Get up early and lift before work. My Chiropractor was telling me he was having the same sort of issue once he settled down. When he started lifting in the morning it mostly went away.
Oh and don’t get married at 22, you’ll regret it.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
Why the hell would any grown man with ballz marry some girl who forced him to quit what he loved to do?
Mind you, I do see this very often. I know guys who ride (motorcycle) seriously who suddenly give it up because their girl told them too. I see that as a loss of your fucking manhood.
I would never marry someone who made me stop doing something I enjoyed that much just to be with them. Hell, what is she giving up that she loves to do everyday?
You are setting yourself up for some real problems with that marriage if you lose yourself just to be with someone else.
We all know some compromises need to be made, but anyone truly ceasing to be who they were before marriage likely won’t be married that long.
Yeah, most guys probably do quit lifting when they get married. That is why most married guys gain upwards of 20lbs of pure fat and lose any muscle they had within the first two years of marriage.
Let her run your life in the beginning and you will end that life with her still in the driver’s seat.
But I guess some guys like that.
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I came into this thread thinking “Prof is going to tear this dude a new asshole” and wasn’t disappointed.
This x1000. Marriage should enhance your life, not detract from it.
If you give up everything you enjoy for your marriage, it won’t last.
I mean, my god, you’re not asking to have sex with other women or throw orgy parties in your home. You just enjoy lifting. That’s so benign. If she can’t handle a “working out” hobby, what other hobbies won’t she be able to handle?
Her idea of marriage sounds like hell to me. Yes, married people need to make some sacrifices but that means BOTH partners, not just the one with the penis. Her sacrfice could be accepting that you’re going to take an hour or so a day to go to the gym.
Being forced to give up everything you enjoy in a marriage is NOT sacrifice, it’s abuse.
OP I’m confused WHO is saying you can’t lift and be married? is SHE saying that? If SHE is saying that then yes you have a problem.
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
Why the hell would any grown man with ballz marry some girl who forced him to quit what he loved to do?
Mind you, I do see this very often. I know guys who ride (motorcycle) seriously who suddenly give it up because their girl told them too. I see that as a loss of your fucking manhood.
I would never marry someone who made me stop doing something I enjoyed that much just to be with them. Hell, what is she giving up that she loves to do everyday?
You are setting yourself up for some real problems with that marriage if you lose yourself just to be with someone else.
We all know some compromises need to be made, but anyone truly ceasing to be who they were before marriage likely won’t be married that long.
Yeah, most guys probably do quit lifting when they get married. That is why most married guys gain upwards of 20lbs of pure fat and lose any muscle they had within the first two years of marriage.
Let her run your life in the beginning and you will end that life with her still in the driver’s seat.
But I guess some guys like that.
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You never answered my question, does the doctor have a fiance?[/quote]
That’s funny, as I was reading his post, I wondered the same thing…
A good friend of mine did the opposite. To his fiance he said: “Hey honey, I like to work out for at least 2 to 3 hours a day and have a lot of sex (at least once a day). If I can’t do those things, we can’t get married”
He’s been happily married for the past 13 years with two kids, works out like a fiend and gets laid regularly.
[quote]NvrTooLate wrote:
A good friend of mine did the opposite. To his fiance he said: “Hey honey, I like to work out for at least 2 to 3 hours a day and have a lot of sex (at least once a day). If I can’t do those things, we can’t get married”
He’s been happily married for the past 13 years with two kids, works out like a fiend and gets laid regularly.[/quote]
Im my opinion, this is what SHOULD be done BEFORE you get engaged.
This is what Greeny and I discussed when we were talking about our future, since it was a NEED and important to my life.
Another advantage is that she also likes (usually) to work out.
I’m more concerned by the fact that you two have been separated by an ocean for such an amount of time and it doesn’t sound like you’ve actually been with each other (in person) for that long. Nor does it sound like you’ve ever lived together.
I lived with my current fiance for 4 years before deciding to marry her. I haven’t ever been “too busy for the gym” because of her unless it was our anniversary or something. Does she occasionally complain about me going to the gym every day? Yes. Do I go anyway? Yes. Does she, deep down inside, secretly appreciate that I have balls enough to tell her no? Yes.
I would echo another poster in this thread that said you sound like an immature person in a lot of ways.
Why are you getting married in the first place? Your 22.
I wouldn’t date a girl who didn’t like to workout or be athletic, much less marry her…She HAS TO BE ATHLETIC! lol
[quote]overstand wrote:
She wants you to look like shit so she doesnt feel bad about the 30 pounds she plans on gaining as soon as you say “I do”. [/quote]
Yup. Chris Shugart wrote something about saboteurs who get in your way because as you improve, they begin to feel bad about themselves…
[quote]therajraj wrote:
Get up early and lift before work. My Chiropractor was telling me he was having the same sort of issue once he settled down. When he started lifting in the morning it mostly went away.
Oh and don’t get married at 22, you’ll regret it. [/quote]
I don’t regret it one bit. Wait, I was 23. And now I’m almost 42. No regrets.
But, quitting lifting after getting married? This is ridiculous. Actually, if she is making any demands, it should be a huge red flag. Marriage, to be successful, has to be a give and take. If you’re both reasonable people, there’s no reason compromises can’t be made by both to accomodate you both.
Maybe we’re not getting the whole story here, OP? Like your lifting buddy is really your smoking hot ex that you dated all through HS and lost your virginity to and you lift for 3 hours every night?
DB
[quote]therajraj wrote:
Get up early and lift before work. My Chiropractor was telling me he was having the same sort of issue once he settled down. When he started lifting in the morning it mostly went away.
Oh and don’t get married at 22, you’ll regret it. [/quote]
I concur with all of this post. I didn’t start lifting until I had been married a year, but I decided to do it in the morning before work because it was the only time I knew I would not have a scheduling conflict.
My wife is a late sleeper and me getting ready for work used to wake her up earlier than she cared for, so now I just bolt for the gym and she’s up and almost ready for work by the time I’m back, so she sleeps better and I hit the gym. Perfect system.
I was engaged at 22…thankfully I didn’t go through with it. Now I’m married to the girl of my dreams.
[quote]dollarbill44 wrote:
[quote]therajraj wrote:
Get up early and lift before work. My Chiropractor was telling me he was having the same sort of issue once he settled down. When he started lifting in the morning it mostly went away.
Oh and don’t get married at 22, you’ll regret it. [/quote]
I don’t regret it one bit. Wait, I was 23. And now I’m almost 42. No regrets.
DB[/quote]
And my parents had an arranged marriage in their early 20’s and have been married for over 30 years. Doesn’t mean I would recommend arranged marriages. Not to derail this thread, but MOST people shouldn’t get married that young IMO.
[quote]imhungry wrote:
[quote]NvrTooLate wrote:
A good friend of mine did the opposite. To his fiance he said: “Hey honey, I like to work out for at least 2 to 3 hours a day and have a lot of sex (at least once a day). If I can’t do those things, we can’t get married”
He’s been happily married for the past 13 years with two kids, works out like a fiend and gets laid regularly.[/quote]
Im my opinion, this is what SHOULD be done BEFORE you get engaged.
This is what Greeny and I discussed when we were talking about our future, since it was a NEED and important to my life.
Another advantage is that she also likes (usually) to work out. [/quote]
We wouldn’t have met if I didn’t want to work out and improve myself. The fact that I’ve done most of my improving since meeting you and especially since moving in with you is testament to how good you are for me. 
I don’t understand the “marriage = no lifting” thing. I mean, there are women on here with multiple kids, a husband, a job, and still have time to lift AND compete. Why can’t you, a man, be married, have a job, and lift? I could understand if she wanted you to maybe cut back to 5 days of lifting instead of 7, so you could have full days together, but not quitting it altogether.
[quote]mr popular wrote:
I haven’t ever been “too busy for the gym” because of her unless it was our anniversary or something. Does she occasionally complain about me going to the gym every day? Yes. Do I go anyway? Yes. Does she, deep down inside, secretly appreciate that I have balls enough to tell her no? Yes.[/quote]
This. Try adding 3 kids to the mix, and a job that covers 4 time zones of which my ‘working day’ ends first but the BBerry goes off for another 4 hours.
My wife, kids, family, friends, and coworkers know that I have 2 immutable hours every day set aside to get me to the gym, workout, and get back. Period. Life/work things pop up enough that I don’t have to schedule a day off because over a two week period, I’m likely to have to take a day off for something.
Sounds like OP is looking for an excuse or someone else to blame to stop lifting.
[quote]Hallowed wrote:
OP I’m confused WHO is saying you can’t lift and be married? is SHE saying that? If SHE is saying that then yes you have a problem.[/quote]
Okay to clear up some MAJOR misconceptions here which I should have made in the opening. Sorry but the first post was written when I was borderline Pissed off.
She supports my lifting, and has helped me a lot in the past with it. She herself used to be a competitive swimmer until she fucked up her rotators pretty bad. Right now she is still an active runner though.
As to WHO is saying the whole: You cannot lift and be married? That is coming from her best friend, my father, and her parents (who think I am a bad guy for her).
I’m going to continue lifting no matter what. Main thing I was going for is get feedback from people who are
married and kinda see how they still keep their hobbies and accommodate one another.
So really guys, and ladies who replied, thanks for the ass whipping and I should have clarified sooner.
[quote]Im_New_Feed_Me wrote:
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
Why the hell would any grown man with ballz marry some girl who forced him to quit what he loved to do?
Mind you, I do see this very often. I know guys who ride (motorcycle) seriously who suddenly give it up because their girl told them too. I see that as a loss of your fucking manhood.
I would never marry someone who made me stop doing something I enjoyed that much just to be with them. Hell, what is she giving up that she loves to do everyday?
You are setting yourself up for some real problems with that marriage if you lose yourself just to be with someone else.
We all know some compromises need to be made, but anyone truly ceasing to be who they were before marriage likely won’t be married that long.
Yeah, most guys probably do quit lifting when they get married. That is why most married guys gain upwards of 20lbs of pure fat and lose any muscle they had within the first two years of marriage.
Let her run your life in the beginning and you will end that life with her still in the driver’s seat.
But I guess some guys like that.
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You never answered my question, does the doctor have a fiance?[/quote]
That’s funny, as I was reading his post, I wondered the same thing…[/quote]
Why is my personal life the concern of any of you to this degree?
[quote]JLD2k3 wrote:
[quote]therajraj wrote:
Get up early and lift before work. My Chiropractor was telling me he was having the same sort of issue once he settled down. When he started lifting in the morning it mostly went away.
Oh and don’t get married at 22, you’ll regret it. [/quote]
I concur with all of this post. I didn’t start lifting until I had been married a year, but I decided to do it in the morning before work because it was the only time I knew I would not have a scheduling conflict.
My wife is a late sleeper and me getting ready for work used to wake her up earlier than she cared for, so now I just bolt for the gym and she’s up and almost ready for work by the time I’m back, so she sleeps better and I hit the gym. Perfect system.
I was engaged at 22…thankfully I didn’t go through with it. Now I’m married to the girl of my dreams.[/quote]
Are we all simply discussing “going to the gym” or the actual lifestyle of a SERIOUS lifter? Anyone can simply “go to the gym”. It is more of an effort to live the whole lifestyle of someone who plans on looking way different in 5 years.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]JLD2k3 wrote:
[quote]therajraj wrote:
Get up early and lift before work. My Chiropractor was telling me he was having the same sort of issue once he settled down. When he started lifting in the morning it mostly went away.
Oh and don’t get married at 22, you’ll regret it. [/quote]
I concur with all of this post. I didn’t start lifting until I had been married a year, but I decided to do it in the morning before work because it was the only time I knew I would not have a scheduling conflict.
My wife is a late sleeper and me getting ready for work used to wake her up earlier than she cared for, so now I just bolt for the gym and she’s up and almost ready for work by the time I’m back, so she sleeps better and I hit the gym. Perfect system.
I was engaged at 22…thankfully I didn’t go through with it. Now I’m married to the girl of my dreams.[/quote]
Are we all simply discussing “going to the gym” or the actual lifestyle of a SERIOUS lifter? Anyone can simply “go to the gym”. It is more of an effort to live the whole lifestyle of someone who plans on looking way different in 5 years.[/quote]
I’m coming from the view point of a serious lifter