2 kids and still finds time to lift twice a day, he even bring his children to train. His marriage didn’t stopped him from lifting, so I don’t see how the OP’s would stop him[/quote]
Let’s be more clear. If your sig other is supportive of you, it will only make your pursuit more enjoyable…and that goes for lifting, med school, college, tough jobs, kids and everything else. If your wife does not support you…dump the bitch.
[quote]barbarianlifter wrote:
[quote]WestCoast7 wrote:
Why are you getting married in the first place? Your 22.[/quote]
This is what I was wondering; anyways you control your schedule not her- if this is not the case you have more issues than not being able to work out. [/quote]
I don’t know one person who at the age of 30 thinks they are exactly the same as they were at 21. You will be married to a completely different person in ten years if you get married that young. If this were the year 1778, then yeah, you would be OLD for marriage at 21 because life expectancy was only 35-40. That term “30 is the new 20” is around because it is the truth both as far as maturity and quality of life.
I can say without a doubt that my life was too hectic 10 years ago to be married. I had little to no money, was still in school and had many life decisions to make…some that my girl at the time didn’t want me to take part in (the military) even though that decision changed my life for the better on all fronts.
Had I listened to her, I would be in a completely different place right now.
Grow up before you get married. The one or two guys on here claiming their marriage is heaven after getting married at 20 are RARE.
To OP,
Meet a nice girl that likes to exercise. End of problem.
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
By the powers vested in me by the auspices of T-Nation, I hereby strip you of your membership and posting privileges here at T-Nation, effective immediately.
Clean out your locker and get the fuck out. Don’t forget your balls.[/quote]
Why don’t you add some pants to that vest
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]Im_New_Feed_Me wrote:
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
Why the hell would any grown man with ballz marry some girl who forced him to quit what he loved to do?
Mind you, I do see this very often. I know guys who ride (motorcycle) seriously who suddenly give it up because their girl told them too. I see that as a loss of your fucking manhood.
I would never marry someone who made me stop doing something I enjoyed that much just to be with them. Hell, what is she giving up that she loves to do everyday?
You are setting yourself up for some real problems with that marriage if you lose yourself just to be with someone else.
We all know some compromises need to be made, but anyone truly ceasing to be who they were before marriage likely won’t be married that long.
Yeah, most guys probably do quit lifting when they get married. That is why most married guys gain upwards of 20lbs of pure fat and lose any muscle they had within the first two years of marriage.
Let her run your life in the beginning and you will end that life with her still in the driver’s seat.
But I guess some guys like that.
[/quote]
You never answered my question, does the doctor have a fiance?[/quote]
That’s funny, as I was reading his post, I wondered the same thing…[/quote]
Why is my personal life the concern of any of you to this degree?
[/quote]
Because about a month ago you said something on the lines of Professor X’s fiance. And, I was just curious if you’d have more time to play on T-Nation since…you know the wimmenz will be making all that fucking food you eat. And, everyone deserves to be happy ;).[/quote]
I’m not planned to get married any time soon. I have way too much going on right now.[/quote]
Long term fiance…check.
[quote]scj119 wrote:
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]mr popular wrote:
like you’ve ever lived together.[/quote]
I never got this particular piece of advice. Will someone give me a semi-solid reason why living together is a good idea before marriage? Just doesn’t make sense.[/quote]
Would you buy a $50,000 car if they wouldn’t let you test drive it first?[/quote]
Are you really equating a person to a car?